Medical Attention and BDSM

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02-12-2008
Widget

Medical Attention and BDSM

I was thinking the other day about how do people find kink friendly professions when they need medical, metal health care or even legal advice. I have read a few posts that have members avoid medical attention because the country they live in would result in the doctor reporting any marks as abuse and potentially charges resulting out of it. It does not matter if its consensual in some places or not its the health care professionals legal obligation to do so.

How bout if you feel you need mental health care of some kind, how do you find help if you can not talk about your life completely for fear you will be labeled a deviant. Never mind legal assistance if you have to deal with anything kink related. So i found that there are lists of kink friendly professionals to be found if you search for that online.

The idea that bdsm may keep some people from getting help when they need it, cause women to avoid pap smears or breast exams, men to avoid prostate exams and so on, is so so wrong. In a perfect world people help and not judge. sad to say its far from the case. Plus knowing the person is listed as understanding that the client is first in care not lifestyle will make it easier to discuss any kink related issues.

here is a few that i thought were more helpful than others i saw

http://services.glma.org/referrals/help.htm

http://www.ncsfreedom.org/kap/

http://www.ncpoly.org/ProfessionalResources.html

http://www.pawscave.dircon.co.uk/IML/being10.htm

this is one topic I bet most never think about til they need help and are afraid to have their lifestyle revealed with negative results. I hope this helps anyone that is needing to find this information out.
02-12-2008
Red Dragon {mpellegrino}

Fabulous post Widget many thanks there will many who can relate and some who will find that this post heps to go seek that help they have avoided.

Round of applause to you.
02-12-2008
crazy_grrluk

A friend of mine was disabled and had a Dom......
she had to go to hospital and there were some bruising on her which the nurses made a note of and asked her family what they were.
they reported the "boyfriend" for abuse even tho she had stated that wasnt the case. ended up taking out an injunction against him.
02-12-2008
Ozme52

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Originally Posted by crazy_grrluk

A friend of mine was disabled and had a Dom......
she had to go to hospital and there were some bruising on her which the nurses made a note of and asked her family what they were.
they reported the "boyfriend" for abuse even tho she had stated that wasnt the case. ended up taking out an injunction against him.

I'm presuming she was a minor?

How else can the family file an injunction if the "complaintant" isn't complaining? In the US, even a clear case of spousal abuse requires the abused to file a complaint. Otherwise the police can't act. No matter what anyone else thinks. Only in cases when the adult victim is legally declared incompetant and put into the care of another adult can a third party act on their behalf.

Anyone understand it differently?
02-12-2008
Whippett

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ozme52

I'm presuming she was a minor?

How else can the family file an injunction if the "complaintant" isn't complaining? In the US, even a clear case of spousal abuse requires the abused to file a complaint. Otherwise the police can't act. No matter what anyone else thinks. Only in cases when the adult victim is legally declared incompetant and put into the care of another adult can a third party act on their behalf.

Anyone understand it differently?

Depends on the jurisdiction Ozma - here there's Zero tolerance and the police automatically prosecute the case
02-12-2008
Ozme52

Quote:

Originally Posted by Whippett

Depends on the jurisdiction Ozma - here there's Zero tolerance and the police automatically prosecute the case

Here?
02-12-2008
Euryleia

Excellent post, Widget. Thanks for putting it out there.
02-13-2008
crazy_grrluk

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ozme52

I'm presuming she was a minor?

How else can the family file an injunction if the "complaintant" isn't complaining? In the US, even a clear case of spousal abuse requires the abused to file a complaint. Otherwise the police can't act. No matter what anyone else thinks. Only in cases when the adult victim is legally declared incompetant and put into the care of another adult can a third party act on their behalf.

Anyone understand it differently?

no she wasnt a minor. at the time she was 22 but like I say she was disabled.
like i said she was disabled and had home care every day. her parents thought she couldnt make any choices for herself
02-13-2008
Whippett

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ozme52

Here?

where I live (not in the US)
02-13-2008
Ozme52

Quote:

Originally Posted by crazy_grrluk

no she wasnt a minor. at the time she was 22 but like I say she was disabled.
like i said she was disabled and had home care every day. her parents thought she couldnt make any choices for herself

Then maybe... it wasn't necessarily a bad choice.

I guess it depends on the specifics.