my journey

~hugs mishkalicious~ You are a wonderful friend!

Ok, here's what happened on Thursday. (Part of the reason for telling this has to do with my punishment.)

Well, it had been a day. Just a regular day. I spent some of the morning in cahoots with my friend so we could get tickets to a concert we wanted to attend. We got the tickets, but later that day, I checked online again and found, what I believed to be, tickets for better seats. (It's Daughtry, so I wanna be as close as possible!)

Anyway, as I'm online, I'm looking at the seating chart for the arena, my husband walks up and asks what I'm doing. So I tell him. He then points out that section 'AA' is going to be behind section 'Z'. Knowing nothing of the venue and thinking logically of the alphabet, I said to him that AA had to be before just plain old 'A' section. Right? Made sense to my simple mind at least.

Not giving his comment too much thought, I called my friend and mentioned that I had these other tickets in sight and what did she think. She confirmed what my husband said, that 'AA' sits behind 'Z', so the tickets we already had were better seats. I chit-chatted a bit longer then rang off. My husband came downstairs and I told him that he was right after all and wasn't that something. He got a look on his face- that raised brow, slightly amused, "you're gonna get it now" look. What is that called? No matter, really, as he had that expression locked on his face. He stared at me for a few moments, and I was like "what??" He then said, "get on your hands and knees." I was all "goody!! playtime!!" Besides, I had on a teeny tiny tank top and thought he just wanted to see down my shirt, guy that he is and all.

So, I get on my hands and knees in front of him, making sure I'm positioned just so for optimal view-down-my-shirt lookability. I was getting into my full on flirty mode when he said, and I quote, "I'm sorry for doubting you about the seating issue." At this point I look up at him, thoroughly confused. So I say, "Why are you apologizing to me?? You were right about the tickets." Ok, ok. Even for a rookie, this is a no brainer, but I swear it just didn't occur to me what was going on!

That look showed up again on his face. As he stared down at me, he came back with, "Let me rephrase that. 'I'm sorry for doubting you about the seating issue, (slight pause here before saying) Master'."

This time I got it. He was giving me the words to say. The nano-second after I thought that thought, I realized, I AM GETTING PUNISHED! It was a wow, happy, incredulous, I can't believe it feeling! Elated is a good adjective to use. So what do I do? Look shamefaced and lower myself in front of him? Beg for lenience due to my incredible ignorance? Oh no, no, no! Not moi. No, I laughed. Yes. Laughed. I guess everything came together for me at the same exact time and it was a bit overwhelming.

Well there I am, on hands and knees, giggling about what a silly creature I am. (He told me later that had our son not been nearby, he would have beaten the hell out of my ass.) Know what I found out about Doms...well mine at least? They aren't too sugar pie about their subs laughing during punishment.

It's good to learn something new everyday, right?

oh the joys of having blonde moments eh lolol and TG for kids as well lmao.

Life is all about learning and listening to the different tones of voice used by one's Master. There will be tears of joy...happiness and pain all thru ur training. in fact ill rephrase that...all thru this life big big hugzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

seems to me like u plodding thru this at a ncie speed

heh hehe good for u

cg

tessa

smiles and hugs

whenever I read anything that you have written I always feel as if I was actually there :)

love and hugs

minxy xx

God, I just love this thread! You are such fun, tessa, and I'm quite certain that your blond moments will provide MANY hours of happy chastisement in the future! What I like most is that your husband is obviously realllllly into it now - and keeping you off balance by bringing it in to you during normal life, showing you that his dominance is not just for play time that you decide on... it's all just yummy. And yeah, what Psy said - more details, girl, more, more!

Ok, a few details...for those of you who are as detail hungry as I am. ;)

What I didn't add before, but since my husband has now read my previous post and believes this should be added in, was the little extra he included in the punishment, seeing how I thought it was so humorous. While I was there on my hands and knees, giggling about how I can misunderstand the most obvious of things, he decided to add a bit of humility into the mix. He felt it appropriate, due to my attitude and all. I do get to be candid in how it made me feel. Like that helps. I didn't want to tell this part of it at all. For you smartass subs out there, there is a penalty for such behavior. :icon277:

(One note- during this, my son was upstairs thoroughly engaged in Blue's Clues, out of ear and eye shot. I think that's important to mention as this is an issue I would imagine all D/s couples with children have to deal with.)

