Hi

I'm a woman with submissive instincts and this place is my first step towards living this lifestyle. I'm in a monogamous relationship with a man who knows that I like the idea of BDSM, and who has sadistic tendencies himself. I'm not sure how to proceed with this though, because he seems reluctant to move forward with these desires. I'm hoping that someone who has experience is willing to share some ideas with me, on how to bring out this side in him and help us with the transition. Please message or e-mail me if you wish. Thankyou. Oh, and I love this site!

Welcome. He may just be afraid of hurting you or views it as dirty or wrong, something a man does not do to a woman. That can be something difficult to overcome. But dominance isn't about pain or humiliation it is about control. You just need to find some common ground to begin exploring this side of your relationship.

Good luck on your journey.

Hello and :wel:

the Book - Erotic-Surrender-Sensual-Female-Submission has some guidance on how to guide your Dom. Also there are many other books out there for him as well.

Good luck

hi and welcome

Hi :wave: Welcome to the Library!

Welcome to the Library. :)

Read about safe words and how they can enable the dom as well...

In case he is indeed being overly cautious.

:wel

Next time you're making love pull his head to your breasts and ask him in the heat of pasion to bite your nipple and then REALLY like it. When pain is pleasure and you show him you like it, he will likely let his sadistic side come out more.......go SLOWLY from there. Take my advice (sent by PM)......Good Luck

Hi there! Welcome to the forum and to the world of BdSm. I'm sure that you'll like it here. We're a bunch of crazy, but very nice and helpful people. I hope that you'll find what you're looking for. Nice to hear that your husband is interested too. So you'll do this journey together. I wish you, both, the best of luck
;rose;

Hi and welcome to the site. I am sure you will find it fun and informative.

Wellcome to the site!!!

We are so very happy to have you here. The forums are full of great information, as well as having a very nice personels section and chatroom.

There is also an awsome Tasking Society for those wishing to learn just how to give and or preform commands.

Feel free to pm any of the staff or myself with conserns or questions, we are more than willing to lend a hand.

Hope to see more of you soon.
Have lots of fun exploring the site!!

Hugs and kissess,
denuseri

Welcome to the forums.

The best thing to do is communicate, communicate, communicate. Talk to him about what's holding him back and be clear on what you need. Good luck and best wishes.