Which one are you?

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Originally Posted by gloombunny

(I'd have done the former by now except I'm not very articulate and am still trying to find a way to express my thoughts, and I was all set to do the latter until I saw people getting bitched at for not hammering their square peg into a round hole.)

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No, no. Nobody was bitching because they weren't doing it, I was complaining because they weren't even trying to see if their peg fit in any of the holes.

*giggles* I don't know how many noticed but I neatly avoided answering my own question while i sat and read all yours *s*

I thought I'd better get out which boxes I like ;)

Mainly and mostly, I am a pleasure slave - in all ways and manners - truly to hear Him say I've pleased Him is the absolute bottom line and spins my tummy like I can't even believe. Next to that is a pleasure sex slave, I do believe I was born to please in such a manner and quite enjoy bringing that to Him and for Him. I have some curiosities in pain but wouldn't call myself a painslut but who knows, maybe having those explored and tested may bring it out of me or I may scream blue murder and never want it again hehe

I know I'm not a brat, and think it unbecoming of a slave entirely (just my opinion) but many Dominants love that fire that a brat brings. I won't say I'm not without a bit of imp sometimes tho ;)

And lastly I would say I am a bit of a babygurl sub although I'm not at all into Age Play or the Daddy/daughter thing, if that makes any sense lol (must be the coddling part hehe)

There are other things in my make-up of course, as they are with all of you, those are just some of the more powerful ones within me *s*

*claps for mastersgem* :)

all I see here are boxes with some trying to find one to fit into and some trying there best to climb out. A box is a fixed boundary and any fixed boundary restricts growth and change. Therefore is change that some want and some don't. Is it not the fear of change that causes most problems in this world and is an adult regardless of nature able to decide on thier own without enforced boundaries.
Or am i just an anchist

[QUOTE=sub-timmi;584144 Is it not the fear of change that causes most problems in this world and is an adult regardless of nature able to decide on thier own without enforced boundaries.
Or am i just an anchist[/QUOTE]

Personally, I prefer enforced boundaries :d

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Originally Posted by Isabella King

Personally, I prefer enforced boundaries :d

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lmfao!!

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Originally Posted by sub-timmi

all I see here are boxes with some trying to find one to fit into and some trying there best to climb out. A box is a fixed boundary and any fixed boundary restricts growth and change. Therefore is change that some want and some don't. Is it not the fear of change that causes most problems in this world and is an adult regardless of nature able to decide on thier own without enforced boundaries.
Or am i just an anchist

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I'm trying to understand the point of this, but failing. Someone explain.

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Originally Posted by sub-timmi

all I see here are boxes with some trying to find one to fit into and some trying there best to climb out. A box is a fixed boundary and any fixed boundary restricts growth and change. Therefore is change that some want and some don't. Is it not the fear of change that causes most problems in this world and is an adult regardless of nature able to decide on thier own without enforced boundaries.
Or am i just an anchist

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Eh, perhaps this thread could be taken this way. I prefer to look at it from a slightly different perspective. Sometimes, things come in boxes and in fixed containers. We can leave everything in the box it came in, or, we can take a little something out of each box and each container and blend to make the mixture that suits us. If we find an ingredient we don't have a flavor for, leave the lid on that container and move on. Easy as that.

I like cake.

I have a basic recipe for chocolate cake I use all the time. Once I have the basic ingredients put together, I modify that recipe nearly each and every time I bake. I can go double chocolate, German chocolate, with frosting or without, Black Forest cherry chocolate, you name it. However, do I get offended when someone asks me what went into the "chocolate cake?"

Most of us have already labeled ourselves: Doms, subs, or switches. I don't think this thread is trying to pack us into boxes so much as give a few variations for us to be able to explain the subtleties within these titles.

There, my two cents. Now I want cake... ;)

Now I'm gonna be looking through my cupboards for cake ingredients too, dangit!

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Originally Posted by Wedjat

Now I'm gonna be looking through my cupboards for cake ingredients too, dangit!

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Cake is rarely a bad thing, Wedjat... Have your cake and eat it too!

lol Amber, well being that I'm completely Unique (haha) and don't like cake or any kind of sweets for that matter, I think I'll take my ingredients and make a lovely manicotti or lasgagne hehe

The beauty of the lifestyle is we get to use what bits and bites (mmmmm bites) suit us each best as no two submissives will agree on liking all the same things and nor will two Masters - the combinations are infinite and that just makes all of us Uniquely lucky *s*

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Originally Posted by Xavier

Great post, mastersgem. A valuable list.

