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I am a dominant who has been in the lifestyle actively for some fifteen years. Many things I have guided, and some avenues I have not gone down, due to either disinterest in them or simply keeping a steady bottom line, or bottom in line if you prefer.
Psynymph, with an approach like that one, you are welcome anywhere!Quote:
Originally Posted by Psynymph
Much like a true submissive, who is instinctively and inherently submissive, it is your natural approach, not necessarily in life as a whole, but certainly in relationships. This does not mean having no boundaries....only those who are truely not dominant have no boundaries.
:wave: Hi BarLord67 and :welcome: to the Forums.
I'm interested in speaking with you as I'm new to this whole arena.
ineeditnow111000 welcome.
I would direct you to my thread in BDSM Knowledge titled Hard Limits questionaire. Take it even though you are new to find what intrigues you the most. If you wish my input on your desires shown by the questionaire you either have to post it back into the thread or pm it to me.
Hi my name is David. I am a fairly new Dominant. Im a 21 year old cuban and peurto rican man. I actually got into bdsm from my fiancee/submissive. Weve been together for almost 7 months and plan on getting married sometime next year.
Well I am 32 years old and a Dom.
I have been doing this for the past dunno 7-8 years or so with different subs and I feel quite secure in who I am and what I want. Should have made this introduction here before but oh well.
Atm I am looking for a new sub though. Nilla is nice but it only gets soo good. I need my kinks lol.
Hie to you fellow kinkstaas :wave:
Greetings to A/all.
I am Sir Robert, Master of a collared sub. I have enjoyed being a Dom for over 10 years and claimed My last sub over a year ago. she is very obedient & devoted to Me.
I believe that a good Dom should constantly be learning more about the lifestyle in order to hone His skills and be the best Dom He can be and that is My primary reason to be on this site.
I am here to learn from & interact with My fellow Dom's as well as be available to subs who wish to ask questions of Me.
I look forward to hearing from both Dom's & subs alike.
While I made a modest introduction in the general introduction thread, I thought I might add one with a bit more detail here.
General: I became interested in D/s a little over six years ago while dating a wonderful girl who in time revealed to me here interest and experience in the lifestyle. Our vanilla relationship was transformed into a D/s relationship after I had read a number of books and web sites that she recommended an we began to experient. Slowly and with great patience she helped me to learn to become an effective Dom who was able to meet her needs as a submissive woman. I learned rather quickly that I enjoyed a D/s relationship much more than any vanilla relationships I had experienced. We remained together up until a few months ago when her employer offered her a career advancing position on the West Coast. While neither of us were happy about going our separate ways, it was an opportunity that she was well suited for and one that I could not bring myself to ask her to pass up. I myself was for several reasons not in the position to relocate. Quickly we arrived at the place where we had to admit that the distance by which we are separated precluded continuing the relationship as it had been although we always remain close friends. Thus, my experience to date is within the context of that one r/l relationship.
Lifestyle Interests: I have a wide range of interests within the lifestyle, some of which I have experienced and others that I hope to. I very much enjoy teasing and denial which I find to be very challenging. While I am not much of a sadist, I do very much enjoy spanking, flogging, etc. from more of an erotic viewpoint rather than from a desier to inflict pain. I do very much enjoy the transfer of power aspects and enjoy being in control. I like forced exercise activities and mild humiliation play. My former submissive and I had only recently began exploring water sports and I found that to be something I liked as well.
Other Interests: I enjoy reading, travel, fitness pursuits, music, and outdoor pursuits like camping, backpacking and hiking.
Goals: Honestly I am still quite attached to my former submissive and am not yet ready to become involved with another in a r/l relationship. First I feel it necessary to get past what I feel is a significant loss so that once I meet someone else, I can feel certain I am attracted to her for herself and not because I am trying to fill a hole left in my life. I have given thought to perhaps beginning with an online situation which would satisfy my own desire to remain involved in the scene and provide some outlet for it should such a circumstance present itself.
Philosophy: To met all relationships, even D/s relationships are an equal partership. The Dominant leads because he/she has been gifted with the traits to do so however I consider submission to be a beautiful and valuable gift that should always be appreciated and treated with respect. Without someone willing to submit I can not exercise my dominance and in teh same way, my dominance provides the means by which someone can experience and enjoy their submissiveness. I feel that there is always much to be learned and that no one possesses all the knowledge. It is my belief that both dominants and submissives must make it there goal to learn and grow so that a relationship deepens and does not become stagnant.
