lmao Amber - So embelish for the Domly types *giggles n winks*
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lmao Amber - So embelish for the Domly types *giggles n winks*
Now be fair here. These last couple comments were as far off base form the original question as those that a new thread was started over, wouldn't you say? LOLQuote:
Originally Posted by mastersgem
lol yes *hangs head in shame*
My sub, stripedangel, accidentally sent this post under my logon this morning. On that note, and out of respect for J-Go, Russell and amber, I will bow out of this thread. Please do not misunderstand any of my posts, I only intended to offer another perspective and did not intend to imply that mine was the only correct perspective. I also failed to read J-Go's previous post asking that we put this thread to rest.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mr.FixIt
That being said, I have work to do to ensure that my logon is not inadvertantly used again!
LOL that happens too.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mr.FixIt
Oh no, no offense was taken on this end at all. Quite the contrary, an interesting perspective and I'm glad you shared. I agree with you, in fact, in the sense this meeting would never happen as a play date, but as friends getting together? It seems most comfortable. On that we disagree, but certainly it's not a malice laced debate. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Mr.FixIt
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Originally Posted by Tojo
For all intents and purposes I answered this already in response to your Regent Tojo question.
Master, Mister, what's the difference. It means nothing if that's the only name he's known by. If he tells her his name is Jason, then that is the same as Mr. Bossname telling you his name is Bob... a tacit invitation to use his given name.
Secondly... again! No! What I said was... no more respect than you might give your boss, which in my eyes, is the same respect I give to anyone upon meeting them for the first time. I only uses familiar terms of address with my friends and social acquaintances.
BTW, I really loathed answering you after J-Go asked us to desist. I ignored the general comments because I was trying to respect his wishes. But you called me out by name...
J-Go, I hope you understand why I responded.
The thread stayed quiet just long enough for J to squeeze in a good spanking session (well, okay, a quick ass slap) before he sent me off to Wisconsin for the weekend. ;) It's just lucky there are no WI Doms lurking or we could get this whole damn bee's nest stirred up again!Quote:
Originally Posted by Ozme52
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Oz in the first place this thread was started by Downtown Amber- not J-Go.
The original post was asking about protocol "Is there a particular protocol to meeting another Dom for the first time"
I also prefaced my post with 'seeing as how we don't want this thread to die as I'd hoped'
You're still hinting around the question- what does your boss have to do with it? She's not meeting her boss.
I'll go on thinking that you believe that anyone who says they're a Dom, or a Sir somehow deserves respect. If that's what you think it's fine- I just don't happen to agree. End of story.
BTW- I did not 'call you out' I merely asked you to clarify a post. We're not gunfighters, & I personally couldn't care less who can piss the furthest, as someone put it.
Protocol? Your meeting a friend who both knows you and your Master.
I dont believe there is any need for concern, in my case I have met many people over the years. Just be friendly and enjoy the meeting, respect is always a must as Russell stated.
The only protocol that should be followed is the one your Master sets you :)
Exactly!Quote:
Originally Posted by Sadistic1
Simple as ;) hehe
This thread has everything that soap operas want but lack. Nail biting and very entertaining.
But to follow the topic. I'd say yes, there's a protocol. If you're a collared slave, you should ask your master what the protocol is. Everybody else on the forum can take their opinions and get lost ;)
edit: oops. I see Sadistic1 beat me to it. In that case I simply agree with him.
*bump*
Just when we all thought the thread was dead, I'm back to breathe some life into it... *hehehe*
Sadly, however, what I have to say lacks all the drama of the previous four pages worth of posts. Yes, that's right folks: FOUR PAGES. Sheesh guys... ;)
Anyway...
I made my trek through Sir Russell's neighborhood earlier today and we met up for a quick drink and chat. He is an absolutely wonderful gentleman - charming, interesting, and quite thoughtful. It took all of three seconds for me to come to the conclusion that, public place notwithstanding, I was with someone that I was safe and secure with. J did call to check in, of course, but as soon as He heard my tone of voice when I told Him I was having a fabulous time with Russell He laughed and told me to get back to my drink and company. In fact, I was more than a little disappointed Sir Russell and I only had a couple of hours to converse - I am already looking forward to making it back to town so He and J-Go and I can all get together. Proof, once again, that while online isn't a bad way to get the ball rolling, there's nothing quite like the real world.
Oh, and to all the subbies that wanted to know: yes, He does look just like the avatar.
Awesome and no less than I, for one, expected.
You got to love meeting interesting people!!!...Im happy you had a good time.
hehehe awesome to hear it Amber, I'm happy you both enjoyed meeting :)
~wiggles~
that I just had to quote for truth.Quote:
Originally Posted by thrall
*smile*
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Originally Posted by DowntownAmber
thats good to know ;) glad you had a good time.
Yep, me too, glad it went well Amber. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Ozme52
*bump again!*
I'm seriously considering changing the name of this thread from "Protocol?" to "J and Amber Meet The Forum!" ;) Of course, then it'll have to be moved out of the Dom's Dungeon and all sorts of other bothersome mod things, blah blah blah, so, anyway...wait...where was I going with this??
