what's wrong with liking BDSM in the bedroom only? it's a great place to enjoy it. :)
it sounds like you're being a little hard on yourself. discovery is the most fun part of D/s - what you like, what you don't... just sit back and enjoy the ride.
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what's wrong with liking BDSM in the bedroom only? it's a great place to enjoy it. :)
it sounds like you're being a little hard on yourself. discovery is the most fun part of D/s - what you like, what you don't... just sit back and enjoy the ride.
Hun if you are just learning.. what is to say that maybe that bit of excitement will not flourish as you do in the BDSM world?Quote:
Originally Posted by bambina
The expectation and the anticipation can and will grow if allowed leading to more feelings towards the whole situation..
Just as a flower grows you are still a bud on a tiny stem that has not yet seen or shown your full potential.. enjoy what you have and allow yourself to grow before making any harsh judgement of whether you belong or not... you might find you bloom into a beautiful flower...
We all started off just as you... either as kids and fantasies... or as young adults still exploring for the first times...Not Belong..?? i dare say this is the best place to be .. to learn more and try and find yourself if this is something that even gives you the slightest little twinge of excitement... as you will find some of us maybe a bit more experienced then you ..but are more then willing to share that with you to help you grow and learn other ways you may enjoy it .. There is so much to this life.. it is not all about taking a punishment enjoying spanking or even rough play.. it can be sensual as well hun...
Many enjoy being tied down, teased and tantalized .. others like to be told what to do .. others enjoy pleasing their Master.. and the list goes on ..
So if you find interests at all even if it is bedroom enjoyment ...then i can honestly say this is the place to be... Even if it is just to find new ways to make it more interesting in the bedroom.. and hun i wasn't a 24-7 sub through the whole 25 yrs i have been a sub ... it started off slow just like you and grew... So don't be hard on yourself ..take your time... ask questions and learn from it ..but most of all enjoy what you do no matter what part you do...
Just my opinion again hun
hugs snow
I know someone that is trained to snaps.Quote:
Originally Posted by denuseri
Most people torture her with the addams family theme.
:cool:Woman's destiny is to be wanton, like the bitch, the she-wolf; she must belong to all who claim her.
:bondage:Marquis de Sade:bondage:
I am hoping this statement is a joke. But if not I am sorry hun. Scientifically and Bioligically you can while thinking about anything. there are physical triggers every woman has also. You just have to find them.Quote:
Originally Posted by MissConfused
:cool:Variety, multiplicity are the two most powerful vehicles of lust.
:bondage:Marquis de Sade:bondage:
In regards to the "masturbating while thinking of other things" I would think you would have to be thinking of something sexual to masturbate to orgasm, at least in my experience anyway. Mine is thinking about my mates...I guess that makes me a voyer, huh?
I can't imagine, personally, being able to orgasm in an instant like that. I don't know if it's because I haven't been doing this long enough, or because it's not something that has been...taught, I guess, or trained. I just find it hard to think of myself going from 0 to orgasm like that. Is it easier for certain types of people to do that?
Both! Some parts are just fun. What's not fun about dressing up sexy for your Dom? What's not fun about being teased until you blush? And what's not fun about being with a group of kinky people and actually being able to talk about sex and what we do?Quote:
Originally Posted by bambina
As for super-excited...it just depends on the person. Pony-play is super-exciting for some and leaves others cold. I have a friend who is very submissive but any pain is a hard limit. However, service turns her on mightily.
Like another poster said: "Diferent strokes for different folks." Sometimes literally. :D
In answer to your first question... Hell. Fucking. Yes. But I'm sure you are already getting that from the previous responses to your post. I just wanted to add some more on the other question you asked...
Hell yes. I didn't think so for years and years! I was convinced that even during sex and when I was involved in any other sexual activity (like oral, etc), I would have to fantasize in order to cum. And I did do so, for a long time (My fantasies often involved the same person and similar situation but much much darker, more devious circumstances...). About a year ago I met the most wonderful man, and I never have to fantasize when I'm with Him. I'm just *there*, with Him, I can't possibly fantasize, so much to do... feeling, touching, moaning, stroking, grabbing, experiencing, listening, craving, begging, pleasing... submitting... loving Him and feeling that all encompassing thrill when He is grabbing and pulling and groaning and pushing... hard... the thrill of His pleasure stronger than mine, urging mine... cumming :DQuote:
Originally Posted by bambina
So yay! No more being half checked-out during sex. When I'm fucking Him, I am 100% there and nowhere else. I think it may also have something to do with my feelings for Him. Oh, and of course, his super-fantastico, beyond-amazing bedroom abilities...
Now I can cum while masturbating without fantasizing easily, if I watch porn. I don't have to think about it, I just look, wank, and cum. But, it sucks and is absolutely no fun - more for when I am feeling lazy (and oddly, usually drunk. lol).
Well now how did these things change in the past few weeks?Quote:
Originally Posted by BrightFyrefly
Yes... There's nothing so sweet as hearing the words "Can you really do that?"
change to "How can you do that to me?"
Hate to say that isnt always true...i seldom masturbate for strictly that reason..I think too much and very easily distract myself...heck it happens even during pain play and i love that ....i'd love to find the dom who could make me lose myself in sensations and not think...lol...Quote:
Originally Posted by MissConfused
love the de Sade quote! ...mmm...every woman? are you speaking of physical triggers for instant orgasm??Quote:
Originally Posted by MasterDragon
Yes but more than that there are many other type of orgasms. Just depends on if someone can hit them. Some a difficult, though others are very easy.Quote:
Originally Posted by Velvet Rush
I must amend my statement earlier. I understand now the power of orgasming on command, and I have a lot of respect for it. Thank you, Master.Quote:
Originally Posted by MasterDragon