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I was just wondering....my Sir and I are 24/7 TPE. We are 100% totally in this lifestyle and I was wondering how many are the same way? How many are online? How far has it gone? With my Sir, I am a domestic Slave, a sexual Slave a work slave and any other kind of slave that he can think of me to be. How many other people are like this?
i am a 24/7 sub .. i have been for many years and enjoy if not need the exchange from my r/l Master and online Sir...
i serve domestic, sexually, work wise, and as you any other way my Master or Sir feel necessary...
i live to serve them for without doing so i truly have not a reason to carry on .. i feel lost and very alone.. and at times when it is slowed down because of other things in our lives {and yes that happens even in a 24/7 relationship} i can actually get sick without direction and out of control and that i fear... to the point i could crawl in a ball and not come out..
Silly some would say i know but i am meant to please and if i am not pleasing then what is my purpose..??
Yes i am committed to them and yes i do it proudly... without thought .. as to make myself happy is to make them happy.. i live to serve and would never want it any other way...
just my opinion
hugs snow
I am also a 24/7 slave. I love this life. I love serving my Master in whatever way he desires. He makes me so very happy and I can only hope and pray that I somehow do the same for him. This is not what I was looking for coming into this lifestyle (before I met Master) but now, I can not imagine having it any other way.
Just the thought of not having him here, of not being able to kneel at his side, is enough to bring me to tears. Belonging to him fulfills me in a way that I never would have thought possible. All of my life I have felt wrong inside. Like I just didn't fit anywhere. No matter what I did, no matter that I knew everything was right with my life, I still felt wrong inside. Now, with my Master, I finally feel right. I finally fit somewhere.
i so know that not feeling right inside .. ..a sickness that fills me that i can not bare to feel or go through ..like you tears fill me without my Master..Quote:
Originally Posted by satisfied{SW}
hugs
hun
just my opinion
snow
We tried the living-together thing, and it totally worked NOT. We found we both need space and time for ourselves. Being stuck together without the possibility to withdraw or close a door behind oneself gave us a feeling of suffocation.
The fact that neither of us had ever wanted to live together with a former partner could have pinpointed us there, but nooo... We sort of did it because it is expected once you get married, but it does not work out for everyone.
I am not a slave-type, and after my own full-time job and taking care of my kid, I really feel no desire to clean up after yet another person... and neither do I think all the housework is my duty just because I earn a little less... moreover, we have different priorities on how money should be spent, and have totally different tastes regarding the decoration of the home...
So we went back to 2 flats, and each being responsible for his/her own place... and this works well.
The time we spend together, we spend together because we want it, and cherish it.
I am happy with this set-up, the only thing that makes me regret it is that we don´t sleep together every night.
But if I look around me and see all the obese, frustrated, bored, hateful and spiteful couples who do nothing together anymore but sitting bored in front of the TV, I really think we have the better model.
I'm in a 24/7 relationship and couldn't imagine living any other way. My Master is very understanding, and patient. Knowing that it's impossible for me to be 100% ready for anything 100% of time, he's always so caring with my feelings as well as his own. Just because I'm not ready for something won't always get me out of it, but it will give me a few moments to get ready.
I know couples who are in the lifestyle 24/7, but I don't know anyone who is in it 24/7 with no vanilla attachments.
And as everything within this Lifestyle 24/7 TPE means different things to different people. I don't know if I am submissive submissive type because I have only ever been truly submissive to Him. It is hard for me to describe just how much I adore my Husband - and I do not say this lightly, it has taken us years of heartache and struggle to come to this point. Which is why I don't believe a word that comes from those who post "my master is a god and we are soul mates" posts after knowing said master for only two weeks online - I really don't mean to be cynical, but if such relationships work out, they are few and far in between and I don't know of any personally.
I guess you could say that I am a love slave to my Husband, though that wouldn't be exactly true. And I am fiercely loyal to Him, I have proven that, so you could say I am slavish in my devotion to Him. The thing is I am many things, while not being comfortable with the label.
I do not always behave as a submissive, but He almost always behaves as a Dom. Constantly being in a role, especially one that is rigidly defined, would feel suffocating. We both have very active "vanilla" lives, separately and together, but I wouldn't ever call us vanilla, our relationship and dynamic is about as far from it as you could imagine. My chains are invisible, but they are no less real. We are not in "full mode 24/7", but we are 24/7 - and in case it slips my mind - all it takes is one look from Him to remind me.
He picks my clothes, decides what I eat, my personal happiness with Him is more important to me than my career ambitions (and I am very work oriented), I married Him when everyone else was against it, I get caned (seriously caned) at least once a month, we have a dungeon and play regularly...- and yet I don't feel myself being a slave and even when I say that we are 24/7 (http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/sh...power+exchange) it feels a bit abstract.
And yet a girl who spends two evenings a week wearing nipple clamps for fifteen minutes has no problem calling herself slave with straight face - so maybe it is, you either feel it inside or you don't.
I am submissive, our power exchange pervades our relationship 24/7, my actions may be identical to that of a slave, but I would not call myself a slave and certainly not a 24/7 slave - what I am is His, always.
If you have found something that works for you, if this arrangement feels "right" and makes you feel free - enjoy it, its your life.
I agree Adriana, and thank you for sharing your feelings. It was wonderful to read and beautiful. Very touching.
I completly agree with AdrianaAurora.
My wife and I live a 24/7 Domme/slave life. Often I find myself in complete bondage, being caned like there's no tommorrow. Often times I am collared and just hanging out. Other times I am at work or we are in a completly vanilla setting. It doesn't matter what the situation is, one thing that never changes is my 24/7 slave role. We have found a way that works for us even without all of the cuffs and collars. I think a lot of people might think being in a 24/7 TPE relationship means you are always in bondage or kneeling or whatever. We feel that if you can carry that TPE with you 24/7 without the props, in any situation, then you have acheived a true TPE.
My Master and I live a 24/7 lifestyle. I am his slave, and I think about him often when I am in vanilla settings, like at work. When I am with him, I get him his food and drink, and am ready and willing whenever he wishes.
One of the nicest and most wonderful things about my Master is the fact that he understands me and takes my needs into account. If I am very exhausted from pleasing him and doing his wishes, he is willing to make sure that I get enough sleep for work. But it's not if I WANT it...he knows where my limits are, if I'm just kind of tired or really exhausted. I think that is one of the things I love most about my position with him. I can trust him because he knows and can read me so well.
I would be very discontent if we only had a sometimes relationship. I would spend a lot of my time craving his presence, wishing I was at his side. I am fairly certain that it would be a lot harder for me, and much prefer the situation as it is.
We are 24/7 as in we are married live together and have 2 young children, but I hardly play my role 24/7. I am a sexual submissive/slave, but when it comes to the household I run the show. I am similar in that I have many responsibilities however it is too inefficient to be in a slave mind set and accomplish all I need to in a day. My husband dedicates his time to his job and he tends to be absent minded when it comes to details that aren't related to the finance markets, politics, or world events . Child rearing is my number one focus for now, as they are both under 3, I am responsible for the cooking, cleaning, paying the bills, filing the taxes, scheduling appointments, giving massages, collaborating with my husband regarding work... If my friends and family had to guess at my bdsm role they most certainly would think I was a domme.