Anyway, back to details. :hubba:

As I said before, I had on a teeny tiny tank top. The way I was positioned, most everything under said top was open for viewing. He sat in his chair in front of where I was on the floor and said, "I want some bounce action happening there." Knowing he meant my boobs, but really unsure of how to make that occur given my position, I replied with, "well how am I supposed to make that happen?" He was quick to come back with, "that's for you to figure out."

Ok, now I'm a little embarrassed. Which was the goal, I imagine. Don't know for sure as I don't do the think-like-a-Dom thing. So I'm trying to figure it out, as he said I needed to. Let me just say that he was enjoying the heck out of watching me try to figure it out. I rocked back and forth on my hands and knees first. That got some movement going. His idea of " go faster" helped out some too. I didn't mind it so much as I knew I probably looked pretty cute down there, moving back and forth like I was fucking back on something behind me. I must have exhibited some of that "damn, I'm cute" attitude, because then he said, "I want more jiggle."

If you think about it, being on hands and knees doesn't give very many movement options as it relates to tits. There's back and forth (which I had already used), side to side, and in a very limited way, up and down. That's pretty much the idea that flew through my mind when trying to figure out how to add "more jiggle" into this now quite humiliating experience. (Please know that at this time, I am typing under duress...this shi...um, retelling is just too mortifying.)

Side to side offers "more jiggle" as does up and down. Up and down on hands and knees, however, is plain out awkward and not at all attractive. (Maybe that's why he looked so amused during that part of it.) By this stage of the punishment, I realized that the "oh goody, playtime!" mentality was way, way off base. I actually felt chastised, even though it remained light hearted and amusing, well, for him anyway. I really was entirely un-amused at this point, left to figure out the jiggle factor of boobs and everything.

He very astutely pointed out that the reason for punishment was to encourage a change in behavior. And all this time I thought he was slow on the uptaking in regards to the workings of a D/s relationship. I've apologized to him for that, but I'm also doing it here as a public show of my obvious wrong. :o He's actually got a better mindset for the day to day of D/s than I do. Since I get to be forthright in this public part of the punishment, I can say that I feel much more comfortable with the sexual aspects of it all. He's still working on that part. No, that wasn't said with any smugness at all. Really! :)

ceegee, you are spot on- this was training, happy and painful that it was. I'm just trying to wrap my mind around it all. It's so not as easy as I thought it would be. Hugs to you too.

minxy, I wish you had been there! I would have had some sympathy, at least. But knowing you as I do, you would have also agreed that it was necessary. You are just good like that. :)

moptop, he is getting good at keeping me off balance. A surprise, but such a welcome one. Oh, and I do hope these details satisfied. :blurp_ani

I have to add that I don't think he thinks I've learned my lesson. He spent time yesterday in his workshop making a seriously wicked looking paddle. It is rather pretty though.

I've just been informed that Doms also don't appreciate paddles being termed "pretty". Something else new I've learned. :p

(Me thinks I'm gonna experience that new paddle soon.)

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Originally Posted by tessa

I've just been informed that Doms also don't appreciate paddles being termed "pretty". Something else new I've learned. :p

(Me thinks I'm gonna experience that new paddle soon.)

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LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO pretty useful tho...winks

and yup..looks like u could be in for a lil spanking with that new paddle...u lucky thing u smirks

Lucky? I'm not so sure. I'll let you know after I am properly introduced.

huggles!

heh hehehe...n throws u a nice soft fluffy cushion to sit on

huggles

Thank you tessa, this whole post brought a huge smile to my face and heart...and your poem "Take me please?" is breathtaking.

I hope the paddle is everything you wish for and everything you don't...not sure why I am saying this but just a feeling inside...that it is all you do wish for.

softest hugs

Once again Echoes shows that she is a very caring person.

