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Edging, also sometimes termed “peaking” is a technique whereby a person masturbates until they are at the very pinnacle of arousal where just a moment or two more of stimulation will cause them to reach the point of no return and start to climax. Edging, according to American sex expert, Dr. Barbara Keesling’s book Making Love Better Than Ever After 40 (Hunter House Books. Alameda, CA: 1998) creates wave-like patterns which triggers the release of the pleasure hormones in the brain called endorphins.

How to Edge

Masturbate until you reach the moment where you know you must stop immediately to avoid climaxing. That point is known as the “edge” which does definitely have an edgy feel to it, then stop what you're doing. For males, doing a proper edge most often results in the production of pre-cum welling up from the penis. Edges are more interesting when you do several consecutively rather than stopping at just one. When doing multiple edges, after the first one, wait for at least a minute to allow the need to orgasm to recede slightly before starting the next one. With each consecutive edge, try to wait a tiny bit longer after a preceding edge before beginning to stimulate yourself to another.

Benefits of Learning to Edge

Learning to edge and doing edges has many uses for the submissive. For males especially, using the edging technique and making yourself wait before allowing yourself climax helps lengthen the amount of time a guy can receive stimulation and put off that lovely moment just before you begin to ejaculate for as much as 20 minutes or longer. One reward is being able to have intercourse with a female partner longer before having an orgasm. It often takes women considerably longer than a man to reach climax and so part of being a considerate lover means that men must learn to put off that moment of inevitability so that their partner is also satisfied.

In addition, learning to edge for both men and women has its own rewards even for wanking. Orgasms after doing a series of edges are often much more intense and powerful than normally experienced from masturbating in the more usual way and just getting yourself off at the end.

Edges and the Submissive

Submissive women and men should learn how to edge since both male and female dominants often require us to do them, especially in long distance, D/s relationships. In face to face relationships, the dominant often provides the stimulation himself or herself as edging is one of the most effective means a dominant can use to sexually tease his or her submissive. Teasing is one reason why edging is such a popular technique for use in conjunction with orgasm control and denial play.

A few personal favorites, when it comes to being required to do edges by past Mistresses, methods that really got me hot and bothered include;

• Being made to do multiple edges at one sitting (.eg., five or more consecutively with brief breaks in between).
• Being made to do multiple edges over the course of a day after waking in the morning and before bed. (i.e., being told to accomplish a specific number of edges during the day, told to do an edge every two hours or being told to do one or more edges at specific times of day).
• Being instructed to edge at odd times during the day with my Mistress delivering a command by text message to my phone to stop whatever I am doing and go somewhere with the privacy to perform one or more edges before going about what I happened to be doing.
• Being told I have to masturbate for a specific amount of time before I am allowed to edge (e.g., 5 minutes, 10 minutes, etc).
• Being told to edge in specific or unusual places and spaces such as in a chair, on the toilet, in the restroom at work or other public place, outdoors in a semi-private setting, in the bath or shower, standing up, squatting down, while kneeling, etc.

Yes, edges are an important technique for just about every submissive to learn to master. As is true of many things, practice makes perfect. At first you might find yourself going a bit too far and then climaxing before you intended. But with more experience, you become more attuned to what is happening with your body during the arousal phase, and will be able to creep closer and closer to the edge of orgasm without falling over until you are ready or have permission from your dominant.

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