Greetings. *smile*
My husband and I have been slowly but surely incorporating more and more BDSM elements into our lifestyle and we've sort of reached a point where he, as my Dom, has run out of role models. I wouldn't say we're "newbies", exactly, but we have never been part of "the scene" so in that sense we're pretty clueless.
One area he has identified as something he wishes to work on is just his overall demeanor. He is by nature a very quiet and unassuming person, but I am rather loud and brash and require a bit more firmness than he naturally posesses. We have talked about small things...such as instead of asking me if I want to perform some act; he should either just tell me to do it, grab my hair/rope/chain and make me do it, or if he wants to hear me talk about it order me to beg for it. The question gives me an option, and breaks the flow for both of us.
It is small things like this that he would like to polish up, so that I never am snapped out of my submission.
It is nice that this is mutual for us...he wishes to dominate me, and I wish to submit to him. Delight!
He suggested that I read several BDSM "how-to" books and BDSM fantasy novels and select some that would be good for him to read. (I am a fast reader and he is a busy man) But I am afraid I will remember too well what was in the books and recognize his words/actions as being from the book and again be snapped out of the scene. He agrees this may be a problem.
So, I thought maybe the good folks here could help me. *smile* Can anybody recommend books or DVD's featuring some "good" domination scenes that may help give him some ideas and techniques?
I had my first "golden shower" this past weekend and it pleased my Husband very much, he says I must learn to cheerfully drink his piss from my own dog bowl which he will be giving me as a present before the end of the year. It pleases me to please him so if you have resources relating directly to Piss Whore training that would be perfect as I have much to learn before I please him properly.
(He dictated that last paragraph after I read this post to him for approval, but said I could at least tell you HE made me say it since this is my first post here and I don't want to sound like too much of a freak. Yes, he enjoys humiliating me quite a bit. *blushing*)
That is another thing I may as well ask about now that I'm beet red anyway...we are looking to purchase a cage for me, but do not have a lot of space to store something like that (it will have to fold and slide under the bed), and also not a TON of money to spend. The cage needs only be big enough for me to be on my hands and knees and able to turn around in. We have looked at inexpensive dog kennel type cages but the openings aren't large enough for my husband to have proper access to me. Can anybody recommend a good site that may stock such a thing for a good price? Most importantly it must be sturdy yet foldable...we can budget and save up if it is expensive. I am just wary of spending a lot on something that turns out to be not very useful.
Thank you *smile*
