First test for your new sub

Can she stand the sight of me without vomiting?

Hell, if she can get over the nausea, she passes!

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Originally Posted by ThisYouWillDo

Can she stand the sight of me without vomiting?

Hell, if she can get over the nausea, she passes!

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THAT made me giggles! Thanks!

*goes off to figure out how to help TYWD with his self esteem or how to award his humor... not sure which! lol *

annie

I had a set of parents that could not stand each other but were old school so stayed together. The fights were constant and long lasting. Dad was brillant but never figured out how to deal with mom so was absent even when he was there.

I promised my self that I would not end up like that and to date I haven't. So I am the opposite of your experience I watched a man get cut to pieces and now I am his opposite, never tried to be him.

I would rather be alone then be screamed at and live in a constant stressed life because of anyone even those I love.

For myself I have no definitive test in and of itself.

I only ask of them to look me straight in the eye upon
our meeting one another.
To speak to me with responses that come from an open
heart and mind and never look away while doing so.

There are simply those times with words exchanged,
thoughts shared that you can determine if something
inside each has found a spark within the other.

Submission in a physical form is not that difficult to
achieve through tales written on the pages of
the flesh.

I.E. using tools of the trade such as cane, clamps, clips,
paddles, hands, etc.

I prefer to see them from the inside, to know that
mind set within, what is desired or needed most in
this ultimate act of trust and sharing.

What other wonders we may achieve is just icing
on the cake as we've already created a delicious
recipe that both can share and enjoy.

Talking to them for a few minutes normally tells me who they are.
Russel, I think you are quite right in your observations of women, but it sure differs where you live in the world aswell.

Sir_Russell, I find myself agreeing with your thoughts. Though for myself, I have always known I am submissive. It was more that I did not fully understand my own feelings. I was married for 12 yrs to a wonderful man whom I still admire and now consider good friend. It sounds strange, but we are now divorced going on 5 yrs. He was and is not the type of person who could ever be dominant towards me.

It was not till soon after my divorce that I met a man who understood what I was feeling inside and helped me understand my my feelings and submissiveness. I will be forever thankful for his understanding and guidance.

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Originally Posted by Sir_Russell

This may upset quite a few, but I believe that most women hell the vast majority of women are submissive, and since they have been trained to be the same as a male they are unhappy in their life. I have had mostly successful intelligent sub/slaves. It isn't that are they submissive but are they willing and capable to let go and find their happiness and true self.

Conversely I don't know if most males are dominate, I fear that our current culture has trained them to be submissive in a very different way. Males today are trained to say and do anything to get laid. They marry and then find themselves doing things to please her so that she will suck on his cock for a minute or actually spread her legs once a week. oh well I don't work that way and hopefully never will.

Before the internet, open meetings of lifestylers I had to study each woman carefully to see if I could find the traits I wanted. This study lead to the verbal and physical tests to find out not if she was a sub but if she could let go and be true to herself.

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