Hello.. ther My name is Micheal I been a Master/Dominate for about two and half years now... I recently married my Slave/Submissive.. I am 29 years old... I was introduce to this life style by my Submissive... My goal is to be the best I can be for our relationship...If any question or suggestion feel free to give it...thank you and have a wonderful day.....
hi my name is Thomas im a male dom like to role play and chat like any thing kinky pretty much any fetish
Just a quick into becuse i haven't got around to posting here yet. 'ello everyone, I'm Draco and i am dur's Domme.
I am rather new to this, I have some experience, but not that much yet.
My personal intrests are Video Games...
My D/s intrests are ponyplay, and painplay right now... more to cum i am sure!
I am a newly registered user here, and I wanted to say hello. I am a married male dominant with roughly a year of experience, five or six years of latency. I am presently challenged to introduce aspects of D/s to my wife of many years. It is difficult and challenging, and at this point I am not sure we will make the journey together, which is certainly not without difficulties. I have played with subs at commercial dungeons in Southern California, where I am getting a feel for things, developing some skills, and discovering much about sceneing and how to conduct myself.
I came here because I had heard elsewhere in a T&D thread about the Academy. This was of some interest to me. But I can't login to the Academy presently -- wonder how that works.
I am hoping to meet Dom/mes and subs here to share information and such, and I look forward to doing so.
Greetings,
I am MasterKHL, I am a 41 year old male Dom. I discovered BDSM my senior year of high school, thanks to one of my teachers ( I was smart enough to keep my mouth shut at the time ) I started as a submissive to my Mistress but she soon found my personality to be somewhat more Alpha and she trained me accordingly thus creating the Master who stands before you today. Later on my own I discovered Gorean D&S. I have a girlfriend who is submissive to me, but loves to Domme my slaves, in R L I have just released my slave as that I am moving from Atlanta to Waycross Ga. On line I am Master to my pet curleycue28. I am always happy to make new friends on the forums and chat, If I can answer any questions or be of assistance please feel free to contact me. Happy New year.
MasterKHL.
Hello, this is Lady C, logged in as theladystouch. I usually classify myself as a Switch, which may just mean I'm a lazy Domme. ;)
While I do enjoy playing the dominant role, every once in a while it's nice to let someone else make the decisions.
I've been on the fringes of BDSM most of my adult life, but rarely take a active or public role. I was delighted to find this site, and look forward to meeting people and learning things.
Cheers!
Hello All
My name is MasterMike27 I hope to make friends and learn as I have been a dom for about 5 yrs now and am still wet behind the ears so to speak. I hope to make friends and learn what I can.
my name is john dominating women seems appealing to me so i'm trying to coordinate something.
sorry double post
I just found this thread - so here goes.
I'm just past 60, and have been dominating the people around me for as long as I can remember - but I suppose my Rubicon was just after my 16th birthday, when I took dominating to a new level and administered my first spanking to a girl. I didn't know about BDSM back then - I'd read pot-boilers about slavery (the early Gor novels come to mind, as well as those Mens magazines with stories of Nazi love-camps), had wet dreams about owning willing slaves - but it was just something I liked.
I met others in the lifestyle much later, but had been merrily spanking bottoms all along. Meeting others who were already in the lifestyle was an eye-opener for me - I learned some shibari from those folks, and the use of gags and different forms of restraints (I'd always been good with knots - but discovered there's more than just typing wrists and ankles to bedposts - and of some delightful toys).
My second awakening came through a relationship with a Domme who was submissive to me. Through her I learned a lot - both about submission and the use of pain. Through her I also met a Dom who mentored me and helped me refine my approach.
I've had odd breaks when I stepped back from the lifestyle a little - the loss of a sub in a traffic accident made me step back for almost two years - I didn't play or even look for a play partner, never mind anyone to get serious about in that time, though I continued to socialize with some of my friends in the community. The last break happened recently. Through a variety of reasons I found myself moving half-way round the world. Finding work was difficult (over-educated, over-qualified, nothing in my field available) and I ended up in a job that required a lot of travel. I didn't feel it fair for a girl (I prefer a 24/7 total ownership relationship) to subject her to my schedule, so I contented myself with play partners - all of whom were delightful, but none of whom lit that extra spark.
