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Originally Posted by secret_slave
I agree with you. I love being told that I was a "good girl".
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Originally Posted by secret_slave
I agree with you. I love being told that I was a "good girl".
I love being called good girl- Master tells me I glow when he says it. I always get a silly smile on my face when he does.
i wrote my very first blog entry on this topic ... i simply adore being told those two words by my (Almost) Master - being told them in any other context is an entirely different matter, mind you - and miners_girl, 'glowing' is a great way to describe a response.
i think that part of it for me is that it takes me into a much less complicated place than my adult/"real" world life generally is. When i please my (Almost) Master, He tells me i am good. And it's that simple.
But yes, i 100% agree with those who are saying that if you don't like anything your Dom calls you intending affection, then let Him know outside of the play session. Just like negotiating lists for limits, things you want to try, things He won't do, etc etc ... words and phrases and language is so key to keeping things flowing easily when playing. i know that for me, His "good girl" and hair stroking lets me take much more from His crop or flogger than i would otherwise be able to endure. And that wouldn't be the case if the words didn't melt me so.
like many here, i absolutely melt when He calls me good girl. this usually happens through texts. . .so the dreamy vacant look that crosses my face and the sudden rush of heat can be a bit awkward in the middle of a class or meeting. for me the only words better than "good girl" is when He tells me what a good toy i am. *swoon*
He's never called me cunt or slut or any terms that are usually derogatory. i'm not completely sure, but i think i would have a big problem with them. if that happens i will let Him know i don't like it outside of playtime (that is if He can't tell from my reaction, i think He'll know).
I love it!! I find it rewarding & comforting & I only ever get it if I truly earn the words. He says this so I know when I pleased him well.
If I didn't like it, I would ask Him to maybe call me something different because "Good Girl" sounds:
"condescending & makes me think I didn't really do a good job..." or "like you're talking to your dog..."
and suggest an alternative.
I would think most Dom's would prefer the feedback. Doms care about their subs & want for us to be happy too!
Openlyrefined is absolutely right, its the way something is said. When Master says 'good girl' to me, it makes me feel as if I could burst with happiness and pride that I have pleased him, when my husband does it (and that is rare nowadays because after 20 years of marriage he has FINALLY got it into his thick head that it is condescending and annoying) it just makes me want to bark and wag my imaginary tail LOL - Its the same with slut, Kaerose said that slut and cunt would upset her if they were used by her master, but mine calls me slut all the time and I love it. If he says Good Morning and doesnt put slut on the end I miss it!! It always makes me smile. So I guess its different strokes for different folks think how boring life would be if everyone was the same!!!
I love being told Im a good girl it lets me know he is being pleasured
If it was said to me by my Dominant, then it wouldn't be that big of a deal.Quote:
Originally Posted by leah06
Someone else, however, would get told of my displeasure.
When i'm playing with a play partner, i love hearing it. i also love hearing "you're being a bad girl." When it's in that case it's part of the play and mind fuck for me.
When i'm in public not playing, it doesn't do anything for me. And depending on my mood it makes me either grin a good one, or slap Him.lol.
~j~
Does it bother me to be told I'm a "good girl"? Not in the least.
It pretty well rocks. :D
My Master very rarely tells me i'm a "good girl". Hmmmmm that must mean i am always a bad girl :D
I love it. It means I've pleased Him and He is acknowledging that to me. Whether in public or during play. Actually He can call me anything He wants...good girl, good slut, good slave.
I have to agree with naughtyminx here... If there is "good" at the start, it's already sounding good to me. :D
But "good girl"??? hmmm.... shivers.... I LOVE IT!!!
(caressing the hair... hmm... heaven!)
(of course, in the right context, by the right person, etc, etc... If not, just watch out 'cause I might just slap you! - calm down, Missy... lol)
If I hear the words "good girl"; I have a contented look on my face, I know I have done well, pleased him and I am in the place that I long to be....
When/If I hear "good girl" I beam from ear to ear. It's one of my most favorite words to hear.
Hearing "good girl" and seeing Master's sexy smile, makes my body tingle and throb! :D
I love it when my Master calls me "good girl". Cuz i know i have done something that pleased him.
I love being called good girl or even just girl it totally turns me on. Well depending on who's saying it.
i am also older, 45...but when He says that i melt at His feet.
When my Master calls me good girl....i love it. He doesn't use it often, so when he does say it....it means the world to me.
I love it when my Master says "Good Girl"
but, when someone else says it I feel like they are very condescending to me!
im into being told to dress up like a girl and when my mistress says good girl to me it humilates me but i like to be humilated
no it doesnt bother me...i love being praised!!!
Hmmm..I do not think master has ever said "good girl" to me....but the thought does appeal to me. *grins*
Nothing in the world beats hearing those words.....
I love hearing it, i have no issues or hang up with hearing that i am a "good girl" or "good slut" or "bitch" if its by the one i call my Dominant!
good girl!? my Master is old school (kinky)german! schatz (treasure) is the most endearing thing he would call me! makes my heart sing:)
Hmmm. I don't find it humiliating at all, but in a non-sexual situation would find it extremely condescending. One of the reasons I love M so much is he has the common sense to know when to use it and when not to!
Honestly, when I'm all hot & bothered, just about anything works for me!
Only Master can say that to me. If another would dare... OMFG!! I think I'd snap and attack.
When He says "you're such a good girl"... I can't describe the happiness, it just makes my chest explode.
Yes! I love it when Master calls me a 'good girl' ^_^Quote:
Originally Posted by leah06
If I didn't like it then I would accept it for now, then later I'd tell him how I didn't like it. It's always important to talk and let Master know if I don't like something (and even if I like it, then it could be done more often in the future!)
i don't get it often but when He tells me good girl, i know He is happy, that makes me happy.
I would have to agree with most of the other comments here, I love being told good girl, i find it makes me light up and makes me want to work harder to hear it. this being said, i understand that some actions and phrases dont work well and may give the wrong impression from what our Dom/Dommes may have intended. its always best to be open with them, about everything, then they will know to use a different phrase for rewarding and maybe use good girl as a humiliation tactic.
In a regular relationship I would not enjoy being called "good girl". But the little experience I do have as a sub, I love it. Being called a good girl means I am pleasing my Master and that is deeply satisfying and for me, a huge turn on.
Love it!! Sir doesn't often say "good girl" so when he does, it's very special, especially depending on the setting. ~blush
i loooooooovvvvvvee getting told im a good girl :-) but then im my Master's little pixie tehe we do age and puppy play so good girl is veeerrrryyyy good tehe
When my Dom tells me "good girl," I get this overwhelming urge to smack him in the back of the head (I learned my lesson the first time I did that!!). I think that there are some phrases and words out there that irk people and that phrase irks me to no end. Now my Dom uses it when he really wants to tease me and knows that I can't do a single thing about it. Sometimes it works to my advantage in the long run. :d
It bothered me at first, but the more I hear it, the less it bothers me. However, when he does it in conjunction with patting my head, it feels very patronizing and not encouraging at all.
But, if he asks me, "are you my girl/whose my girl" or "are you my good girl", I usually just melt.
When my Mistress tells me "good girl", i know that ive pleased her. Therefore, i love hearing "good girl".
Its the ultimate compliment :)
to me if i have an emotional tie/bond with someone then to be told 'good girl' is the most rewarding statement i could ever hear and will practically purr like a kitten but on the other side of the coin if it was to be said from someone who i work with or anyone i had no emotional tie/bond with then the same words grate on me like chalk on a board and i have in my time flipped out on a person for being such a patronising prat....
i am a little bit complex though or have duel personalities...lol