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Hi all, i am a sub and sort of new to the lifestyle. For the last few years i read a lot of bdsm fiction, always longing for more, to connect with someone and learn how to be a sub, not just read about it.
Funny thing is, in my day to day life i am always focussed on being in control...it's exhausting though. i long to let that go, to find a dom and submit completely and know that i am pleasing him in doing so.
i have a lot to learn first though i think and i'm glad to be here
Please let me correct myself. I am ready to be an online slave onlyQuote:
Originally Posted by yama
for an occasion. This very morning a gentleman was so kind as
to treat me as his slave, my pussy and my nipples are still sore with
his treatment. :-) I subject myself happily to such treatment any
possible time, but I can't offer myself for a lasting relationship.
I go away for Christmas and New Year, and after that I move in a
flat where I won't have a computer. Buying one from my salary
is a thing which will come only later.
Thank you if you took the time to read this.
Hey I'm subbie7.
I'm totally new at this. I've never had a real relationship with a Dom before, and only a really awkward set of conversations with one on the internet. I don't know where to go and what to do and I'm terribly lost. One day I want to have a Dom, I want to submit and be owned and loved...but I don't think that I ever will. Sorry, I have no self confidence and never have.
hi new to the lifestyle been a sub/slave for 7 months now
in real life, my name says is all it's what i love best to
suck his cock when ever he demands...
we dont live together but i am available whenever
he calls....i am comfortable with our relationship and cant see
myself in any other kind of relationship...
i am looking forward to many rewarding years with the same Dom/Master....
i have learned alot from this
website and i thank everyone for the information that has been
provided here
Welcome to all the new members. I hope you find what you need here.
Hi. I'm very new to the the lifestyle and am nervous how to even begin anything.
I'm 18 with a deep submissive streak and have been interested in the D/s scene for a long while.
I just thought I'd pop in and introduce myself instead of lurking creepily in the shadows *grins*
Talk to eveyone later :D
hello.
i have been on the forum for a while and came to the conclusion that i'm submissive. although i dont know the what extent yet. i hope i can find out who i realy am and have fun in the proces :).
I am Amislaaf (American Slave) who lives in Europe, I enjoy humiliation and serving my wife (mistres) and her bf's (my masters), I do not enjoy sucking cock and eating cum, but it is who I am and i do as told... also the humiliation is over powering the dislike.
Hello Everyone:
My name is unmastered( enough said hmmm?) I have allways known I was a sub from the very begining. Its hard to get what you really desire when you were so many hats. I have allways been a leader in school, business, friends so men just thought it natural and was at ease when i led them in other areas. It was just a means to get them to do or say what I really needed for myself( can anyone understand what I mean). You would have thought that one of them wanted to take me down a peg or two...lol In the end I always left due to lack of respect for them. I never wanted a man I could control even though they made it easy.
I have had a Dom( sort of) in the past,but I was not ready for his caliber of training although we were really good friends( with him it was and still is all-or-nothing).
There is a lot I do not know but am very eager to learn.
I am too old to cont. to settle for anything else than complete bliss and surrender as a woman.
Its unfortunate for others in my life.... I really hope that they can keep up...lol
unmastered
My name is Amislaaf, which stands for American Slave. I live in Europe and am married to my Mistress. I serve her and her lovers (both male and female).
I enjoy being a slave and enjoy the humiliation of servicing her lovers and cleaning her after. Life is good as a slave and the humiliating f some of the things I must do really adds to my excitement and I think it is what keeps me happy as a slave/cocksucker whimp hubby or whatever she deems to call me.
Been in the lifestyle for only about the last 7 years and really enjoy it, would love to take it to a complete 24/7 but guess we or I am not ready for that yet.
Anyway anyone can feel free to contact me and ask questions or offer advice both are welcome...
Amislaaf
Hello all. i am lindsey and i am just lost, i dont know what to do, where to go. i am not happy being free and i am not in the proper frame of mind to submit, assuming that Anyone would want me. i have not the strength to be free nor the strength to submit as my heart wish me to. i was happy as a slave but now know that i am unable to be one. This doesnt mean that i am not at heart a slave, just that i am not able to be one. All i long for is to wear the collar of my Mistress and to serve Her. i could use some one to talk to, advice, anything would help.
Thank you for your time lindsey
Since I'm new here I'll introduce myself; hope to become part of the regular bunch.
I'm 30 and live on the west coast of the US of A. Highly intellectual type who needs to unwind now and again. I've been interested in sub bx since I can remember my first rape fantasies. Have lived out power play though casual encounters, mostly just getting off on being the seducer/ee. I guess the term is "switch"?