Russell

~sits very gently, utilizing the cushion the ever helpful ceegee offered~

I was thinking the very same, Sir Russell. Echoes does make a soul smile.

And Echoes, your feeling inside, how did you know? Were you peeking?? ~smiles at you~ That paddle and the maker who fashioned it, those two combined were everything I could have ever wished for. ~deep contented sigh~ Everything and more.

(It also hurts like a snake bite! :eek: )

I am touched that you think something of my poem. You inspired it, actually, with your questioning smile. Did you notice? I am hoping you did.

~soft hug right back~

tessa :wave:

oo i missed quite a bit didnt i?

oh and let me say tessa.... i am SOOO jealous... lol, well not jealous, envious maybe.

you and your Master (yay MASTER) seem to be doing absolutely awesome. i realize there's alot of the hard stuff you probably don't put up here, the fights or misunderstandings, but either way y/Ya'll seem to be doing great.

and it's soooooo much fun to read the stuff you right.... i was like sitting here trying to figure out how to properly jiggle the boobies when your on hands and knees... lol i almost tried it!!!

and i really think it's admirable Y/ya'll are doing all of this with children around. it's hard enough with just life in general in the way, but i imagine it's even tougher when you have kids to consider.

i admire you B/both and look forward to the continuation of this thread....

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i realize there's alot of the hard stuff you probably don't put up here, the fights or misunderstandings, but either way y/Ya'll seem to be doing great.

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Loads of it actually. My issues for the most part. ~points to self~ WWS, here, remember? Still haven't abolished impatience or patience, so I'm struggling right along.

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i was like sitting here trying to figure out how to properly jiggle the boobies when your on hands and knees... lol i almost tried it!!!

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Please try it and tell me what you found out. Please???!!!

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and i really think it's admirable Y/ya'll are doing all of this with children around. it's hard enough with just life in general in the way, but i imagine it's even tougher when you have kids to consider.

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It's challenging to say the least. Part of what has to be figured out. Along with the jiggle, of course.

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*licks*

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~licks back~ Dang, you're good at that! :)

So...... when is your Master planning to come online and say hello to us all??? lololol

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Originally Posted by ceegee{Benz}

So...... when is your Master planning to come online and say hello to us all??? lololol

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I don't know. He was watching me type that part yesterday and I asked him if he wanted to join and say something. He didn't really respond, so I'm not sure what he was exactly thinking about. But I'll mention your idea to him. Maybe that will encourage him. :)

kewlllllllllllllllllllllllllllll...waves to tessa's Master

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So...... when is your Master planning to come online and say hello to us all??? lololol

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That would be today. Hello.

i wanna hump the car in Your avatar picture....

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Originally Posted by DareDevil

That would be today. Hello.

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ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Hello and welcome

ceegee

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Originally Posted by Psynymph

i wanna hump the car in Your avatar picture....

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I'd like to see that (tessa says she would too) Bonus humps if you know the year, make, and model of the car.

Well, DD, welcome to the thread, the forum, the community - and I have no idea what make or model (or year) the car is, but it looks mean, fast and dirty, and I like that - in a car or in a man! Tessa, you are a lucky bunny, if this av is a good reflection of the man's style!

Okay, here's my guess and I'll take the reward even if I'm wrong ;)

65 Mustang fastback

First I hope that my discovering this thread a little late doesn't make my advice unwanted.

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Now for audience participation...please? I am here asking to learn from your experience and knowledge, from Dominants and submissives. Your perspectives on what happened, how it was handled initially and the way it played out afterwards. I guess I am hoping that anyone with experience in living out a D/s relationship (in whatever form that may be in...online or face-to-face...it's all real life) can relate to this and maybe even share what happened in his or her situation. And for Dominants and submissives who just are who they are on their own at the moment, I would appreciate hearing your take on it as well. What could have been done and said, on both our parts? And while I am a great fan of witty humor (please include all you can), I do hope it will be laced with the seriousness I seek. Not asking for any big drama, just some insight from those who know more than we do and are willing to share with us.
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I have a lot of experience in raising kids and trying to live the life. First, a Dom is not a cripple so needs to carry his share in domestic situations, even if your a stay at home, don't work sub/slave.

I would first say that yelling is the mistake you made, a Dom is never going to take orders from sub/slave happily. Learn to ask in a submissive nature. I train my sub/slave to ask nicely, using Master when appropriate.

A quick aside you should have names for each other that the vanilla world or kids won't realize are ways of saying Master or slave. She uses my name Russell I use little girl or my love, she knows that I am saying my beloved slave and I know she is showing respect.

A sub/slave that learns this trick of asking nicely, begging when she can, will find that she can get the help needed without stepping out of character.

As I said earlier I do housework so that we have more fun time together, but I have learned to find out which mmmmm tasks I can do without making her feel guilty.

Russell

PS be glad it wasn't me once the talk was over the punishment would have begun.

tessa I have caught up with your thread and I will offer you both a little more advice and a bit of the future.

First you must stop calling him or even thinking about him as "your husband" start thinking of him as my Master. The longer you put this off the harder the road will be. The first real step in this is to get your head right, husband is much less then Master in everyone mind. To that end kneel in front of him ever chance you get. When people are near by whisper "Master" in his ear. When you are out where there is only strangers around call him 'Master" out loud, you will be amazed at the smile and glow that will come over him.

Also if you follow my advice there will be a time that "Master" just comes out of your mouth at the wrong time. When that happens to me I cover her by saying "yeah, I wish" and laugh. I had a slave that slipped enough times that it became a running joke around our unkowning vanilla friends. I began calling her slave around them and she just laughed and would call me Master and then sit at my feet while giggling.

Get your mind right tessa and make him very proud of you.

Russell

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Originally Posted by DareDevil

I'd like to see that (tessa says she would too) Bonus humps if you know the year, make, and model of the car.

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ok...after consulting the Almighty Mustang God (aka hubby lmao)...he zoomed in on the pic...analyzed it and says it is a '66 Ford Mustang/Shelby GT 350..lol

i dunno if he's right or not but he swears he can see the "350" on the side there...i don't see shit...but oh well. LMAO!

soooo...where's my humps? ~laughs~

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Originally Posted by Sir_Russell

First I hope that my discovering this thread a little late doesn't make my advice unwanted.

Get your mind right tessa and make him very proud of you.

Russell

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Sir Russell, your advice is neither late nor unwanted. It is spot on, especially that line right up there. ~points up~ Thank you.

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ok...after consulting the Almighty Mustang God (aka hubby lmao)...he zoomed in on the pic...analyzed it and says it is a '66 Ford Mustang/Shelby GT 350..lol

i dunno if he's right or not but he swears he can see the "350" on the side there...i don't see shit...but oh well. LMAO!

soooo...where's my humps? ~laughs~

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baby girl, you're married to the Almighty Mustang God, too!?! ~laughs~ Oh, mercy! If those two ever got together, we'd be left on the floor with nothing to do but wait on them to finish discussing all things Mustang. Hmm, wonder what we have to do to get their attention??

Since I am the one logged in, I'll pass along the information. (nymphette, don't peek if you still want to try and get your bonus humps!)

Your husband, Mustang God that he is, is correct! However, there is one element missing from his analysis, something special about this particular Shelby Mustang. An aspect that makes it rare in the Mustang world and something that makes it so appropriate to use here.

~giggles~ He gives good riddle, if I do say.

Sooo...here are a few of your bonus humps. ~bouncing them slightly in my hands~ Heyyyyyy, I think I just figured out what we could do to regain their attention! :)

And moptop, that av is perfect reflection of his style- powerful, sleek and a sheer thrill to ride...mmmmmmmm ~gets completely lost in fantasy for a moment~ in. ~composes self~ Ahem, ride in. Yes, that's it. ;)

I do feel most fortunate. Undeserving, but damned lucky.

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baby girl, you're married to the Almighty Mustang God, too!?! ~laughs~ Oh, mercy! If those two ever got together, we'd be left on the floor with nothing to do but wait on them to finish discussing all things Mustang. Hmm, wonder what we have to do to get their attention??

