Questions from a novice

Hi, friends. :help:

I'm just expanding my D/s relationship and so I'd like to ask experienced people some questions.

1. What is the most appropriate (humiliating, embarassing) position for a female slave to present herself (besides kneeling). Do some of you practise standing, squatting, bending over or similar positions ? Suggestions, please !

2. What is the best way for a female with a very sensitive skin to remove pubic hair ? I mean the region around the labia and and just next over her clit. If we use a shaver, the skin is cut and gets inflamed. Shall we use depilation cream, wax or something similar ? What to take special care of ?

3. During her period, what is the most appropriate way of punishment ? Do some of you practise spanking, canning etc during this time ?

4. We are both employed and go to work to different locations, so I don't have a lot of control over her during this time. Even calling by mobile phone is impossible most of the time. Do you have any suggestions how to exercise control over my female sub but not to endanger her job position or influence the way of "working life" in a a way visible to others ? I mean- how do I know she removed her underwear after the lunch break (and not later), or how can I know she performed a task I orderd ...

5. Is there a way you can tell if a woman has masturbated in some past hours (e.g. during her absence from home) ?

6. I intend to make her strip and show me her body in irregular intervals (when she is at home) or strip and present herself. Is this a good way to make her feel she is being dominated ? Or do you suggest better ways ? Should she be naked all the time (I'm affraid she could get accustomed to her nakedness and than the desired effect is gone) ?

I hope this is not too much for you to answer me, but your help would be much appreciated. I know one person (like me) can not know everything but all of us know (allmost) everything. So, please dont hesitate and help. :help:

Thanks.

I can help with the second one I think.

There is a creme that comes with a plastic (fake) razor that will take the hair off. I've used it and it's good. I just can't remember the name of it. It's like shaving creme you put on the area, let it sit for 5-8 minutes, then use the plastic razor (dull) to shave it off. Then rinse.

1) Kneeling is a good way to get a sub into the proper frame of mind.
You might try having her kneel foward with her butt up in the air for easy access. Gaged with her hands bound behind her.

2) Waxing works well. She will be a little sore afterwards but pain is a good thing. Use a good lotion(no fragrence) on the area afterwards.

3) Yes, yes, and yes. Also anal sex is a nice thing.

4) A butterfly is a good way to do things when you are not there. Other than that, trust is a must.

5) Don't know about that one.

6) A good start.

Good luck and have fun.

Barton

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Originally Posted by hogar

5. Is there a way you can tell if a woman has masturbated in some past hours (e.g. during her absence from home) ?

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There's a really good way of telling that: ask her! Even if she lies, body language (blushing, fidgeting, etc) may well give away what really happened, and you can craft a suitable punishment for both her lapse in self-control and for lying ;)
LD

Wow, that's a lot of questions!

*looks at them again to see which one's i could attempt to answer*

1. i think it depends on the sub. Personally i find just standing infront of him once i'm naked quite humiliating, which possibly sounds a bit odd, but in a vanilla relationship, you'd be all over each other by that point, rather than someone um...cooly regarding you or setting out stuff to use on you whilst you stand there. You should probably try a few positions tho and see what reactions you get.

2. Depilation cream could work (the stuff to which Kelli refers), you apply it, leave it for a bit and then scrap it off with a piece of plastic which is shaped like a razor but is not a razor. Make sure you get the one that is for sensitive areas though. You could also try shaving with a shaving cream/gel that contains a lot of aloe vera..or apply pure aloe afterwards.

3. See this thread. For what i personally get up to during it, see post 63 and 73 of this thread. This would be a completely personal judgement call, for both of you.

4. You can't 'know' she did what you asked, obviously. You can trust that she did it because you asked her to do it, and if she didn't, that she would tell you she didn't do it. The control you exert over her at times when you're not with her is all mental and based on the DS bond between you. Or you could ask her to take five minutes out to think about her submission, or perhaps write something on herself (see this thread) or wear a piece of significant jewellery, but in terms of actual submission, it remains mental.

5. Well, yeah, she'd likely be wet but not up for being touched much on certain parts. But, i have to agree with LD when i say the best way to tell is to ask her. He's right when he says even if she lies (which to be frank, she shouldn't do, well, not a lot anyway, DS isn't a cat and mouse game, it relies on honesty most of the time), but even if she lies, her body language will almost certainly give her away. i know mine would.