Married now and trying to figure out how to bring the power play into a marriage grounded in friendship and affection, and with a partner for whom the bdsm scene is unappealing. After yet another crazy sub dream, I woke up yesterday determined to find a community, and here I am.
Yesterday it occurred to me that I can reconsider my current relationship in new terms, and can recognize and take pleasure from the ways I "serve" my fella. It was a nice one for me, especially given my fella's general disinterest in bdsm culture. But I'm wondering how to expand, and how to draw him in, if possible. You can see my question along this line posted on the newbie forum (How to "bring it up" and Marriage).
I'm just so happy to meet you all, and to read how diverse our stories are. I certainly don't fit into any of the stereotypical boxes I thought bdsm was all about! Thanks to this site for helping me out there.
I'd love to hear more from my sisters out there on how to bring power play to a marriage, the change from casual to marriage, how to explore my own side without breaking the terms of my commitment -- some swinging w/ mutual participation is ok, but I don't see my fella swinging this way, and online "affairs" are off limits too. But I want to explore this sub side, and not sure how to do it. HELP!
hello! i'm kaerose, or kae. i'm a submissive masochist, though i generally will not submit without a good fight first. i'm young (20) and very new to the scene, though my fantasies have always been violent and "dark". i had one rl Dom for about a year, though he wasn't much of a Dom. i was much more into it than he was. right now i am starting with an online Dom; i really hope this works out.
Hello, i may have did this a couple of years ago but im back so i'll do it again, lol.
Im a 23 year old sub and love the feeling of being used for my mistresses entertainmant. My Mistress is kind of new to the whole thing, we started dating a year ago, and although we had spoken about S/M before we got together she had very little idea of what it involved. now we enjoy Rubber, boot licking, bondage, masks, gags, blindfolds, butt plugs, and are experimanting with humiliation, which is great fun (if you know what i mean).
Although i have been into and practising BDSM in many ways and forms i feel there is always still so much to learn and discover.
Looking forward to seeing you all around
Subdude :bondage:
hey there
i listed in my profile that i was a switch, but im really more of a sub. i like to sub (ALOT) but bc my husband likes to sub everynow and then, i am somewhat of a dom. i like both, but again, i like subbing more.
history, i just got into the lifestyle, really, when i married my husband. i had had sum experience b4 that, mostly nails and biting, nothing much, and some of my friends were like, well thats bdsm. so, my husband and i checked it out, and have been learning about it since. still pretty much an amatuer. but i like being whipped, and some knifeplay. being forced, being tied down, again, still pretty much an amatuer, and trying to learn more everyday.
Welcome to all the new submissives who have taken tht time to introduce themselves the last few weeks. I hope you enjoy the library forums and find what you seek here. :wave:
Hello, I'm Sanapet, you may call me Sana if you wish.
I'm 19 and have been with my current Master for almost three years. He is my first Master and also the love of my life. I would do anything for Him. We met online and had a very extensive relationship through web cam, phone calls, and chat/IM. We met the first time last summer when I graduated high school and went to college. As said above he is my first Master and I am his first slave so we've just been learning together. We make up alot of the rules according to what we both enjoy and can tolerate.
He has recently discovered the relieving sensation that comes from Serving as bottom and he has been encouraging me to explore my Domme side. I'm having a bit of trouble, being a natural submissive since before I really knew what being submissive meant. So if anyone has any advice on Switching I would much appreciate the advice.
Also, I'm very open about myself and don't mind answering any question anyone might have for me.
Sana
Ok I've been here a couple months but I'm just getting around to this now. SLACKER! yes I know.
ANYWAYS! Hi I'm Kahlann. I am currently in a wonderful relationship. My boyfriend is completely new to the idea of dominating someone, but after learning about it [like a months worth of heavy research] he has happily embraced it. This is my first D/s relationship and I've never been happier. I've been reading about and interested in BDSM for several years though.
I've enjoyed reading many of the posts here and have learned quite a bit I feel. I always look forward to coming on here and finding new discussions and ideas.
wanted to re-introduce myself back into the forums. I have been a member for sometime but disappeared for awhile. I have been going through some drastic changes in my life. All for the better, though.
Through these past 2-3 months in my life my world has been lifted to new heights. I have found my true soul-mate, my twin-flame. My life is complete bliss. Happy, joyous, incredible.. perfect. mine and Bear's relationship started off vanilla. He knew i had strong submissive tendencies, but i was not willing to push those on Him. Bear has very strong Dom tendencies also, but He has never acted on them, nor acknowledge them. His previous relationships we're completely vanilla. W/we lived in distance (4hour drive) for the first 2 months, yet seeing each other regularly. W/we talked about the idea of a true D/s relationship on and off, but W/we're finding it difficult due to the separation.
