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I haven't been on the library in a very long time. And seeing this as the first post I have read is fairly upsetting in more ways than I care to count. I want you to know that you are incredibly strong and that (although I am not religious) between your obvious strength and your faith ,I am sure that you will make it through anything thrown your way. These words seem feeble to me to express the immesity of how I feel. The world is filled with "evil" people but those like you are our hope. Good luck in everything and anything you may do. But from what I've read...I don't believe you will need it. I hope I have expressed myself properly. Its always darkest before dawn.

denuseri=i havnr put my address or phone number on ,as for my ic i dont care anymore from now i am what i am,no more hiding it is all i am saying

Thats your perogative, I hope it serves you well, and I shall pray for your saftey.

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Originally Posted by daddiesslavegirl

denuseri=i havnr put my address or phone number on ,as for my ic i dont care anymore from now i am what i am,no more hiding it is all i am saying

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While i understand what you are saying here, please keep in mind that there are always dangers involved when you put your photo on the net. There is no taking it back. Remember that if you have children, this photo can be found by them, either now or in the future.

Likewise, remember that we are considered mentally ill in many circles. You don't just have to worry about stalkers, in other words. There will be times when you are better served to keep this side of your life a secret. The words of The Gambler come to mind:

"YOU GOT TO KNOW WHEN TO HOLD EM, KNOW WHEN TO FOLD EM, KNOW WHEN TO WALK AWAY, AND KNOW WHEN TO RUN"

This isn't only for card players.

Trust me on this one, it really can come back to bite you. i know that you are excited since you've outed yourself. You feel that people should accept you for who and what you are, or go on and leave you alone. But there is always a price to pay, and you can't even begin to imagine how this can affect the things that you do in the future.

Enjoy your newfound freedom! i am certainly not interested in dampening your fire here, but you really do need to be smart. Stop and think before you act, always.

yes you are right ,im so sorry for being so foolish,thank you

If it's any consolation, I doubt if your stepdad is getting the free pass it may have sounded like at the time. A common pattern for people in your mother's position is to blame the victim in the first shock of denial, but to take a more balanced view when they've had time to cool down and think.

She's going to start asking her husband some nasty questions. "I was helplessly seduced" is not a dignified excuse for a man even if he's believed, and it doesn't carry a lot of weight in the 21st century.

As for your own husband, I may be wrong, but I get the feeling that you already had little commitment to that marriage emotionally, it just represented comfort and material security. You don't say if he beat you before, but you don't sound surprised at this one, so we are entitled to assume the worst. It's not unusual for people with submissive needs to mistake abusers for dominants, and it takes not only courage but clear understanding to break loose from that.

I've lost two lovers who chose to stay in unfufilling relationships for the house and the money, and I still feel sorry for them. You will look back on this as your day of liberation.