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Fear, I think it is bad for a D/s relationship if the sub has zero fear of her Dom. Even though they trust their Dom a little fear of what he is doing to them is very healthy and I think causes her respect and trust of him to grow.
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Love the expressions in this set! (Especially #4 and #10!)
Exactly!! Thanks for saying this. Sometimes it takes an insightful Dom to put things into words so we can understand it.Quote:
Even though they trust their Dom a little fear of what he is doing to them is very healthy and I think causes her respect and trust of him to grow.
Sir Russell
I really enjoyed this set, I was surprised that 2 on the second row was my fav. Something about the plastic being the tie caught my attention.
I often think about wanting the fear, but needing the trust so I can be free enough to give up the control. LOL I'm not sure that even makes sense.
Sbbe
Sbbe - that makes perfect sense to me! So there's at least two of us who feel that way. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by StillBehindBlueEyes
It makes sense to me too but what I think SirRussel meant was not fear in itself but fear that she doesnt know exactly what will happen and what he might be up to.
For me it is more about trust than fear. A sub afraid of me will not submit willingly and that makes it loose it´s appeal to ME.
once again a great set there Russel. LOVE gags *s*
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Yess SSBBE I do mean not fear of the Dom but fear of what may be about to happen, sorta like going on a huge roller coaster the fear that the track could break or wheel fall off is part of the joy of the ride. You get on the coaster because you trust it is in good working order run by someone that is very sane and safety minded. Lol but at the top of the highest point you still feel that in the pit of your stomach.
Now today asians and vibrators
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Feeling quite distracted after just approving those....
cariad
Love #2 and #10!!
LOL...I can definately relate to that!Quote:
Feeling quite distracted after just approving those....
Sir RussellQuote:
Originally Posted by Sir_Russell
So enjoyed the pictures but the words were what got me all excited. Yes it's just like the rollercoaster, LOL.
Sbbe
Nice picture as usual. Thanks
Wonderful stuff...you really have a great collection. I think some healthy fear is a great thing.
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I don't think I have posted this here. I wrote this to answer a lady that decided that a Dom must be a control freak.
Control Freak or Dominant
I have been both and each is very different.
A control freak wants to be in charge of you at all times, no item is too small for him, to ignore no detail. He inspects and almost never likes what he finds.
A Dominant differs in that he sets what is important to him and to the relationship. He is a friend that you can share joys, problems with and who will ask for your advice before making a decision.
A control freak is normally upset because you didn’t do things right which means that no matter how detailed his instructions are there is always more left unspoken. This puts you in the unenviable position of never being good enough.
A Dominant takes responsibility for his own actions or lack thereof. Normally a laidback person that is looking to help you grow and wants you to feel good about yourself, knowing that growth takes errors and failures.
A control freak rarely thinks he makes mistakes it is always someone else that caused the problem.
A Dominant has to be in control of themselves first so has a tendency to look first at his own shortcomings before looking to blame others.
A control freak is often disgusted with your effort or in the way causing you to be fearful that you will fail again.
A Dominant is a teacher, looking to help and instruct at the same time. A good teacher also give you space and confidence to try it on your own, then may make suggestion on how it might be done even better then you did but lets you know that the effort is what counted.
A control freak rarely has time to enjoy you, spend some time with just you relaxing and loving.
A Dominant loves the idea of time with his lady, a chance to laugh and enjoy or a chance to take her out and show her off, let the world see his pride in her.
A Dominant is mannerly, the first person you want to run to when your world is falling apart, a strong shoulder to cry on, a confidant, etc. He has your best interest at heart even over his own. He respects his lady, honors her, and has great pride in her. Most women never get to experience that for extended periods of time. He also expects the same in return.
A control freak wants life done his way.
A Dominant negotiate how life will be for the 2 of you, but then expects you to do your best, as he will, to live up to the agreement.
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*sigh* That's it, exactly. I have yet another reason to admire and respect you, Sir_Russell.
Sir Russell,
I believe that is the most profound and moving statement I have ever read. Your insight and knowledge is so appreciated.
Love the pics, btw. :)
pic 8 is copywrited though.
another great set SirRussel
Thanks Logic...missed that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Logic1
Many Thanks for another Great Post Sir_Russell
Nice ones...especially the 2nd to last, nice use of a chair and anal hooks just look so damn sexy and controlling!
Sir RussellQuote:
Originally Posted by Sir_Russell
Wow, so enjoyed this. It's really something to add to the file I'm trying to put together to share with Hubby when I try to explain what I crave.
Thanks for the pictures too but the words overshadowed them.
Sbbe
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Glad you liked my words. and the photos, sorry that I missed a copywrite
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Thank you I really enjoyed the pictures. I was thinking about what I like most in pictures. Beside an intense look on the female I enjoy seeing the man whispering in the woman's ear. I always like to imagine what he's whispering.
What are some of the things you might say to a subbie as you play with her?
Sbbe
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SSBBE I whisper questions mostly, like "who do you belong to", "who are you", "who owns you", "if I choose to punish you what will you do", "will you kneel for me because you want too", and others that should help her to know who she is and wants to be.
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Geez, Sir_Russell, the pictures aren't even approved yet and I'm already warm.
Wow Sir_russell a Great way to Start the day Thank you
Thanks for these Sir_Russell!#6 is just the sort of pic that begs for a caption
as her facial expression conveys quite a story.#7 is of course my all time favorite AshleyR,always an asset to any collection of images.
another nod to # 6 & 7. much the same comment on 7.
Oh Sir RussellQuote:
Originally Posted by Sir_Russell
Forget the pictures it's the words I liked in this post. Ummmmmm very very sexy. Thanks so much.
Sbbe
Ok I hear 7,that's 7,do I hear 8?
That's cuz you're easy for erotic pictures. :pQuote:
Originally Posted by his_j
Great pictures, Sir Russell. Thanks!
tessa :wave:
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Thanks StillSexyBehindBlueEyes for reminding me of that little exercise that does so much for both of us. Been to long since hearing her responses, the little moans as she answers watching her knees grow weak as she tells me she is mine or my slave, that I own her and so many others.
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Sir Russell
I only dream of what you've had so many times. I know you will have it again. I hope soon.
thank you for the beautiful pictures.
Sbbe
I'm even easier for erotic words. Whispered.Quote:
Originally Posted by tessa
Okay, that just didn't come out quite right! :rolleyes:
#9 Sir Russell.. I'll take that one to be delivered by Sat 6 Am for a long weekend. grins.
Thank you Sir_Russell :) Great set :)
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Words are what the life is about, how can you teach and train anyone without them. Try to inspire someone without them. While I am taking her to places she could only have dreamed of, I want her to pay for that by growing for me.
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These are amazing! Love them all.
Wonderfull Thank you Sir_russell
Thank you Sir Russell 3's my fav.
Sbbe
#3 and 6 great shots.
Hmmm, the first and last ones remind me of a couple of discussions I've had recently : )
Wedjat