hoosakitty

i saw a posting about what a true Dom is, and like the person below, it annoyed me just a little...it was incomplete...so i decided to share what she wrote:

I keep seeing that post flying around, the one that says "A True Dom has a firm mind, a firm hand, a firm gaze, a firm grip and a soft heart." And every time I see it, it annoys me. I’m not sure why I find it so irritating. I thought it was the ‘soft heart’ bit. But perhaps it’s the ‘true Dom’ part. Like all the ones who don’t fit that description are false?
So tonight I was thinking about what I look for in a Dom. I suppose I must have my own definition of ‘true Dom’ because I’m very particular about who I’ll play with. But I think I’ll call them good Doms.
A good Dom should be passionate.
A good Dom should know how to listen… and be able to hear.
A good Dom should be intuitive.
A good Dom should have a long memory.
A good Dom should have a sense of timing.
A good Dom should be fearless.
A good Dom should have self-control.
A good Dom should be cunning.
A good Dom should have physical strength, and the ability to control it.
A good Dom should have self awareness.
A good Dom should have a strong moral code.
A good Dom should understand his superiority; but
A good Dom should be humble.
Ok… so not a very catchy list. And I’ve missed a lot out. Like a growly voice, or (my personal favourite) long hair. And maybe the qualities I look for are neatly summarized in that catchy list other people seem to love so much. But I’ve always been afraid of trying to overly simplify things. What if we forget some vital ingredient?
Really, the best Dom would be omnipotent. But failing that, I’ll take the next best thing.

~The Art of Babalon~ from tumblr

have to say...i like her list better