Something for your Master
Your master(partner) did soomething varry wrong when he punished you. Not that he punished you, but he let his anger get in the way. he fogot or didn't know SAFE, SANE, CONSENTULE. every thing done folows these three things. If you put anger into the mix than it is never and I meen never safe and that includes punishment. The drowing of blood, and the bruising for a vary long time is an indicater. Unless you bruise varry easly it shood not last more than several hrs to a varry few days, but nothing that shood make a problem with you vanila life. He needs to step back and take stock in what he is going to do before he punishis you again, and you will do somthing again that will require pnishment, weather bay accedent or on purpuse, you will. But he needs to not let anger into the mix. Anger is never to be part of play, or disaplin, or punishment when that happens the Master isn't thinking he is reacting, and when doing anything that can harm a slave you need to be thinking. A Master always keeps his slaves safty first, everything else second, and that includes hes and the slaves pleasher, and pain. Once is a accedent twice is abuse. He may not have ment it and let himself go to far or he got away from him self,that is why once is a accedent. Keep it safe, and sane, and consentual and even the puishment will be pleasher to both of you.
Safe, Sane and Consensual
I have to disagree with you, allalone46, for a number of reasons. First, your statement that “he let his anger get in the way” seems to be unsupported by slave_poodle’s post. It appears to me from her post that he was in control, and only made a mistake. Second, I feel that you are too harsh on an inexperienced relationship. We all make mistakes and if this is the worst he makes, he will have done very well. Third, you seem to be imposing limits on another’s relationship. Granted, slave_poodle’s partner made a mistake, but it is up to him and slave_poodle to decide the degree of the error. It sounds to me that they both were accepting of a beating and that he only went a little too far. Your disagreement with drawing blood seems to be from a personal position rather then from an open-minded regard on another’s relationship. I, for one, have seen much greater punishments in healthy and active BDSM relationships. You repeatedly cite “Safe, Sane and Consensual,” although it seems to me that this relationship follows these guidelines. Blood is not dangerous as long as one cleans and disinfects the wounds, this was obviously consensual, and appears to have been done with level heads. My recommendation for slave_poodle would be to reassure her partner, perhaps slow down a little bit, but not to stop. It is a little like falling off a horse; the best thing to do is to get right back on again.
Do not worry about it so much Slave_Poodle
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Originally Posted by Slave_Poodle
...for when this happens again as it trully will as I told my master that that was the first time he has punished me to the extent that I felt that it was real and not just a game.
I am in full agreement with the opinions and advice posted by BDSM_Tourguide, slavelucy, woodman'sgame and kibbick. It is all a learning experience. Also, based on the facts as described in Slave_Poodle's original post, the incident appears to have been an honest mistake, with no hint of abuse.
On the other hand, Slave_Poodle, you may want to ask yourself the following questions:
Do you want your next punishments to be real or just a game?
Which punishments do you feel should be more severe: the fun-I-love-you-beatings or the you-really-screwed-up-this-time floggings?
Why do you want to be punished at all?
Do you really think it is OK to be flogged beyond your limit just because is "Punishment"?
Did you really go beyond your limit this last time?
Now that I think about it, your owner should also go through those questions. I am sure you will both learn from the resulting dialog and will enjoy yourselves even more as you experience more of this lifestyle.
