A desire to learn

Hello everyone!

After lurking on this wonderful website for about 2 weeks, in which I feel wrong for doing and am sorry, I think I am ready to come out of my shell and introduce myself. All of your wonderful friendliness towards each other, has led me to believe that this is a good place to start. So, let me begin . . .

I'm a 22 year old female, around 125lbs and 5'7'' tall. I am very new to the bdsm community, yet, I've been trying to soak up as much information as possible over the past year through out various websites, books, and online chats. I believe I have a hidden submissive side to me, in which I've finally decided to take the step to discover. While I'm looking for nothing in R/L right now, because I understand the importance of going slowly and I'm also slow to trust others, I am looking for a male dom, someone to get to know, and who can take me under their wing and help me discover my likes and dislikes, along with answer my arising questions as they come along. Although I have no qualms talking to anyone, for I'm always willing and open to learn more and try new things. I have practiced some self bondage, but I have never been with anyone who knows of my interest in being a submissive, thus I'm still unsure of all of my desires. However, I do know that I want to be treated with respect, thus no abbusive names and such. I believe condescending someone has nothing to do with their being a submissive. I'm also not into anything concerning needles and knives; being whipped is exciting, bleeding is not.

I hope this thread has been clear, however if you have any questions and/or replies to my thread, they will be greatly appreciated, along with advice. I look forward to meeting you all, and growing into a better submissive for a master some day down the road.


Truly Yours,
Kardi

Welcome to our forums, Kerdi.

I have over 8 years of experience in the BDSM community/lifestyle while experiencing both sides (submissive/dominant) o/l and r/t.

If you seek a mentoring type Dominant to help lead you in all the right directions, please PM me or email me at acuriouspoet75@yahoo.com.

I'd be more than willing to assist you in 101 ways. :cool:

I replied on your other thread Kardi.

And feel free to contact me at my email adress to become friends

Kind Regards,

MrT

I too want to enter slowly into the BDSM community. I have been browsing the site for almost a yr, sheepishly just reading the stories and making my own fantasies, but I would like to take it to the next level. Problem is that I am slightly overweight and wondered if this is a problem in the community (5'9", 190lbs, DDD breasts)

Welcome Kardi

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Originally Posted by deliasubbie

... Problem is that I am slightly overweight and wondered if this is a problem in the community (5'9", 190lbs, DDD breasts)

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Is size and shape a problem in a community that adores all shapes and sizes? No, it's not. I'm 5'6 and 190 pounds of curvy woman, it hasn't slowed me down a bit.

If anything, perhaps taking it to the next level will help you find the confidence to start loving who you are and the wonderful things that you have to offer.

All sizes, shapes, colors etc add excitement to a bdsm life. I have never felt more secure in the desirability of my body as I do now. BDSM somehow brings things beyond the surface looks. I have never had such confidence in myself. I look nothing like the pages of a fashion magazine yet I exude confidence, even in my vanilla life. So fear not, take your time, explore your sexuality, enjoy your unique self, and realize your size doesn’t matter. Who you are is much more important when submitting or dominating. Welcome to the forums.

Welcome again Kardi and deliasubbie.

Physical appearance is not a factor in the BDSM world. Only thing it may do is slow down your stamina. heheee

I'm not the "jock type" when it comes to physique, but I have the stanima and imagination of a "stick boy".

All and all, weight especially does not rule you out of ANY place in the BDSM world. We all accept you into the community with open arms, sweetie.

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Originally Posted by deliasubbie

I too want to enter slowly into the BDSM community. I have been browsing the site for almost a yr, sheepishly just reading the stories and making my own fantasies, but I would like to take it to the next level. Problem is that I am slightly overweight and wondered if this is a problem in the community (5'9", 190lbs, DDD breasts)

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Dear Deliasubbie,

I'm very happy that you decided to post on the thread. Welcome to the community! Although I am new to this, which I admit, I do know that there is something about bdsm that gives one self confidence. Just take your time, be patient, and enjoy it! There is nothing more empowering than believing in yourself! If you ever want to chat, please feel free to contact me!

Sincerely,
Kardi

Well put for a newbie, Kardi. haha j/k

Glad we are all like FAM-ILY here. :)

Hello everyone again!

I would like to thank all of you for your support through out my beginnings. I do want to announce that I am no longer accepting emails any longer, for I believe I have found someone who will take me along my path. So, I would like to offically anounce that I am collared and unavailable!

Thank you all for your numerous responses, and I wish you all the best.

Sincerely,
Kardi

Kardi, congrats!

If you want to update you sig line and/or about yourself and/or role description with your new status, it will also cut the "private messages" down.

Thanks Ruby for the advice! I'll work on it as soon as possible. Or should I say, as soon as I figure out how to.

Thanks again!

Kardi

Kardi, if you need help updating your profile and signature...just ask sweetheart. :cool:

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Originally Posted by a_curious_poet

Well put for a newbie, Kardi. haha j/k

Glad we are all like FAM-ILY here. :)

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I probably don't belong in this thread, but I couldn't resist. For the first time in a long while I feel excited and good about myself. I'm a 50 year old, overweight male sub more comfortable with a male master than a woman.

I joined the forum a few days ago and read practically all the threads. You're right - it really is like family. Makes me want to belong so badly!

I've been married for 27 years now and relatively happy, but our sex life is very plain vanilla. I often travel on company business and most of the time I'm alone in a hotel or motel room. That's when I let loose with my toys that I carry with me - butt plugs, ball stretcher, rope, paddle, needles. Solitary pleasures that I can finally share with someone without feeling guilty or ashamed of it.

I've signed up for tasks in the Academy, and responded to a personal ad. I'm really anxious to be given tasks and find someone that I can please.

Thanks for the chance

I think this thread is a GOOD place for you to be. Sharing your own personal experiences can only encourage others. Thank you for posting!

By the way, Kardi, congratulations!!!!

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Originally Posted by jroos41

I probably don't belong in this thread, but I couldn't resist. For the first time in a long while I feel excited and good about myself. I'm a 50 year old, overweight male sub more comfortable with a male master than a woman.

I joined the forum a few days ago and read practically all the threads. You're right - it really is like family. Makes me want to belong so badly!

I've been married for 27 years now and relatively happy, but our sex life is very plain vanilla. I often travel on company business and most of the time I'm alone in a hotel or motel room. That's when I let loose with my toys that I carry with me - butt plugs, ball stretcher, rope, paddle, needles. Solitary pleasures that I can finally share with someone without feeling guilty or ashamed of it.

I've signed up for tasks in the Academy, and responded to a personal ad. I'm really anxious to be given tasks and find someone that I can please.

Thanks for the chance

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