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oh god i can only imagine how bad it would be. we actually used to have a '67 Mustang Coupe that we were working on restoring until hubby TOTALLED it! yep...you heard that right...completely totalled...~sighs~ not pretty. wanna see a grown man cry? well, there ya go....lmao

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Your husband, Mustang God that he is, is correct! However, there is one element missing from his analysis, something special about this particular Shelby Mustang. An aspect that makes it rare in the Mustang world and something that makes it so appropriate to use here.

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good lord you nearly drove my hubby crazy with that lil tidbit right there. LMAO he demanded to see the picture again! talk about having a coronary...lol sheesh! he figured it out though!! the lil "H" tagged onto the 350 on the side...~winks~ very appropriate to use here!! i laughed so hard when he told me what the H stood for!! :whip:

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oh god i can only imagine how bad it would be.

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And it would be even worse than that!!! They would talk for days and still not get it all said. ~sighs~

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we actually used to have a '67 Mustang Coupe that we were working on restoring until hubby TOTALLED it! yep...you heard that right...completely totalled...~sighs~ not pretty. wanna see a grown man cry? well, there ya go....lmao

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My husband just cringed reading that. Bless your husband's totalled Mustang heart! That is a bad day! If any one of my husband's "beauties" were to get a ding, he'd freak! He's nodding 'yes'.

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good lord you nearly drove my hubby crazy with that lil tidbit right there. LMAO he demanded to see the picture again! talk about having a coronary...lol sheesh! he figured it out though!! the lil "H" tagged onto the 350 on the side...~winks~ very appropriate to use here!! i laughed so hard when he told me what the H stood for!! :whip:

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DING DING DING!!!!!!!!! You win a free supply of humps for life! Your hubby is indeed a Mustang Deity. And yeah, I thought it pretty sly of mine to choose that particular car to have as his av. That's my Devil. ;)

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Hi DareDevil! Nice to meet you.

I know tessa would give you all the compliments, but I have to tell you that you're a very lucky Master.

Welcome DD, finally glad to hear from you and happy to see you here on the forums.

~hugs~

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And it would be even worse than that!!! They would talk for days and still not get it all said. ~sighs~

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Heard this one in a remark about "boys' talk" at weddings, 40-years parties and the like, when the conversation between the guys turns to their military service days:
"the moment someone says "subaltern" or "camp duty" we gals can all go home..."

~hugs Mishkalicious~ You are a sweetheart!!

Echoes, I stole that hug. Hope that's okay! :)

Boys' talk just means I can go off and gossip with my girlfriends about hairstyles and clothes and all stuff girlie. Wanna come with us, Louise?? Pretty please?

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I'd like to see that (tessa says she would too) Bonus humps if you know the year, make, and model of the car.

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is it a mustang shelby? i have no idea about the year......

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is it a mustang shelby? i have no idea about the year......

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~hands you 5 bonus humps~

I think I might enjoy this more than anyone.

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I had to laugh too when I found out what the "H" in your husband's car means. Hertz ("hurts", anyone?)... :)

Apparently people owning cheaper Mustangs used to rent those cars and shuck out the high-power engines as a cheap quick way of getting a better one at home - it's not a very flattering story for the Hertz local maintenance staff is it?

Louise! You figured it out too! I thought it was just too clever! Yes, Hertz (hurts :D ) car rental company had the whole rent-a-racer idea. Imagine, paying money for what you weren't getting from what you already had. Car pimps, that's what they were!

Want some bonus humps, Louise?? ;)

*leans close to Tessa, arm touching her elbow* Honey, of course I'd like a few homely humps. ;)

Welcome, DD!!! So glad to finally make your acquaintence!! Very sweet ride in your av, btw...although I'm sure not near as sweet as the lovely tessa. *weg*

Hope to see you visiting us again soon :)

yay i win!!!!

*bounces around happily* so can i use my extra humps on tessa? maybe like divide them up between the car and tessa? oh come, pleeeeeaaassseee!!!!

*smiles sweetly*