Well, hello everyone :) This is a bit strange because I've been around, silently lurking, for a LONG time...the questions that brought me here at first were "how to tell your presumably vanilla partner that you are not that vanilla" and later "how to bring out the dom in your stubbornly insisting he is vanilla partner"...yes I know, it happens so often it's already cliché. I really liked this forum right away, and the chance to at least read about all these things that didn't have any more space in my life (or better said in his) and stay in touch with the submissive me who I was beginning to miss awfully, kept me around. Said vanilla man was who prevented me from saying hello to you all earlier, as well (nono, it wasn't my fault at all! No way!). I believe his pretty exact words regarding BDSM as a whole were "Stay the fuck away from it or I'm gone." along with some other nasty things, which I won't repeat because it will make me go all bitter and launch into a BIG rant. He left anyway. Means I am now free to do what I should have done much earlier and unlurk, wave my hands furiously and say hi to you all! :wave:
So, a bit about me...hmm. I'm 25 years old and a student of English and American Studies, which I absolutely love and which is, asides some more obvious things, my big passion. Toying around with language all day is a dream come true, a dream that I didn't know I had until it was fulfilled. I don't have any unusual hobbies, or any unusual abilities -- so I don't really know what I could write about that :)
I found out that my sexuality was a bit different to what is perceived as 'normal' usually when I was still pretty young. Back then it of course freaked me out. Big deal. More specifically I ran away from it as fast as I could and promised myself to never touch it again. It was a few years later that my then-boyfriend and I figured out that we were quite conveniently two different sides of the same coin -- how I don't actually know, but I'm really happy that it did happen. So, to cut a long story short (this is going to be a monster post anyway, making up for lost time here, hehe) I have a few years of experience in the lifestyle, but I didn't have a great many partners during that time...I don't consider myself as amazingly experienced, either. I'd say I'm somewhere between newbie and knows-a-few-things-newbie. ;)
That, and I get carried away when I write. When people moan that an assignment has to be 1000 words long I'm the one with the desperate look on her face saying: "Only? Oh gosh, I'm doomed." I guess you figured that out by now. But I'm just rambling here...I hope that I'll manage to be somewhat of an addition to this wonderful community and am actually looking forward to participate a bit more actively on here than I used to. Hugh, I have spoken. :)
