Let's talk about change.

I can't help wondering how many of you have been browsing around after an absence of about 8 months and was amazed about what we were busy with 13 months ago. I know I was.
I look at my profile and smile, wondering if I am still as naive about all of this as I was then .
And my profile picture? Well, that picture I just knew i had totally outgrown. Hehe

Have you also taken stock of where you were and where you are now?
Have things changed for you? Do you mind telling us a little about that?
Have you explored more? Learned more?

Not been 13 months for me, its been several years I think, At least... :)

And yes, I have changed a lot, not all of it for the better but most of it in the cause of becoming more mature. Though my avatar pic is still relevant :)

Excellent question Vicki .. heck, i have come so far!
The biggest thing i have learned, apart from, unfortunately, how cruel people can be, is that as far as the D/s goes.. online is not enough anymore, although i am in no way knocking it... but i want and need real experiences now and.. i am grabbing onto them with both hands.
No more standing in the shadows, hiding away, scared. Don't get me wrong, i take safety seriously, i'd be a fool not to in real life, but.. life really IS too short.. and it IS for living and i intend to do so, to the best of my abilities. So i am taking a deep breath, gathering all my courage around me and trusting a special person to help me do this.

i also learned how valuable a TRUE friend is.. one who stands by you, behind you and in front of you as is needed. Who is there for you regardless of distance and who pulls you up, dusts you off and gets you moving again when things go wrong. i have been lucky enough to find a friend like this in my sister, seamedblackstockings, and whatever happens in the future - this fantastic woman will always be in my life and i will love her for ever.

Wow.. that turned a bit emotional lol.. anyway.. that's what i've learned .. oh and that the banking crash really sucks LOL

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Originally Posted by jules

i also learned how valuable a TRUE friend is.. one who stands by you, behind you and in front of you as is needed. Who is there for you regardless of distance...

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^I can second that. I have also learned who my true friends are.

I also moved into real life and found that I need it.
I attended my first play party. (Loved it)
Realised I love both rope and needles.
Got to hate(and seriously love) the cane.

And realised that I trust too easily. Not a fun lesson to learn by any means, and unfortunately it took a few lessons to learn it, but I think it is a valueable lesson to have learned.

I can't help wondering how many of you have been browsing around after an absence of about 8 months and was amazed about what we were busy with 13 months ago. I know I was.
I look at my profile and smile, wondering if I am still as naive about all of this as I was then .
And my profile picture? Well, that picture I just knew i had totally outgrown. Hehe

Have you also taken stock of where you were and where you are now?
Have things changed for you? Do you mind telling us a little about that?
Have you explored more? Learned more?

I was amused when i saw my profile, and i can confirm things have changed in this period. I have grown, i know myself better,i feel more confortable with some things, i know my Owner and what he demands of me.

I would have to say, we both have changed in our Relationship, his need to control is bigger and mine to submit.
We have been exploring more into humilliation, and i have to say it is a love-hate Relationship, we have had highs and lows in this period, like everyone, but the at the end of the day, we just love eachother more and trust that the other will be there to pick up the pieces.

And my profile picture is maybe more relevant then before. It encompasses our dynamic and who we are.


shy

Wow! I have changed and grown and stumbled and fallen flat on my face! I have lost friends I adored, made new ones who I adore too! Yet through the changes and heartbreak the ups and downs, I believe I am a stronger more open and better submissive. This last few months I learned to open myself a little more freely. I have still got the same desire to be the best I can be. I have learned that I am not perfect and that that is ok. That perfection means I am perfect for my Master. Perfectly imperfect!! I have moved in and now live with my Master. I have grown closer than I thought humanly possible to my amazing sister. I have developed a thicker skin and am less the 'victim' I allowed myself to be. I hope however, I have not changed from being all the qualities I liked about the former me. I hope I am still kind, a good listener, fun, quirky and committed to supporting this life style and all that is real in it. I love all aspects from the online to the real life. My biggest change I guess....the smile I wear is now a happy smile and not the fake one that hid pain. Yep...that about sums me up. I am happy. Truly and completely happy. X x x x x x

I took a break from things bdsm related for a long while, then 3 months or so ago I got bit by the bug again. I found what I thought I was happy with. Then lost it all. I wont make the same mistakes again, I wont leave myself open to that level of hurt through online play again. Right now I'm still thinking through whether I still want to continue this journey with bdsm or give it all up.

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Originally Posted by M4sterG

Right now I'm still thinking through whether I still want to continue this journey with bdsm or give it all up.

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If you left and then returned, then I believe if you had no intention of continuing the journey you would not be here. It is in our blood that we must carry on with the journey. I am 66 with a now vanilla life or should I say one without BDSM, but I am still here.


Be well IAN2411

Its a wonderful thought provoking question vic thank you for asking.

I came to Library through pain.. And I have found so much more since then... But..
Through that I have found the most important person in my life......ME

Things are not perfect... or complete. But..
I am in an amazing place... With amazing people and I feel joy and gratitude each day...

There are those I miss deeply ... And if wishes were fishes .... But
I would not trade anything ... as each step was needed to bring me to this place and to the next place I am meant to be..

Question for M4sterG... Why choose? ... Why not just be the very best you... And let what you need come into your life?

Huge hugs
em
Xx

I have been a member for sometime now and I can honestly say that I am not the same as I was when I first became a member here. I was naive and unfamiliar with the lifestyle all I knew was that I liked kinky sex and it felt good. I just did not know that I could go further.

I am extremely happy that the forums is back up. I have truly missed being on here, reading the post, and exchanging ideas with like minded individuals!!

Agreed, Zesty....there is just something special about the Library and its peeps which couldnt be replaced.

I have also changed, most notably in my acceptance of a poly point of view. This has resulted in two things. First, a personal acceptance of my true nature, that of a switch. Secondly, it has opened up an honesty with my Dragon that has never been there before and reforged the bond between us.

Above all, i have learned a true appreciation for this place and its people...there is new incentive to nurture, honor, and care for it in all ways, so that it is not lost again.

kitty kisses everyone =^.^=

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Originally Posted by hoosakitty

Agreed, Zesty....there is just something special about the Library and its peeps which couldnt be replaced.

I have also changed, most notably in my acceptance of a poly point of view. This has resulted in two things. First, a personal acceptance of my true nature, that of a switch. Secondly, it has opened up an honesty with my Dragon that has never been there before and reforged the bond between us.

Above all, i have learned a true appreciation for this place and its people...there is new incentive to nurture, honor, and care for it in all ways, so that it is not lost again.

kitty kisses everyone =^.^=

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I might be new here, but I have enough of a 'feel' for this forum to agree completely!

It'll be interesting to look back on things in my life a year from now...but what animal is not fascinated by a mirror? ;)