As an aside (not making light), it almost reads like an RPG class list. "World of Worship"... now there's an idea. :)

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:D

A friend of mine who was getting into BDSM for the first time actually phrased it kind of like that... "I'm not sure I'm ready for sex with character classes." :)

On topic, I think that I'm some of almost all of those. I mostly think of myself as a "pet," but I definitely have aspects of the babygirl, the brat and the pain slut. :)

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Originally Posted by gloombunny

*obligatory protest that the difference between "slave" and "submissive" is largely overblown and it has more to do with personal aesthetics than anything else*

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Yeah, I agree with this post.

My husband and I prefer not to use the term "slave" because we're from the Southern US and find that the term brings up a lot of history that's more shameful than exciting to us. It has nothing to do with the depth of our relationship or our power exchange -- it just isn't the term we prefer. "Pet" suits me better, anyway. :)

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Originally Posted by Hime

Yeah, I agree with this post.

My husband and I prefer not to use the term "slave" because we're from the Southern US and find that the term brings up a lot of history that's more shameful than exciting to us. It has nothing to do with the depth of our relationship or our power exchange -- it just isn't the term we prefer. "Pet" suits me better, anyway. :)

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I agree on using the term in certain places Hime - one has to be very careful not to draw the wrong attention from those who don't understand and in the South would be one area, I think, to be extremely cautious ;)

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Originally Posted by mastersgem

Where do you fall in the 'types' of sub / slave?


Pets - the leash and collar slave/sub, generally assuming a very low profile to her Dominant, serving her Master on hands and knees, laying at his feet always or on a cushion beside his chair, very much relying on his every word and command to serve and please Him

Brat subs - these gurls like attention, be it negative or positive, they will go out of their way to draw attention to themselves through sassy acts to gain what they want from their Doms, usually punishment - Brat is not usually a term assigned to a slave as a slave would never intentionally draw her Masters annoyance, dissappointment or anger for any reason

Pain slaves / subs (the masochist) - are ones who enjoy pain in their pleasure and can vary as i said earlier to the very light to the extreme edgeplayer, either way they enjoy the stimulation brought about by the physical pain brought to them at the hand of their Dom/Master

Business slave / sub - is the one you will read the least about when reading online journals. This is a person who will happily take on tasks for the dominant that are related to work. Often, the dominant owns his own business, and the slave will take care of the mundane paper work, accounting, organising or other activities that otherwise eat up the dominant's time. The slave will often be employed by the company, therefore having a salary. This by no means de-values the slave's position as submissive. It's often hard to recognise duality of the slave's life - dominance in work, submissive in nature

Domestic slave / sub - is one who takes great pride in looking after the home. She is tidy and organised, and is often a brilliant cook (whether she is a natural or had be to taught, she still enjoys it). There is nothing more satisfying for her than welcoming the dominant into his tidy, warm home after a day's work, with dinner about to be served.

Pleasure slave / sub - is the type most heard about when reading online journals. This is the type many submissives strive towards. A pleasure slave understands that her reason for being is to please the Master in all things sexual. Ideally, a pleasure slave will never be fully satisfied, so that she is always ready for sexual use or service. The slave has no say in when, where, nor who with; this is all up to the Master, who also has the responsibility to make sure the slave's safety is not compromised.

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*looking over the above recipie* yes, i'd say a dash of this, a smidgeon of that, etc. I don't believe gem was trying to place labels on anyone as we are all a mixture of many things. It was fun to look through the "types" and see which ones applied to me.

i will say that the *brat* portion is definately a 'dash' item in my own defense *smiles innocently*.

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Originally Posted by tydnchaynz

*looking over the above recipie* yes, i'd say a dash of this, a smidgeon of that, etc. I don't believe gem was trying to place labels on anyone as we are all a mixture of many things. It was fun to look through the "types" and see which ones applied to me.

i will say that the *brat* portion is definately a 'dash' item in my own defense *smiles innocently*.

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and now why don't I trust that smile hehe :icon176: