rim jobs.

Since I'm on a posting frenzy, I guess I'll ask one of the questions on my mind...

I've never been a big fan of THINKING of giving a rim job. But now I've been told I'm expected to do so when asked... ohhh mi goodness. I have certain levels of "repulsion" that are very difficult to pass over. So, I can go a little further and suck a toe or two...if they are clean.... but a rim job just seems so... nauseating. :(

What are your experiences? I know some people enjoy it, so maybe I'll get the acquired taste, but right now the little angel on my shoulder is shaking his head furiously. The little devil is thinking, "Well...it's worth a shot!"

Presumably you'll be permitted to provide a nice bathing service first, or at least the first few times.

And if not, and if you really hate it, read about limits and safewords. Your dominant should be discussing these things with you.

There are no "must do this" rules. But it is indeed an intimate gift.

i have had it done to me in a previous relationship.( i think that was his little fetish. :) ). it feels marvelous.

and i have done it to one other...very sexy and humiliating at the same time. it is very powerful to know you have given a great pleasure to the one who asked you, or the one you begged to let you do it.

i have always made sure i was as clean as possible when it was being done to me. and when i did it to Him, i just took a warm washrag and gently wiped the area first. He didnt mind.

once i started it made me hot and i loved moving upward to licking His balls and cock and moving downward again. and i loved the feel of the flogger on my back as i did it. i dont think i ever noticed the taste.

My Master would have me bathe him before a session which involved rimming. I had fantasized about it and the reality was intoxicating. I would orgasm without any other stimuli. I hope if you go there you have similar results.
phedrea

Am I a bad person if I admit that I have done it frequently as part of vanilla sex? :)
So long as everything down there is clean and you can tolerate the slight aroma that even a clean bottom can exude then it is fine.

fetishdj. Your a wery bad person either way.

On this subject we agree thou. I have been on both sides of a rimjob and enjoy the feeling of showing someone this new experience aswell as the power in having someone do it.

If your not excited by the thought and play of doing so. Well just dont make it part of your game. A dom with a reasonable way of doing things will respect this but possibly work on changing your mind over time, if its improtant to him.

You see, my point is that I do not see it as being necessarily integral to BDSM. It is not something I feel I need to be forced to do or feel the need to force someone else to do... it is merely an enjoyable part of foreplay, same as cunnilinguis or nipple licking.

I guess I have always been somewhat of an anal enthusiast. I forged (below) and never regretted it. Some instances we had showered, others not. Hopefully your passion will overcome your fear.

Best Wishes...

If this isnt a hard limit for you, which if it is, as Oz suggested you should really review the "how to say no" /sfae words/ hardlimits sections etc.

Is he willing to reciprocate??

lol just saying you should lick it before you stick it right. If he likes a tounge back there, who knows what else he may wish you to "use". Be careful! Mabey he is wanting you to get a strap-on to use on him someday too.

I used to have a hang up about shriveled old nasty hairy virginias once upon a time, but with some help from an old hairy virginia bearing domme's whip I learned to enjoy it, winks and giggles my way out of the thread.

You wont know if you lick, erI mean like licking it until you lick it anyways.

I have a problem with rimming as well. Even when its clean. i like to do it but i just have the heeby jeebys and feel like my sense of smell is still in over drive. So i use whip cream on a clean bottom. Helps me goto town like nothing else. also is a pretty good lube later when i stick in a toy for prostate massage.

I have been on the receiving end in a past relationship & thought it was an amazing, incredible & pleasurable sensation. However, no love or submission in the world would ever convince me to be on the giving end. The mere thought of my own tongue licking someone else there (not even my beloved Master/Hubby).... well it just makes me ill.

But to each their own right?

Havn't given or received, so take this suggestion for what it is worth. - What about a dental dam or Seran wrap as a barrier? Does it decrease the sensation too much? It would help with the cleanliness issue.

Add a good smear of the lube of your choice to the non-tongue side of the saran wrap. I think it is better to use non-microwavable products, you get better "safety".

I never really liked the idea of giving my master a rim job but I figured I would give it a shot. I think that the washing would help out a lot. Thanks for the info XD

my present Dom who became my bf (or vice versa??) loves rim jobs, and being one who loves to please (as i had already learned to give a rim job with the ex hubby;)), i love giving him a rim job. for me, i love feeling naughty...really slutty, and this is something that makes me feel that way, so i enjoy it. :d

as Oz and some others said, if you really don't feel ready to do it, then it is something the two of you should talk about. communication is key!

enjoy your journey :)

The first time, try doing it while you shower together.

I have never been a big fan of giving rim jobs and it took me some time to be able to do it without gagging. Fortunately my master at the time was patient.

Also, if this makes sense in your relationship dynamic, it might make it easier if you emphasize the mental aspects or headspace that it promotes. Instead of the physicality, perhaps focus on something sexy about it, like how even more than other sexual acts it conveys a sense of power imbalance (lol least sexy way of saying "it puts you both in your place" ever)... Or if you're not into the humiliation of it, perhaps it helps to approach it as a sign of devotion, like an "i love and honor every part of you, even this" kind of act, which makes it beautiful as well. Thinking about it that way leaves me begging for it.

You should of course not do anything that is a hard limit but since there's a little devil on your shoulder pushing you, perhaps this can make it easier if you do give it a shot!

what about an enema? Since you have that lil devil pushing you to do it, why not suggest to Him that He have an enema first. It really does help. Or like another poster said, try it while showering, however it will always have a slight odor no matter what... after all it is the human body. Good luck!!!