Internet relationship: blessing or torment?

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Originally Posted by twilight(Whippett)

In my experience depending on the people involved online relationships without rl contact can last more than 90 days- I had one that lasted over a year.

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Originally Posted by passenger

You might be not too emotional.

Or being a macho guy or a cruel emotionless bitch, not caring about those "commitment" things at all.

But spend some nice time with someone online 5-6 times, like it or not, you will get involved, emotions will start to sparkle between you two, you will start to feel something for that living being on the other side. You will start to care about that person.

And in the end - you might get hurt ... or hurt someone and feel sorry. Feel guilty. Feel like you betrayed someone that might have loved you. Just like in a real-life relationship.

It's amazing. Despite you try to convince yourself: come on, it's only online. Well, online matters too. :(

Because, like it or not - you are in a kind of relationship. Face it!

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Perhaps this is what you both are telling?
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/sh...731#post696731

the only good part is that it's easy to meet people online. other than that, i don't care for online relationships. i have tried a few times, and tried to put effort and commit to it and always felt like something was missing.

my frist online relationship was one that was good and bad. More bad then good. My love for him was real, and his love for me was real. When we stated talking it was like i was talking to a best friend, it felt like magic to me, it was wonderful, life changing even. But then again, it is easier to get your feelings hurt when you invest emotions into someone online.


Him and i broke it off in early August, and i am still heartbroken/hurt/scarred/and deeply in love with this person, thankfully for me he has in some ways dissapeared so we canot have contact anymore.

I dont think i would rule out another o/l relationship, but i know next time (if there is a next time) i will be more cautious and i will never find someone like him again, i know that but maybe ill find someone better, or someone that'll treat me better.

Who knows i may find someone in real time :)

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heh. i've asked myself that, i'm happy to see this topic here. Online relationships, for me at least, are a bitch--especially when one already has the predisposition to attach to others quite quickly. It's like logic clashes with emotions. [which isn't a first, i know]
I mean, one knows that the chances for anything happening real life are very very slim, and being 'clingy' is much harsher from an online point of view--let alone lack of touch, taste, smell. The internet, my head tells me, isn't the place to get what i'm missing. [But tell that to the emotions that have formed ties not easily severed with people i've come to care for. heh]

found this very interesting thought maybe could talk about it again

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