Recently my situation changed again, and I found myself in a position to take on a slave once more. I recently acquired a an absolutely wonderful girl, and we are in the process of settling into a Master/slave relationship. And so the saga continues...
I've been around a lot (from back in the bad old days when no-one talked about the lifestyle openly) in North America and Europe both. I consider myself old-school, give pain for pleasure (hers and mine), have moved on from rope to chain, and enjoy the sound of a whip at work. I have an extremely active imagination, and use it a lot in concocting scenes and scenarios to play out with my girls. I'm always willing to learn something new, and to pass on what I know. I don't mince my words, and don't accept bullshit in any form. And I love a good joke or prank.
Hi all,
I am Mistress mary and I have been a dom for a only a few years. I think that most people in the vanilla world do not think that woman can dominate and I found that this lifestyle has really shown me that, that stereotype is a bunch of bs. I love being dominate and in control and making females submit to me. It give me such a wonderful feeling. I found this site by accident and I love it. This is my fist night on and my first posting.
thanks all.
welcome to all you Men and Women :)
Well it’s too damn hot to go outside this week, so I’ll introduce myself for those who don’t know me.
I identify as a Dom, or at least my girls seem to accept that I am :)
Late 40s, happily married to a sexy girl who wouldn’t understand the whole D/s thing- we’ve played around a bit with ropes and so forth over the years though. I guess we have something resembling an LDD relationship, only without the spanking. :eek:
I have my own girl in a far off land, with whom I’ve had an online D/s relationship with for more than two years.
Also a few girls I mentor, support, teach D/s to and sometimes play with….
Had a rather nice encounter last year with one of them, and hope to meet another one or two someday.
I like to really get to know a girl, and make a positive impact on her life- D/s is more than just a game to me. Casual encounters are not my style at all.
One of my greatest passions is to ease the way for new people- too many get disillusioned and give up, through lack of knowledge, lack of support or from meeting some ‘wannabee’
Hello everybody:
I´m 27 years old and I´ve only started to learn and find interest in the BDSM scene recently (let´s say a year or two).
I want to learn as much as possible and to find out more about my potential and what I really like and dislike.
I am Dominant but am not in a relationship right now, so it´s hard to explore more.
Nice to talk to you. Hope to learn and make friends.
Master todd i was introuduced to the lifestyle by a online mistress who i speak to on occasion...i can be switch since i am not that use to being dominant but wouldnt mind learning more....
I am Dave. R/L Master new to the net.
15 years ago a wonderful woman walked up to me and told me. Sir you can be a RED NECK from HELL, or something wonderful. she had been a slave from birth I guess you can say,she openned this life up to me, and for the most part trained me. to be a Master!
Oooo! You've got my attention! Is there anywhere for postings regarding technique? I have trouble having orgasms sometimes.Quote:
Originally Posted by Brosco
Hello, I go by Nuahs and my wife and I are new to this life style. We have been exploring now for about 8 mo and are loving it. We have come to terms with our roles and have been becoming more comfortable with them as time goes on.
I am glad that I found this site because there are no groups that i have found in our area. We live on the east coast of Canada and are finding it hard to learn. I am doing a lot of searching and reading online but it had been hard to get some answers to the questions that have come up. I look forward to being able to talk to others that are more experienced.
Thanks
Hello, old hand finally posting here. (Feels a little like Alcoholics Anonymous here... "Hi, I'm Chuck, and I'm a Dom." "Hi, Chuck!")
Well, similar to Tojo, I am a Dom with a wife I am deeply in love with, but who has no clue how to react to D/s other than 'no spanking for me!!' She understands my needs, however, and encourages my long-distance relationship with my Sweet Yellow Rose. We have an hours-daily, meet in person two weeks a year relationship; the last couple years we have both lived for those meetings halfway between our homes. She was slightly educated in the arts by a few wanna-be small-d doms, and somewhat moreso by the Dom before me, however our relationship has grown to the point of deep love and respect.
Am I an addict? I certainly am! The moans of subspace blended with the sound of leather on her ass excite the hell out of me!
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