A Question For Dominant Partners!

I ask this question because I am new to the scene and wish for understanding.

What emotions does the addition of BDSM in a relationship reinforce in a dominant partner to feel toward their submissive partner?... besides hopefully love. As a submissive partner, I understand that feelings of trust and the desire and pleasure recieved from the devotion to fill their partner's needs are feelings often reinforced through the play of BDSM on the submissive partner's side, but at the same time, what is the dominant partner feeling? In a healthy dominant/submissive sexual relationship, what feelings are reinforced through BDSM play that make their ties stronger to their submissive partner? And are the feelings that the dominant partner feel a form of reverse submission? :confused:Thanks :D

The aspects reinforced by the bonding between a dominant and his submissive for the dominant I believe would include the following: Control, confidence, power, honor, loyalty, self-worth, respect, and balance. I'm sure that this is a vauge and small list as there are others out there that have different feelings and desires boosted by their submissive partner. These are my thoughts, my opinions, but I do believe there is some truth with them as well. Intriguing question Lilly.

Regards,
D.K.

i think there's also the feeling of someone depending on you, protective feelings...

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Originally Posted by Lilly My Sweet

I ask this question because I am new to the scene and wish for understanding.

What emotions does the addition of BDSM in a relationship reinforce in a dominant partner to feel toward their submissive partner?... besides hopefully love. As a submissive partner, I understand that feelings of trust and the desire and pleasure recieved from the devotion to fill their partner's needs are feelings often reinforced through the play of BDSM on the submissive partner's side, but at the same time, what is the dominant partner feeling? In a healthy dominant/submissive sexual relationship, what feelings are reinforced through BDSM play that make their ties stronger to their submissive partner? And are the feelings that the dominant partner feel a form of reverse submission? :confused:Thanks :D

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OK lilly,
I answer with the admonition that a “healthy Dominant/submissive sexual relationship” is a matter of taste and tolerance and would vary from Dom to Dom
so take this counsel for what it’s worth.
First trust is of course a two way street which is necessarily reinforced in both partners when they delve into these activities. Communication (verbal and not) sharpens when you're out on the edge. When you make yourself vulnerable to your Dom you stir up feelings of lust of course but also possessiveness and ultimately (paradoxically) protectiveness. Though I admit expressing protectiveness with a flogger is a little bit difficult to understand/explain ( guess you had to be there).
Call me a romantic but when you worship your Dom it’s really hard for them not to cherish and adore you back. I’m sure it happens but not that often in my opinion.
Oh yeah, confusion can be the first step to enlightenment :)

Lews the Mad

The other two sums it up pretty well.

Id like to add affection. For me i feal that my gf love is shown in a wery real and unquistionable. Its really more intensive than just saying "i love you". But many more fealings are in it all than that. There is also the bonus of an interesting sex life, better communication (forced through the need for honesty), you get closer to the person as they throw away the masks which also increases the confidence in the relationship (no surprise can be bigger than this ;) ), self confidence (your being yourself and no one is laughing, running away etc). There is just so many positive things in it, that it is hard to list them all :) even at the everyday there is positive feedback from d/s, when i look in my gf eyes, i can allmost see all of our shared secrets rolling in the back of my mind, it simply brings us closer together! Also when interacting with others our knowleadge of each other aids us. Im sure that we appear as "one unity" to others when they meet us :) i think i could go on rambling of all the good things my gf has brought me.... finally one might say its ok to be the freak i am :)

there are more than one feeling, obviously...probably the biggest would be trust and protection. I also love the feeling of having someone that will go through anything I want, just to make me happy...I guess, servitude? maybe is a good word..?
To be honest, I have never felt more in love and more complete than after finishing a scene...I feel...perfect.