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Originally Posted by Psynymph
I can totally relate to this Psynymph.
Ds
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Originally Posted by Psynymph
I can totally relate to this Psynymph.
Ds
Yeah. Those PMs? Ignore them. If you want, smack down the person who sends them in public, in the chat room. In our chat room, NOBODY should be private messaging you without your permission. That rule is there to prevent exactly that sort of intimidation.
Some of the regulars in chat make a big effort to be welcoming to new people. We were all new at one time and we all felt that awkwardness. It takes a little persistence to get past it, but I think it's worth it. :)
Well I've only been in the chatroom a few times, when a friend's IM program wasn't working. I think I spent a total of 10 minutes in the lobby.
I find it hard to talk to more than one person at a time, that's my biggest problem. If I'm at a party I'll be in the kitchen having an earnest conversation with one or two people, probably women.....
I much prefer my IM program- the one on one convo where you can get to know each other.
Having said that, I've found it very warm & welcoming in the chatroom & if I didn't spend half my life on MSN & could type faster(!) I'd join in.
There's some real nice people there. :)
Tojo
I registered in the chat when it was a few days old so I have been there since late Jan 2005.
There have been a lot of changes in that time. I remember celebrating when we had member 25 then 100, 1000, and finally 2000. Then we lost Voodoo and got one which didn't work out. (Piece of junk)
Our current chat program is very easy to use so people are relaxed about that.
As a moderator I try to greet everyone and make them feel comfortable. I answer all questions and try to steer the person to talk with someone who they will things in common with.
There are so many very shy people who come in that only talk in whisper to me for weeks before they finally get their feet wet and start talking in the main room. Some of our biggest talkers now were the shy ones in the beginning.
And on the opposite end of the scale we get people who are out for a cheap thrill for the time they are in. It doesn't matter as long as everyone follows the rules!
The 1st is registering and logging in each time. Then after that to always BE polite! It someone bothers you either in whisper or the room, look for me or another moderator. And the ignore option is always good too.
We have lifestylers in there, happily married people whose partners are vanilla, and virgins who are too shy to try anything in r/l. All people are welcome in the chat!
It is a great place to just chat with someone or a group of people. Sometimes there are discussions which is great. Other times it is like a zoo with all the animals loose.
There are a few people who look down on others there. But you will find that anywhere you go in your life. Lifestylers who do not like o/l only people are the worst in my opinion. But if I see that I ask them to go to whisper and to BEhave. NO ONE has the right to judge others!
But luckily as I said there only a few of those. For the most part the people in the chat are great! They come from all walks of life and each has something to share.
Most people stay in the lobby which can get chaotic at times but there are other rooms where you can go for quieter talking. You can even create your own room for privacy.
I hope everyone comes to at least check the chat out.
Curi
Chatroom Moderator and sometimes mother
My take on the chatroom.. I ca't say I've seen much evidence of snobbery from people practising bdsm in real life. In this day and age many (even most?) of us who are in real life dom/sub relationships began with online play.
Where I sometimes get bored with the room, and the manner in which I would certainly describe it as 'mild', is that most of the time there is really no bdsm talk of any kind. It is usually a mixture of greetings and hugs between friends, jokes, etc.
Of course I'm sure there is plenty of roleplaying going on in whisper, but I'd love to see more actual discussions in there. I find discussing things on forums a little too slow, and prefer the immediacy of chat for talking about stuff.
I feel compelled to reply to some of the points in this post from Tojo:
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Originally Posted by Tojo
Yes a very good point caged, thanks for reminding me of that.Quote:
I have to add that it works the other way too. There are those who frown upon or don't like to hear about the activities of real-lifers.. or merely the fantasies of people whose kinks seem 'worse' than the average. People who say unless you do it our way, you are sick/disgusting
My first post on this thread looks rather smarmy to me, I might add. :32:
I do get the odd PM though from new people who have been harassed- both in the chatroom & on the forum. There's always someone when you have a membership of more than 18,000.
Most handle it with a polite refusal, or just ignoring the 'invitation' but it does upset some people. I'm concerned that if X amount of people do mention it to others, there must be some who are frightened off.
Tojo
I like chatting and interaction with others. I also, like people with manners. I've only one bad experience in the chat room, generally find it a nice place to hang out. I listen more then talk, but I'm new and do the same up close and personal. It takes time for me to lossen up, so if you see me say Hi. If we are just meeting, don't ask me to perform for you, first I might me a slut, but I'm my Mistress's slut and I'm not a whore. Secoundly, I find it rude and crude to just assume that all want to perform without so much as a how you doing today. take care to all