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Im a single submissive without a purpose.
What do I do?
I feel like my only purpose in life is to serve a Domme.
No, that ismy only purpose.
I know it sounds overly dramatic, but thats me.
I want to make someone happy always. Do anything they say, live for them, to make them happy.
Making others happy makes me happy.
So what do I do when I have no one to serve?
I am sorry but its making me feel like shit.
I feel like I have no purpose.
How do you meet like-minded people where you live. That's the most likely way to successfully find others in the lifestyle.
The web is a great way to become acquainted with others worldwise, but for something real (as opposed to virtual,) you need to be meeting folk to have a selection.
I was lucky, I met my girl here first, but nothing would have resulted had we not had lunch together, had she not been willing to meet me as I passed through her area. Many of my liasons started here, but all of them require(d) an in-the-flesh meeting to obtain what you want... and you'll do better at the local equivalent of a munch than you will online as most folk, pro forma, distrust online personnae.
Im too scared to go to any kind of meet where I live cause Im scared it'll get back to me parents. Which I dont want it to.
Ive tried to meet people online but it never works.
why does it never work lorraine? what kinds of things seem to go wrong?
what do you think it is about the people you've met online so far that's contributed to things not working out?
i understand where you're coming from about being scared to meet or attend something local. i would have great anxiety about it too.
i don't know if it appeals to you, but i'm in the uk too, not that that necessarily makes a difference, just in that we're kind of more 'local' to each other..than (from what i see) many of the people using the forum may be.
if you want to pm me for a rant/offload or anything, please feel free :0)
I don't know why things go wrong tbh.
Sometimes ive just had the Domme just never get in contact with me again no matter if I message them.
I had one who had personal problems (Which I understood completely and still do)
Some were not strict enough with me. I can be quite a brat, and they just let me get away with it.
Once one asked me to do something (Not outside my limits or anything) and I argued and.. I won. Sometimes I just do that to lose an argument. I fully admit that this time I was just testing her, seeing how far I could push her. But I won.. so yeah. When a dominant tells me to do something as long as its inside my limits they should make me do it. Thats just what i like. And like I said, I can be a bit of a brat.
well i have really limited experience on all this, but from what ive learned this last few months im empathising with you. and i get totally about the testing thing, pushing limits, ive done that too. ive done it in various relationships, family and friendships too.
could it just be so simple as suggesting that you havent found the right Domme for you yet? ah, my advice sucks, but i bet there'll be someone you will find who will complement you as you are and you them.
It can be trying and dificult at best to weather those times between dominants even for the best of us.
Your familey need not know what goes on in the privacy of your bedroom btw. Mine certiantly dont and most of them live near me, heck my mother lives in the same house with me and she has no idea what my owner and I do in so far as our sex life is conserned.
Patience is a virtue that no submissive (or anyone else for that matter) can afford to forget.
That doesnt mean one must be idle while they are waiting for the right dominant.
When one doesnt have a dominant in their life to guild them, one can still be working upon one's submission however.
Think of it as an investment in your future as a submissive.
Have you looked in the tasking section of the forums?