6. Hmmm. *thinks*. i think it's as good a way as any to exert your power over her, especially if you do it sporadically, because it may not always be something convienient. i agree however that you should be wary of over doing it, nudity is great, but not if it just becomes the norm. (just my personal opinion). There are many other ways to make her 'feel dominated', primarily, i'd say, getting her to do what YOU want when YOU feel like it, it doesn't always have to be prescribed or pre-mediated. But you'll adapt as you get used to it. i suspect doms could answer this better than i could.

Hope all this helps. Goodluck!

sl

1. Upright, legs slightly open, heels raised, arms raised with hands on the neck (the breast look great then), mouth open.

2. ???

3. As everyday

4. Trust her

5. I don't think so

6. Personally I like when my wife wears clothes that leave the genitals and brest easily accessible everytime. So you can touch her when YOU want and control her pleasure.

Parsifal

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Originally Posted by hogar

Hi, friends. :help:

I'm just expanding my D/s relationship and so I'd like to ask experienced people some questions.

1. What is the most appropriate (humiliating, embarassing) position for a female slave to present herself (besides kneeling). Do some of you practise standing, squatting, bending over or similar positions ? Suggestions, please !

2. What is the best way for a female with a very sensitive skin to remove pubic hair ? I mean the region around the labia and and just next over her clit. If we use a shaver, the skin is cut and gets inflamed. Shall we use depilation cream, wax or something similar ? What to take special care of ?

3. During her period, what is the most appropriate way of punishment ? Do some of you practise spanking, canning etc during this time ?

4. We are both employed and go to work to different locations, so I don't have a lot of control over her during this time. Even calling by mobile phone is impossible most of the time. Do you have any suggestions how to exercise control over my female sub but not to endanger her job position or influence the way of "working life" in a a way visible to others ? I mean- how do I know she removed her underwear after the lunch break (and not later), or how can I know she performed a task I orderd ...

5. Is there a way you can tell if a woman has masturbated in some past hours (e.g. during her absence from home) ?

6. I intend to make her strip and show me her body in irregular intervals (when she is at home) or strip and present herself. Is this a good way to make her feel she is being dominated ? Or do you suggest better ways ? Should she be naked all the time (I'm affraid she could get accustomed to her nakedness and than the desired effect is gone) ?

I hope this is not too much for you to answer me, but your help would be much appreciated. I know one person (like me) can not know everything but all of us know (allmost) everything. So, please dont hesitate and help. :help:

Thanks.

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Originally Posted by hogar

Hi, friends. :help:

I'm just expanding my D/s relationship and so I'd like to ask experienced people some questions.

1. What is the most appropriate (humiliating, embarassing) position for a female slave to present herself (besides kneeling). Do some of you practise standing, squatting, bending over or similar positions ? Suggestions, please !

2. What is the best way for a female with a very sensitive skin to remove pubic hair ? I mean the region around the labia and and just next over her clit. If we use a shaver, the skin is cut and gets inflamed. Shall we use depilation cream, wax or something similar ? What to take special care of ?

3. During her period, what is the most appropriate way of punishment ? Do some of you practise spanking, canning etc during this time ?

4. We are both employed and go to work to different locations, so I don't have a lot of control over her during this time. Even calling by mobile phone is impossible most of the time. Do you have any suggestions how to exercise control over my female sub but not to endanger her job position or influence the way of "working life" in a a way visible to others ? I mean- how do I know she removed her underwear after the lunch break (and not later), or how can I know she performed a task I orderd ...

5. Is there a way you can tell if a woman has masturbated in some past hours (e.g. during her absence from home) ?

6. I intend to make her strip and show me her body in irregular intervals (when she is at home) or strip and present herself. Is this a good way to make her feel she is being dominated ? Or do you suggest better ways ? Should she be naked all the time (I'm affraid she could get accustomed to her nakedness and than the desired effect is gone) ?

I hope this is not too much for you to answer me, but your help would be much appreciated. I know one person (like me) can not know everything but all of us know (allmost) everything. So, please dont hesitate and help. :help:

Thanks.

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On point one (1). I find it very humiliating...and very much a turn on for my tormenter to kneel on a raised block so my breasts are best-presented. Elbows pulled in sharply protrudes my breasts as tho offering them up for abuse. and that's exactly what i'm doing. It also expands my cleavage immensely. Lisha