Oh yes... *ahem* Since Sir Russell survived His meeting with me in tact and didn't end up the victim of a brutal and hideous airport subbie slaying, another intrepid forum member has decided that she too would like to have a casual little airport get together. Of course, neither she nor I nor J have travel plans that intersect anytime in the forseeable future so our aforementioned subbie friend took initiative and booked herself a ticket to our very own friendly neighborhood landing strip. Thinking that this was rather an expensive way to meet for Bloody Marys in an bad airport lounge, we took the next logical step and all thought to ourselves, "let's all go back to Amber's place and just stay the weekend!" That's right folks, we ARE just that clever... I mean Hell, if one is going to pay to fly all the way out to J and Amberville, why not stay a few days? The airline DOES let you bring a suitcase big enough to hold a change of clean socks, right? See? All good. ;)
So, in roughly 18 hours J and I will be hosting our first r/l subbie friend and, frankly, I am thrilled. I find her quite delightful online, and fully imagine she's equally impressive in r/l. And this time around I know better than to launch a four page protocol thread - instead I'll just say we're all gonna get together just as "regular" friends do and enjoy each other's company.
Perhaps, however, I WILL launch a "guess the forum member that's bold enough to come and meet J and Amber" thread... *hehehe*
oooooh!! Intrigue and drama!! Gotta love it!
Now, see, Amber... You asked about something that shouldn't really matter (the "official" (my word) protocol for addressing a Dom that's not your Dom), and all this maelstrom erupted. But now, out of that, you get to meet someone you didn't plan to meet, spend a bit of time with them, and expand your world in what will most likely be a favorable way.
Everything "happens" for a reason, I believe.
Somehow, I suspect that the original meeting wasn't about the original meeting, although none of us knew that at the time...
Have a wonderful weekend.
Gear
In the interest of keeping this highly entertaining thread, well entertaining, I’m going update you all on my meeting with a subbie other than my Amber. Sorry folks after the above diatribe, I decided not to ask for anyone’s opinion on proper protocol when meeting a sub for the first time (so please PLEASE! Don’t offer). Amber and I decided to take a bold step and just go head and call the aforementioned by her name….fascinating concept I thought!
Although the visit has NOT turned into the bondage extravaganza I may or may not have held as a fantasy in my Domly brain, it as turned into a delightful visit none the less. The plan for the evening is to head to a few choice pubs, see some sites and discuss all you folks on the forum! Cheers!
J
hope our ears dont turn too red!! have a great evening *s*
Tis true Gear, it really wasn't anything that mattered, simply my own curiousity. There seems to be certain protocol for online, such as spelling the names of Doms with caps and subs lower case, little things such as that, and I was simply wondering whether there were real life quirks to this lifestyle as well. It really was a meant to be gathering of others' experiences, but for whatever reason it did indeed incite some lengthy responses. Fabulous though, as it has been an interesting maelstrom, to say the least! *hehehe*
Though I do have a quesion: "Somehow, I suspect that the original meeting wasn't about the original meeting, although none of us knew that at the time..." Not sure what you meant by that, and I'd hate to misunderstand because I will certainly and happily clear up what exactly I meant at any given point in the thread. Thanks!
Oh and J? You mean you wanted to BE THERE for the bondage extravaganza?? Oh heck, you didn't say THAT! Damn it all we started without you... ;) *hehehe* Bad subbies!
So for all wondering, I am said and aforementioned subbie that went to J and Amberville and had an amazingly great time! Something not to be missed by any on tour should one decide they need a break and to be hosted by some very cool people that I am very happy to call friends.
Beers were had, many many laughs shared and a sunburn (yes a sunburn!) on my left arm and neck were gained while sharing a pint on a very relaxing Saturday afternoon on a downtown patio *s*
Thank you both for a supremely relaxing get away - I'll definitely be back to visit again.
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Originally Posted by J-Go
So I guess I would be out of line if I suggested "Dominate if appropriate." :rolleyes:
Yep... that's why I'm not even gonna mention it. ;)
Hmmm. Timing is everything.
Well Oz, I'll just have to retour when your bike cruises through ;) heheQuote:
Originally Posted by Ozme52
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Oz Dear, you are NEVER "out of line." You're simply Oz, and we adore you for it! ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Ozme52
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Originally Posted by Ozme52
Appreciated dear Oz! Happy travels!
*BUMP!*
Sooo... Guess who's comin' through town next week? ;)
awwwwwwwww I'm so jealous I'm going to miss him *pouts*
When is he in town?
HHHHHMMMMM????....could it be.....maybe....OZ????
Awww, the girls are good guessers! Yup, the Wizard of Ahhhhhs (that just makes me giggle even to type it!) will be here on Wednesday! I'll keep an extensive and detailed blog...
lol......so far all i hear are good things.........so im sure you wont be disappointed!....woohoo!
Oh, you're such a lucky lucky gurl - give him a special 'grope' from me *winks* - have a wonderful time!! Can't wait to read that blog heheQuote:
Originally Posted by DowntownAmber