I moved in with Bear almost one month ago. He collared me promptly and W/we both started on one of the greatest journeys of O/our lives. i could not be happier right now. i feel like i am finally home, finally where my heart belongs.
Now that the stability in my relationship with Bear has returned, W/we are ready to fully accept O/our desires for one another. The single greatest gift i ever received was finding the man of my dreams. i could never love another person more then i love Bear xx
Thanks so much for reading this small blip of the story i call my life. It feel so good to be back!!
-Kitten {DG}
Hello
Im fluffy, (truely i dont mind being called fluffy)
Im a sub, known i have been since i was in my early teens, had various D/s relationships in my late teens but was not experienced enough to explore further.
I fell in love with a fabulous vanilla man and thought i could supress my sub side, we married and had a wonderful son.
Unfortunately my sub side would not be so easily quelled (if only we could Dom ourselves eh?) resulting in divorce after 18 years.
I have a wonderfully strict Master who knows me inside and out, but i also need to find myself (tsk @ the age of 38, a bit late i know). im not here looking for a fling or replacement. im here looking to converse with ppl that understand where im coming from.
thanks
Hello! I just joined the forums this evening. Pleasure to meet all of you.
I'm a 21 bisexual submissive female. I'm engaged but my fiance isn't into anything more than light spankings. I, on the other hand, am into more extreme things. I discovered what I like and who I am had a name and so much more to it at the age of 14. I've been hooked ever since.
I hope I'm able to contribute to the already numerous intelligent people on this forum.
Hi everyone!
I just joined the site a few days ago and have been reading and learning. Let me introduce myself.
I am a sub and always have been but did not figure it out until 8 years ago. Due to my work and travel I have been out of the lifestyle for the past 5 years so a I re-learning and learning new things about myself and the lifestyle.
I am currently in a relationship with a DOM who himself is just learning about himself and the BDSM lifestyle. We are hoping to learn from those that have been a part of the community for long time with much experience.
I just want to say thank you to those of you who have pm me and those who have made me feel welcome. I do not know where this journey will take me but I am excited to find out.
Stay safe always and celebrate everything!
blueyes
hello i'm megaen, i've been in the D's lifestyle for about 4 years, my husband introduced me to it. pretty much here to gain knowledge, information, talk to other people in the lifestyle, or ask questions been trying to find a good site to do that and this one seems like a good one for that :D
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Originally Posted by nia25
I'm back... this is me. :)
Hello everyone,
i am called blue by my Master. i live in Florida with my Master/Husband,
i am what you would call a late bloomer, always have had these feelings and wants but in the previous relationship he was as vallina as they come therefore i was deemed a pervert when i ask a few questions about it. But much to my delight i have found someone who actually had been in this wonderful lifestyle for years but was leary of telling me about it.
i am still learning and as you know it is not easy starting out.
i did not mean to write a book lol but i think this is a wonderful site and it is nice to be able to share things with like people.
blue
Hi, I joined a few months ago but am brand new to taking a more active role on the site. I know i have some submissive tendancies as well as a few masochistic ones, but don't have the experience to rule anything out as a possibility at this point. I'm really lookin forward to being more active in exploring this side of me that I tried to ignore for way too long.
Welcome to all the new submissives who have taken tht time to introduce themselves the last few weeks. I hope you enjoy the library forums and find what you seek here. :wave:
Hello, I am uber new to the scene. I am in a play relationship with a Dom/top. I have only had relationships until now. Translate that to reallllly boring sex so far! So, NOW I am breaking out and I want to be a better bottom for my top. I have NO idea how to submit though. Apparently, I submit a bit, but I have been too pushy. How do I be a good bottom? What makes a top hot when their bottom does (fill in blank). I want to make my top totally hot for me and be the best bottom ever. I have NO problems letting my top do whatever, but I just don't know the parameters of good bottom versus pushy bad bottom. I don't want to just lie there, but, um, HELP. I am sooo lost on this and don't want to have my Dom keep saying tsk tsk!!
