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I heard this question asked recently: Do you believe that the practise of BDSM could bring about emotional healing from e.g. past trauma?
I want to add 3 questions: does the practise of BDSM help or hinder you in any way in your vanilla life?
In which way?
And which part of BDSM?
BDSM helped me face a few fears under a controlled setting and I have no doubt it can do a lot more if the trust, communication and relationship is really there.
an example would be if someone raising a hand to you...advancing to face slapping although not hard. Harder would take a lot more time and cross the threshold to becoming part of a power play. I can see it.
Unfortunately I cannot answer your other questions.
~echoes~
Does "coherence" count as a benefit, dear?
I think that, in some ways, accepting the label "Dom" helped me begin to explain myself, to me. It facilitates a reconciliation within, which led to a feeling of peace, then coherence, then effectiveness.
S.
Thank You for your answers.
I would agree with Solis that it is a way of explaining myself. (Being a subbie, that is)
To me the structure inside a D/s relationship was very healing. Not in the beginning of my journey and certainly not up until 15 months ago but the tastes I had up until then hinted at the possiblity of healing.
I found the strict limits and protocol helped me feel safe and secure. It helped my mind to quiten down, knowing there are certain things I don't need to worry about or control. (Read: manipulate).
Before BDSM I had no outlet except making music, then I lost that and had no impetus to find a way around that.
Then I found pain gave me a way to work through stress and my focus on something that was supposed to be healing, became a negative. It was only since finding my 'Him' that pain and my need for it also became controlled and it turned back into a positive.
Did you panic at giving up a tiny bit of control?
I've used it to manage self harming behaviours for years
A friend of mine did this, too, and found it to be very effective.Quote:
Originally Posted by ickleimi