Discussion Group ~ September 13th 9pm EST/September 14th 0200 GMT

Our next discussion will be held Friday, 13th of September at 9:00 pm EST ~ Saturday 14th of September 0200 GMT hosted by Miss-Sett

Topic: is getting into the scene, from where does the interest come, how do we become aware of it, how do we find people who share the interest, and what prompted us to become actively involved?

We will meet in the chat room lobby and then move to a discussion room.

Anyone wishing to suggest a topic, please reply to this thread ~ we welcome all suggestions and participation.

See you there!!

Rules of discussion
1. No meeting/greeting each other after the discussion has started, period.
2. Serious replies please, with respect afforded to each other.
3. This is a discussion room, if people wish to chat or play, please return to the lobby.
4. No disrespectful language will be tolerated at all, nor will detrimental comments, each participant has an opinion. There are others present that wish to learn.

Summary of discussion 13th September 2013 and 15th September

The sharing of personal experiences detailed a wide age range. Early age awareness was recognised within some. The thought of certain kink elements that later developed into teen, adulthood and play. Others became aware at a later stage in life, introduced via something they had read, engaged them into a thought process of self discovery. Although it was also noted that the realisation that they liked certain play’ activities prior to actual conscious awareness had occurred. Another form of introduction was through a partner that was currently in the scene and the enjoyment discovered.

What was generally concluded though, was the mass misrepresentation of bdsm within the media. The inaccurate portrayal of bdsm, certain books however, have taken bdsm out of the shadows and made it more socially accepted. ’50 shades of Grey’ although totally inaccurate, lacking in safe play guidelines, has however invoked further publications that are more applicable. Interestingly it was noted that the 1940’s comic series ‘Wonder Woman’ actually depicted a dominatrix style woman and submission within a super hero setting.

Finding others that shared the thoughts occurred within various routes. The internet seemed to be the most popular method for this, meeting and greeting others of a similar mind set. The importance of honest communication was again highlighted as was the need to pace this development. Deception can occur both o/l and r/l, trusting your instinct whilst learning from experience could help protect both Dom/me and sub. But at times a very good liar can be difficult to identify in the first instance pain and hurt can occur as a result.

The need to find a partner currently involved in the scene was recognized and a question asked if this would detract what could be a rewarding vanilla relationship was discussed. *Some found willing partners that were interested to explore or experiment with kink play further. However, when this was not reciprocated the need to seek others that could satisfy this desire became stronger, hence leaving partners for this reason.

The desire to be honest with yourself and within your relationship was described. The need to accept each other as you are, if the other person involved is unable or unwilling to accept your kink or your sexuality it is unhealthy to try and change to suit them. It is however possible to introduce a level of compromise that can meet both parties. Overall once a kink leaning was acknowledged, beit genetic or introduced it became an important part of any lifestyle choices a person might make.

Miss Sett {Kuve} and Miss Red