My "Bad" Mood? or Legitimate Gripe?

So I got a PM with a question. I get a lot of PMs asking me question. Many of you have received my best efforts to be helpful and (what I hope are) excellent responses. But today, I got from a person who's been on the site for a full month and has yet to post once, this question.

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I hope u dont mind me asking a question

I had seen 1 of ur comments & was wondering if u knew of good ways 2 break a bratty sub

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And I found myself kind of irritated. She's seen my comments? Really? Then how did she get such a wrong impression that I am in the business of breaking subs? Here was my response, which instead of sending, I decided to post here. Am I totally off base?

I normally wouldn't mind you asking...

But I have some questions first. You haven't given me anything substantive to go on. You want a generic answer for a complex question? A thoughtful answer without you providing some background? I don't really do that.

Are you asking for yourself? Are you the brat and want to read what I have to say as if I were actually breaking you? Because your profile says you are submissive. Or are you actually a switch asking about your own submissive? Or are you a submissive asking on behalf of someone else? Some other scenario?

What did you read that made you think I was in the habit of breaking brats? I've written I don't condone brats. That means they stop being brats or I release them. I don't mind a little spirit, but under it all there must be obedience. If there isn't... well, I have plenty of options. Or perhaps you're thinking of a role play situation?

And lastly... if you've read my comments, you realize I never use shorthand... so while I don't mind you asking, I think it's kind of short-sighted on your part that you didn't take the time to type the words "you" and "you're" and "to". Punctuation is also non-optional.

No, you're not off base.

Though I will say that if by "sub" the asker meant "submarine" and if by "bratty" the questioner meant "malfunctioning" then I'd say two great ways to break it would be a reactor meltdown or a torpedo.

In case that's helpful.

I vote definitely "Legitimate Gripe". I'm almost positive you must have had the same sort of experience numerous times, as there are an incredible number of people who don't know how to ask a question properly; and completely ignore that fact that the person they're asking isn't psychic so doesn't know what is going through the questioner's minds when they ask.

In fact your response doesn't show you in a "Bad" mood - on the contrary - remarkably patient I would say.

Good on you for answering so many questions.

VV

i 4 1 hate "text speak"....especially when ur not texting! ;)

I'm going with legitimate gripe.

<< votes for legitimate gripe

Also imho one may consider responding to the pm directly for it's hard to say if the person who messaged you will read this.

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Originally Posted by VeniVidi

I vote definitely "Legitimate Gripe".

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Ditto on what VeniVidi said. I have read many of your comments and the vast knowledge you share is amazing.

You say you do not normally mind people asking, so I guess that's ok..Though I'd say being snowed under with questions would be quite time consuming!

But I agree that people asking without providing any information also make me somewhat exasperated at times. I know it can happen if you have a problem and you don't know how to breach the topic or get started, and in those cases, the person asking starts providing info when the people, who try to help, start asking questions. That is ok.

But there are others with a sort of 'spoon-feed-me' attitude who seem to want quick solutions without having to bother to explain the situation. And let's face it, there are also those who just want the kick of someone describing what could be done to you..

That said, I hope none of this will stop anyone seeking help here. It is not meant that way.

First of all, I have always found Ozme to be gracious, charming, even chivalrous in pretty much any situation, including me being a litle bratty with him myself. He kindly accepted my public and private apologies. He even threatened/teased me with mention of a spanking-and I know he has read those posts. And, yes you do give good advice, or at least something for me to think about.

Second, Austeres, didn't really help there--my hubby still rides tech support on the subs, which scares the hell out of me. I know you didn't mean anything by it, just saying not helpful.

Third, legitimate gripes. If you are mature enough to make the decision to let someone tie you up or to take the responsibility for tieing up someone else, you should be mature enough to spell . Or at least try. No, Torq, this is not an attack on the OP, just the way I feel. I have a hard time with anyone who doesn't at least try to use good grammar-it's one of my quirks. Ozme, you are right, she does not give enough info for you to really answer--the best I can get out of what she said is either that she read 1 post that showed you dealing with someone being bratty, or she totally mistook your firmness to mean that you are making the brat behave. I have always found your partners to be willing, even eager to to what you order-at most a moment of fear slows their response, but that is not bratty and you don't treat it that way. I for one, would love to see the post she read that gave her the idea, then send her to my favorite of your threads-you know the one.

Even if it were your bad mood your reaction would be spot on.

As for the question asked: I'd be glad to be asked such questions instead of «Would u enjoy getting fucked by a dog?» which I get asked on this site by the same person about twice a year.

Oh well, the interwebz is a marvelous place...

Thanks all.

I'm feeling better today as well. Went to an outstanding munch yesterday... Eight noobs (to the group) and some spectacular eyecandy to boot. Talking kink always lifts my um.... spirits.

So I'll put it out there, whether here on the forum or in private, I'm always available to answer questions and offer opinions. I just prefer not investing effort for a one-and-done inquiry (meaning we've never seen you and will likely never see you again) especially if you don't een take the time to introduce yourself and provide some background info. But also, no soliloquies please. Moderation in all things eh?

I think that you should break that bratty dom(?) myself >> With a pipe perhaps?

Seriously though... Some people are rude!