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Hi, Red. My first appearance here in months... and so delighted to finid this thread at once. It is brilliant... and a lot of it resonates for me like mad. I don't consider myself a slave... nor does he call himself a Master... and yet, a lot, lot lot of the attitudes - and problems! - are the same. And... it's all good to learn, and so hard. So thanks, Red, for talking this through with us.
I am loving this thread, Red. Best one I've come across in awhile.
I used to have a problem with this as well, but really, a 'Daddy' relationship really helped me be able to ask for things more easily. I mean what's the worst that could happen? He would say no...right? He's not likely to punish you for asking, unless of course he specifically told you not to ask him that. LOL I think what made it harder sometimes was the fact that I am a shy person in general...and just asking for things...didn't even have to be naughty things...I just always felt like, if he wanted me to have it, he'd let me know. And I didn't want to bother him with it. A lot of the times I had to talk myself into asking for things. Yeah, I know...silly. lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Voodoo_Child
Oh honey you are preaching to the choir here. I would stutter all over myself when he asked me a question or told me to repeat after him sometimes. It was like, I wanted to answer him sooooo bad, but my brain (and mouth) just froze up! Especially if it was something humiliating. And me hesitating or stuttering like that, of course it got on his nerves. LOL Can't blame him.Quote:
It's even hard to repeat after him. I hesitate a lot, which sometimes results in some mild hair pulling. *smiles* I still don't always immediately answer.
Pssst...I think his opinion is the only one that really matters, hun. And I can just about guarantee you that he doesn't think you suck at the whole submissive thing. ;)Quote:
Is anyone else out there thinkin' I really suck as this whole submissive thing? 'Cause I sure as hell do!