The Same Partner Or Different?

I would say that if you have a loving rel, then you can switch rolls. but why would you want to. I not much of a dom person do i would not know what to do if he wanted that.

I don't know exactly where I fall in all of this... but my ONE partner and I switch roles. More often, I'm dominant and he's submissive but we change it up. I am a one person kinda girl, so I don't think I could do it any other way.

When I was a Switch, I found that the women I was attracted to as Tops were firmly in the Dominant category and I could not consider them ever changing (nor could they). Equally, those I approached as subs were definitely subs and were certainly less dominant than I am and again they would not change.

My personal opinion (based on years of observation) is that all humans (even vanilla ones) fall somewhere on a scale between submissive and dominant (the proportions being similar to a normal distribution if anyone knows what one of those is). Whether you are able to sub for someone or dom for them depends on where they are on that scale relative to you. So if they are more sub you dom them, more dom you sub for them. The main point of my theory is that EVERYONE is a switch because unless you are at the very extremes there is always going to be someone more dominant or submissive than you.

I've been in a number of relationships with switches (oddly mostly vanilla relationships with some bdsm play included) where we would oscillate between being submissive and dominant. In at least one case there was a rota :) This was mainly because neither of us were more dominant than the other and it showed because we could never decide who was in charge so we have to enforce it.

I don't know switches in real life so I got really excited reading this.

I didn't know switches have other online personalities. I've been doing that since i was a teen. I would get on IRC and pretend to be a boy and Dom all the subs I knew without them knowing. I would know who would do what in real life and how to get them to do more because they would tell me as a sub. (yeah yeah i was 17 i know it's kinda silly). It's really nice to know that other people do that.

To answer the question though... I can't switch my Dom's and subs. It's to mental for me someone would have to be perfect Dom and perfect sub for me to be mono with them and honestly I haven't found perfection... yet?

Well, for me, the ideal situation would be to meet a female switch who enjoyed both roles, as I do, and we developed a natural flow, taking on either role as we desired together. I think I would enjoy that very much. All great scenes depend on a lot of mutual trust and understanding. That takes time to build, no matter what kind of relationship you are in.

After three partners as a submissive and one as a dominant, I still prefer one partner to several.

I am submissive towards my husband (Forge) and won't switch with him. He is my Master. If we were to play with others, he would likely control everything, or possibly allow me to indulge in my "other side" and dominate another submissive.