The edge

As I have previously stated, my slave and I are fairly new to this lifestyle. At the beginning of our relationship we agreed that in order to properly train her I would need to help her relinquish her thoughts of having any control in our sessions. This would involve many different methods including sometimes taking her right to the edge of her limits.( a point just before she would want to use her safe word.). This might be accomplished by spanking, more complex bondage, etc.

My question is - Is there a consensus on how often an intense session should be had?

Barton.

I have an opinion, but I'll wait to see the responses of those more experienced than I to respond

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Originally Posted by MrJerseyGuy

I have an opinion, but I'll wait to see the responses of those more experienced than I to respond

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Take a chance, I really am curious about other peoples opinions on this matter, both Dom's and subs.

Barton.

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Originally Posted by Barton

...my slave and I are fairly new to this lifestyle. At the beginning of our relationship we agreed that in order to properly train her I would need to help her relinquish her thoughts of having any control in our sessions. This would involve many different methods including sometimes taking her right to the edge of her limits.( a point just before she would want to use her safe word.). This might be accomplished by spanking, more complex bondage, etc.
My question is - Is there a consensus on how often an intense session should be had?

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No there is no consensus, mostly because we are all different in our perspective of where the limits are and because as we gain more experience the border between what is acceptable and what is not keeps moving.
I know for a fact that what I used to consider a fearsome flogging five years ago is but an appetizer to me today.
I knew I was at the point where my limits were shifting when I invented a three-level system of safewords for my boyfriend and I.

"Yellow" meant I am at my limit, please do something different or ease up.
"Red" meant I am at my limit but I feel that I can be pushed over it within reason. Keep doing what you are doing now but stop in two minutes, no matter what else I say.
"Black" meant stop right now! Scene is over!

These safewords have worked pretty well for us, mostly because one of our objectives when we started was to really push my limits. Sometimes I felt I should have called "black" but called "red" instead. But after the fact I was always glad I had not and felt proud of being able to do or take more for him.

The redundant safety feature was that he had to concur with my safeword whenever I called "red". That is because I am such a masochist sometimes I have fantasized beyond reasonable limits. So I trust him enough to accept this evaluation of a situation and if I call "red" but he says "black" it is because he cares for me enough not to seriously hurt me.