Newbie

I am wondering how submissives who do not have Dommes expand and explore their own submission. I am having trouble with this i guess because i am so new to the community and lifestyle if anyone has any tips or anything i would very much appreciate it.

Go to a munch, meet people. Find others to talk to, subs and dominants. Network, eventually meet your match.

Find a mentor, either sub or dominant. Each can help you from different perspectives.

There are books, even a "workbook" for submissives (someone will remember and mention its name now that I've mentioned it.)

There's also a Tasking forum here that you can join.

i am very interested what is munch

A "mundane" meeting of people who are in the scene. As I understand, they meet at a coffeehouse or such, just to talk and meet new people. You do NOT dress up for this-you want to stay under the Muggle radar. I have not been to one yet, combo of time, courage and knowledge issues-but I have heard good things from people who have gone.
Stay with us on the Library-I have learned a lot since I joined, even if I didn't get to practice much of it, yet. Good Luck!

thank you i have sent you an email

One can also find a public access "dungeon" or bdsm club in or near almost every major city in the USA.

PS: Sorry about not finding the workbook Oz....the only thing like it was some questionable online thingy.

thank you so much for your concern. i did go on line and found several clubs in NY, i also have read or reading several books on the lifestyle hope to keep in touch with you and other people that are truly into bdsm
thnx

It might be The Submissive Activity Book

http://books.google.com/books?id=PRO...rkbook&f=false

once again thnx so much, i love the fact that you guys are concerned and realy into helping people learn thnx again

Here is one of the best places to learn-or at least to get started. I've been here about a year, and learned a lot.