Do you think it is wrong for his female"friends" to send intimate pictures via e-mail to him when their husband's don't know what is going on.
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Do you think it is wrong for his female"friends" to send intimate pictures via e-mail to him when their husband's don't know what is going on.
It depends on the relationship I have with the dom. Whats wrong to me, may not be wrong to you or someone else. If you have a problem with your dominant and how he intereacts with his female "friends" then you should tell him. Let him know, dont be afraid to say that you dont like what's going on between him and his "friends". And it seems like you do have a problem with it, with the tone of the post. good luck.
Same thing zesty just said x 2: Tell him whats what!
Is your problem with them and their husbands or with you and your dom?
Are you fine with his 'friends' sending risque pics if their respective husbands know?
To me it's all about intent. Seems your Dom isn't busy skulking around trying to hide this behavior, which could indicate 1) it's his way or the highway so deal with it attitude, or 2) you're a lucky girl and happened to find yourself one popular Dom. Men are men and they like their pretty pictures....could be no more than that. Ask and you will know soon enough. Good luck!
Aloha
I would find it hard to put it better than Zesty as Denu has said. However I bring a Dom like view to it. So to repeat wiser words than my own...
Every one will have a different view. The important thing would seem to be YOUR view. If, as your post implies, you have a problem with it, you should if appropriate communicate this. It gives your Domly one a chance to consider his actions andact as he thinks appropriate.
You may be pleasently surprised, BUT you may not and there may start a whole new thread.
Wishing you and yours all the best. Mahalo ~ Dragon
Is there anything more than photos involved here? Is he, in fact, running a harem of subs of which you are one or is it just something between friends? Do their husbands know that he is doing this? Did you discuss the possibility of him having multiple subs at the onset of your relationship (assuming that these are in fact his subs in some formal way)?
One concept you (and he) may want to learn more about if you haven't already is 'the ethical slut'. There is, I beleive, a book about it out there somewhere (I've not read it but I know a lot of people who have and who talk about it...). It essentially covers guidelines for this sort of thing - multiple relationships, casual 'sex buddies', flirting with others when you are in a long term relationship and so on. I think, however, that the over-riding principle is communication. So long as everyone knows about it, is fine with it and no one is physically, mentally or emotionally harmed then its all ok. The fundamental principle being that harm from sexual shenenigans is not necessarily caused by jealousy (though it can be) but rather from the lying and sneaking around.
Hi,
Im my experience ive had the same problem. My advice to you would be to go talk to him, and speak to him as equals (that is what subs and Doms should be doing when talking about problems and feelings in the relationship(but dont have to)). Tell him what you think about it,and tell him how it makes you feel. There could be a deeper meaning to what he is doing, and/or a way to explore new opportunities with you (sexually). On the other hand even though on the extreme level, that maybe he's not the right Dom for you.(again on the extreme level)
Honesty is the key. If he is keeping these things from you, then I see a problem. If you feel that he is being honest with you, but it bothers you that he gets these pics, then you should speak to him. if it is about his integrity and not being honorable and that confilcting with what you want in a partner, tell him.
You have been given some very good advice so far. You really do need to ask yourself exactly what it is about this that bothers you. After that, knowing what questions to ask him will be much easier.
Does it really matter what we think or for that matter what you think, because it is for his female friends to worry about what their husbands think. It is not your Dom sending he is receiving them, and it should only come down to his morals if he is asking them to send the photos.Quote:
Originally Posted by distressed
Your post is a little bit heavy fetishdj, i thought you were from Birmingham UK, because we have a law over here saying you are innocent until proven guilty. You’re not a damn magistrate in your spare time are you because they think like that? The man has received a few photos, and i don’t know where the question was that asked about how many subs he’s got. Come on lighten up, we are not judges of others in the BDSM community, have you thought that it might be theirs or his kink?Quote:
Originally Posted by fetishdj
Regards ian 2411
If the concern is truly about the female 'friends' husbands, then I agree with Ian. It isn't your responsibility to worry about what other females are doing with or without their husbands knowledge.Quote:
Originally Posted by ian 2411
However, if the concern is that you don't wish for your Dom to be receiving (and viewing) these types of emails, then that's another issue entirely, and you'll want to communicate your feelings with him so that he isn't unknowing hurting you.