H&HSC Mentoring Program...

I sent you a pm as I cant say on here just yet.

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Originally Posted by ditzyblondegirl

Hi Ladies, I am 38 and recently a o/l friend has introduced me to BDSM. He has recently become my Dom.

What makes a good submissive??

Tonight he asked me how much I weigh.. and I said no. I weigh too much.. lol then he said are you telling me no? and I said oh fine.. then i told him how much I weigh. I think I made a mistake.. I should have takin my punishment. :) I'm a curvy girl that is insecure around white males... now black males drool all over me. what makes my insecurity even worse is my Dom. is really hot!! and I would do just about anything to please him.

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What makes a good submissive? One that's true to herself/himself and appericate herself and knows that she is worth having a good dominant/top/master to help her, guide her/him.etc...If you felt abit uncomfortable with your weight, theres nothing wrong with that I am a plus size girl myself and I enjoy myself and so do men. Not everyone has the same level of self esteem as me and I know this so i dont expect you to just go right out and say it. You can always tell them from the there that you are curvy, plus size, luscious, thick..whatever word you want to choose! I dont think you did wrong, maybe the manner in which you told him "no...and oh fine" Theres always ways to still show respect and say no. It can be done..

This is a great part to this site, I have recently allowed myself to be awakened and it has started to answer questions that i've been asking all my life!! but I still have so much more to learn...god I don't even know what all the questions are but if anyone wants to share their experiences with me especially on starting out....i would appreciate them. I have started a blog to share my experiences, my feelings..... felt like I needed to get them out of my head to make any sense out of them!! and better on here than some other hide away!!

First question.....should I share blog with Him??

That would depend on exactly who and what "Him" is to me if I were in your shoes.

Is he someone you know and trust in real life for a number of years...or someone you only know from online for the past few weeks?

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Originally Posted by denuseri

That would depend on exactly who and what "Him" is to me if I were in your shoes.

Is he someone you know and trust in real life for a number of years...or someone you only know from online for the past few weeks?

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He is some one I have known in real life for a few years but only recently in the last 6 months got a little closer sharing thoughts and stories and discoveries

Do you cohabitate?

Are you dating or married?

See weather or not to share some things with him can depend on a wide variety of factors...factors only you know where and who you stand upon them.

Myself...meh, I dont do blogs, though I will share my thoughts on a forums, and as for diaries and writting assignments...well its better imho to just talk to him directly, but thats me.

Ultimately your the one who must decide for yourself how much if anything to share, or not with another.

Volunteering my PM inbox, i'm always available to listen or have a chat with anybody about anything at all. i'm rose, 20, and i've been involved with the Lifestyle in some way shape or form for over 5 years now. i'm a 24/7 collared slave in real life, so i can try to answer any questions anybody has. i know it's hard for young newbies to have somebody to talk to, so here i am!