didnt read rooshoes post but she was spot on. Thatīs the kind of lies I was talking about. Simplifications as to actually make things better for them than a straight truth would.
now again. Where the heck is the edit button ??
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didnt read rooshoes post but she was spot on. Thatīs the kind of lies I was talking about. Simplifications as to actually make things better for them than a straight truth would.
now again. Where the heck is the edit button ??
I don't seem to suffer from diarrhea of the mouth when it comes to confessing to Daddy. In fact, I received my first punishment about a month ago, and I didn't confess the whole truth. I don't think I needed to, and I'll explain why.
I was supposed to make a phone call to follow up on some financial papers. I thought it was silly to call about them on Monday when I was told it would take 3-4 business days to receive them. I had planned on giving them 3 business days and then calling. Much to my dismay, when Daddy asked me about it, I had totally forgotten to make the call. I also didn't receive the forms I needed before my trip.
When I arrived, Daddy and I exchanged pleasantries and took my bag into his bedroom. He pulled my pants down and bent me over the bed where all of his toys were already laid out. I was happy and excited, thinking we were going to play, until he asked me if I remembered him telling me to do something. Unfortunately, there isn't a trap door built into the bed, and I was pinned in place. I gave the somewhat honest excuse that I just forgot to do it. There was no way in hell I was going to tell him that I didn't do it on purpose because I thought it was silly to call at the beginning of the week, especially since I did end up forgetting to do it later. He suggested that maybe I needed something to help me remember and proceeded to spank me. I usually enjoy spankings. Not so this time. In fact, I begged him to stop, and he didn't. He ignored my cries and continued until I was in tears and all hot and clammy from the pain. As I sniffled into the comforter, he lectured me on how disappointed he was, how things like this destroy trust and respect, and how I'd feel if he "forgot" to do something for me that I thought was important.
As I began to straighten myself up for dinner, which Daddy was cooking for me, he asked me if I was okay and whether or not I understood why I'd been punished. I understood perfectly that I deserved it, not so much for childish irresponsibility but for thinking I knew better than he did what needed to be done as well as how to do it and then failing. I was a smartass, and I was deeply ashamed of it. I ended up sobbing on his shoulder and telling him I was sorry. He stroked my hair and wiped my tears away then told me everything was okay and that he still loves me.
I don't think Daddy needed to hear the whole truth regarding that incident because I suspect he already knew. "I forgot" is such a flimsy excuse anyway and, as he pointed out, very disrespectful. It shows that my mind was not on the task and, therefore, not on pleasing him, which is my #1 priority. It's a lesson I won't "forget" anytime soon.
the TRUTH is telling the truth is going to get us punished but the punishment is way more harsh if they find out that we lied... its just somethin about a sub that makes them confess to a dominant that they have done wrong in some way its like in our minds we're thinkin hmmm maybe they will reward us or make a lighter punishment its all mental and plus i think most doms are psychic hehe
I tell Master everything to a fault. I don't want to keep anything from him. Better I tell him than he find out later. :icon176:
Thrall... lol im so with you on this...i do this shit too and i feel like a dumbass afterwards... lol.
it sucks i know.... but the punishment part is the worst.. i am in your shoes quite a bit... lol...
The worst part of being lied to is knowing you weren't worth the truth. This is something that I found somewhere and when I read it I cried for over an hour. My husband lied about every little thing. Petty things. It drove me nuts. Why did he lie? I have no clue. He says he doesn't know but it sure as hell told me I wasn't worth the truth. I try to be honest. Probably overly honest. I am missing that filter in my brain that says "hey don't say that it may hurt someone's feelers". I just fly off at the mouth and it well it's most likely why I chose sassy as my name ;)
Immediate confession....that's what I do....why? I really don't know...I'm actually on punishment this weekend because of it. It's funny, I'm not even sure if Master would have noticed one of my wrongs (2 mistakes on Friday).Quote:
Originally Posted by thrall
The second one was such a small tiny thing and I went and confessed it.
I am fairly new to this lifestyle and this is the first time I really felt the sting of my Master's disappointment in me...it made me cry...that's the worst punishment....
( :)thanks for listening also, I needed to get that off my chest....no one to talk to *sigh* )
I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you. - Friedrich NietzscheQuote:
Originally Posted by sassy75
The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves. We live in denial of what we do, even what we think. We do this because we’re afraid. We fear we will not find love, and when we find it we fear we’ll lose it. We fear that if we do not have love we will be unhappy. - Richard Bach
Sometimes men lie because they do not see the need to cause uneccesary hurt and sometimes because they fear the outcome of the truth.
I don't think we have to brutally open and honest all the time eg "Hows was your day today dear?" - "Great, I shagged my secretary and she's a real goer!". Yet lying or deceiving with a "I never had sex with that woman!" is equally not an option. Personally I try to shift the subject or answer truthfully but leave a different impression - "Don't ask me. You don't want to know!"