why share

Okay a thousand foot kisses if this has already been added I would like some honest feedback from all Doms/Masters on a subject that interests me greatly. I have 2 questions (1) why do some Doms/Masters share there partner(s) (subs, slaves) sexually with others in play houses, at parties, scenes, men to ring, training, and/or in your own home in lieu of a handshake whats the premise behind that? Is there a reason than " i love seeing her service my buddies ? Is it sexual thrill? a show of dominance? reinforcement of ownership (2) If you do share your partner(s) scene or not) does he/she have a say? Can he/she consent before doing it?

I discussed this with a Dom friend of mine as I couldn't understand why he would want to share his property. The reason that he gave was because that way, everyone would know what he had and how good it was. Ownership would be his and only his and they would envious. Letting someone use something of yours gives you some control but is more than just telling someone how good something is, they can actually experience it but then must give it back.

Because I struggle with jealousy it's taken me a long time to understand the attraction but I think I can now.

I guess it could be a very possessive act really.

Just my two cents worth, great question.

Why share? Because he can.

I think the same could be said for any sort of kink...why use a flogger? why nipple clamps, why water sports, etc......

Master is very interested in swinging and it's something i have participated in with Him. To a lesser extent, Master has also allowed a couple of people to use me online. There are many reasons people do what they do, but usually it is because they like it! :) Master very much enjoys watching me with others (men and women) and i really enjoy watching Him with other women, also. It is similar to why Master enjoys hurting me and i enjoy being hurt by Him. W/we both get off on it. *grins*

As far as if i get asked about it, etc. Master and i discussed this at length before i accepted His collar. I was nervous about it because it wasn't something i had really done before, but He let me know that it would be expected of me if i were to be His. As you can see, my nerves didn't get the best of me. :) So far, Master and i have talked about potential couples, or other dom's using me, etc. He allows me to speak freely about what i like or find attractive as He wants it to be enjoyable for me as well.

Part of it for me, is watching Him being pleasured by another woman. Seeing the look on His face and knowing that i am the one He choses to go home with. I watch Him and He watches me with the other people. i get turned on just like i do when i watch porn or something, but even more so because it is Him. i guess i just like to watch Him work. *giggles*

i do not think that sharing is for everyone, though. i think people need to be very secure in their relationship and realize that it's not that you aren't enough to satisfy your partner, but that it's just a completely different feeling. Also communication is the key, talk about things, process them the way you would after any scene. Get out any frustrations, laugh, cry, etc. Things will not always go to plan (crazy blonde comes to mind) so it's best to talk about these things right after and not let them stew and get worse. I also feel that if you tend to be the jealous type, this is not for you either. These were just some of my original reservations to sharing or being shared, but now that i have done it..i'm way on board!

i know this wasn't from a dom's point of view, but perhaps Master will chime in and share His thoughts on the matter as well.


bluefarie, very happily owned and engaged to Master Archeon

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Originally Posted by singletaillover

Okay a thousand foot kisses if this has already been added...

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Yes!! Dammit!! Another thread on this topic??? :rolleyes:

Well... no... not really.

I just want the foot kisses. :hubba:

I have given this a lot of thought...

Partly because it pleases me to see her pleasure.
Partly because it pleases me to see her humiliation.
Partly because it pleases me to see her understand she is owned. (I can't lend you a friend's car... but I can lend you mine.)

I counted eight questions.

I will answer all of them with :

It pleases me to do so.