Good evening all, (Or morning, if you're reading this in the morning.) My name is Corey and I've gone by the handle Wolf since I was about twelve. I'm twenty four years old, Bisexual (Leaning towards Men), five-foot-six and heavy. I've been interested in BDSM since about the time I started being interested in Sex, but I didn't realize it. I've always been interested in Bondage, and in the past few years have found myself drawn to pain. Cutting, punching walls, etc. Most of the time it is a stress relief, but the more I think about it, the more I realize that this pain turns me on. I seek a good Online Dom, though Miss DJade has graciously offered to start teaching me more about being a Submissive and pleasing one's owner. I jumped at the offer and I hope to be the perfect slave for my Dom some day.
<3
Wolf
Hello, I am SubmissiveCandy...I have always had a submissive hidden in me but never was able to bring it out until this year when I met Sir. I was treated like a slave with one of my ex's and that lasted two months before we broke it off officially. He was not nice...he was abbussive but I couldn't do anything about it.
I tried being a switch but I couldn't do it. I am a submissive and I was pissing my master off because I was getting out of hand. I feel horrible about doing that but I am learning to hold my tongue no less as well as how to be a good sub.
I am always looking for ways to please my master. I love the lifestyle and I have found someone to make my dreams come true. I don't know what I would do without Sir...I am so glad that I came into the lifestyle. I have never been so happy in my life.
I hope everyone here enjoys their time in the library and of course outside of it. *hugs* to everyone and if you have any questions feel free to ask!
Hello everyone, my name is blake, i'm a male slave age 23, located in Tempe AZ, still looking for the right One to serve. i once read its better to own yourself than to be owned by the wrong person, and so the hunt continues. i've known that i was a sub since i was four, one of those cases due to sexual abuse. i found out about bdsm around 10 via the net, even before the sex drive kicked in, and everything after that was history. To most i portray the innocent, well mannered, young man, but to those who know me, i'm a another person entirely. Although only a few relationships in this world, some online, some in person, i've spent much of my time these past years finding out who i am, what submission means to me, why i need to submit, and who i'm looking to submit to. Difficult questions to ask, and answer. i love to laugh, and i also love to cry, although i'm not a pain addict, i know when i need it, and when i don't. i love people, yet i live alone. i'm willing to try anything once, but still have my favorites, and old habits. In the end i'm looking for those who can broaden my view of the world, show me new ways of thinking, and new ways of doing old things.
Hello, I'm Emma, I'm 18 and live in New England/PA.
My Dom and I are pretty new to this, we've been experimenting with it for about a year. I've always been a submissive person, but He's the only one who has been able to really draw it out of me and enable me to explore the lifestyle and accept my kinks for what they are.
This is an amazing site, I'm so glad I found it, everyone here has been so welcoming and supportive, I sincerely encourage anyone reading this who isn't already a member to become one so s/he can partake in all this awesome place has to offer.
Hey I'm Raineyswench or will be very soon, I have finally found my calling, :) I have a lot to learn and am an eager student. Hoping to benefit from your knowledge and experiences.
Hi, everyone I have been a sub for over 5 years now, I am 26 years old. I have just recently found myself with a new Dom, my boyfriend, we have been together of a year now and I have just started to introduce these ideas to him. Luckily we are on the same page. About the same time I met him my previous Dom/sub relationship had fallen apart after almost 4 years.
Hi! I'm Dale. I am a very submissive, very bi male with only a slight amount of experience. From what I know of this community so far, it is really nice. I feel I am finally surrendering to my submissive nature and I am finding it so refreshing and comforting to be online with others who have similar or complimenting desires. I am very impressed by how unforced and natural people are here. Anyway, I am glad to be here.
Hi,
i've always know, but not always accepted, that i'm submissive. i've been with my husband for 10 years but only recently told Him of my interest in BDSM, luckily he felt the same way!
the only small problem is with Him getting used to the fact that its ok to do what He does to me.
we're both learning from square one and have both done the checklist mentioned on this site and its helped us tremendously.
Hi. I have introduced myself through other posts here but will summarize in this one. I am drawn to the lifestyle, although due to extenuating circumstances am uncertain if I am ready to delve in yet. I am reading a ton of posts, learning what I can and trying to see if there is a 'fit'. I thank you all for being here and sharing your experiences. It has been tremendously helpful.
Hello to all!!!! Have been lurking in the background for sometime, reading, chatting but never posted. So finally stepped up to the plate and now I dont have to see that notice anymore to make a post.
:wave:
Welcome all.
Hello am 33 yo engineer from Lattakia, i love to think about my self as a slave but never found the chance to make it real in anyway, all what i c around is guys looking 4 a quick fuck with no fantasies @ all:-(
I love 2 b forced to worship feet tied up humiliated, beaten on my feet .......
hope i ll ind some1 here:pray: