minxy, you said just the right thing at just the right time.Quote:
Originally Posted by suchaminx
Thank you.
~hugs and love~
tessa
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minxy, you said just the right thing at just the right time.Quote:
Originally Posted by suchaminx
Thank you.
~hugs and love~
tessa
~hugs~
I still have 5 more days and will be back around mid-August, just not settled in for a bit.
~hugs hugs hugs~ !!!
ECHOES!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh I've missed you!!!! ~hugs and hugs and hugs~
I'll be thinking of you and looking forward to August!
~hugs~
Ok, I just had a "wow" moment. It had nothing to do with a sexual activity or the threat of a good, hard paddling. Now don't stop reading just 'cause I said that. :rolleyes:
My wonderful friend, Ms. Red, said something to me that made me stop and think. It made me think about everyone I read about here that lives this out on a day to day basis, who try to make this D/s dynamic work in the relationship with their significant other and who sometimes get frustrated with it. I think what she had to say is rather brilliant, so I'm gonna share with all you who read this. I will add that I was venting a bit to her- about the difficulties when two people are so different and when life gets in the way and when there's not enough time and blah, blah, blah. She listened to me and gave me the following:
See? Like I said, brilliant. :) She sent me focus and perspective. And she reminded me that it is all worth it. I hope anyone else reading this gets the same thing from it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Red
Love you, girlie! ~big squishy boobie hug, albeit with tears~
tessa :wave:
tessa ~hugs~
~hugs~ for Red too
I read the original post of Red's and have to say it does make perfect sense - what a wise lady :)
Fantasy - makes your world rock :) :) and even just drifiting off into that world for a few seconds makes the reality seem worthwhile - because if we didn't have the reality of life guess we couldn't then have the fantasies.
Hope this makes sense to you - it does to me *wonders if maybe I am in my own little world this morning*
~love and hugs~
minxy xx
It makes perfect sense to me, minxy. :) So, if you sre in your own little world, I must be there with you. That sounds pretty perfect as well.Quote:
Originally Posted by suchaminx
You are just so wonderful!
~hugs~
tessa
pppfffffttttt *blushes* Wise my ass...more like a wiseass!
I notice you're working on that accepting-a-compliment phobia you have. :p
~big squishy boobie hugs again, 'cause it feels so good~
:)
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It shows that much, huh?
Well, since I noticed it just now, in my own thread of all places, I'll do the deed here.
Post 1000. Wow.
It's easy for me to spot that phobia, Red. I deal with it everyday, so I should know all about it. I should. Doesn't mean I do so well with it. :o
This finding a balance is tough stuff sometimes. But it's worth the doing, so I do it. One day...
tessa :wave:
*giggles and hands tessa a cookie* Yay! 1000 Post cookie!
A famous Fae cookie!!!! :D Now that's worth celebrating!Quote:
Originally Posted by MajesticFae
~hugs the cookie cutie~
Wow.
I always read the last couple of posts of this thread, but never from the beginning. So today, I spent a good half hour reading from the first post, and all I can say is wow.
Tessa, congrats on your willing submission to your husband. All I can say about the hard times in life is that without them, how would you know about the good times then? I find it awesome reading your thoughts and experiences.
And in a way, this thread has taught me so much about a bdsm relationship, and for that, thank you, and to all others who contributed their experiences and thoughts as well.
May you in the distant future look back with complete happiness.
Well, thanks for taking the time, NK. Real nice of you to do so. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by nk_lion
I really deserve no congrats as I can make it all so very complicated and difficult. But it's true what you said- without the bad, you don't know the good.Quote:
Tessa, congrats on your willing submission to your husband. All I can say about the hard times in life is that without them, how would you know about the good times then? I find it awesome reading your thoughts and experiences.
I'm glad you think you've learned something. Care to share it with me as I'm still clueless?Quote:
And in a way, this thread has taught me so much about a bdsm relationship, and for that, thank you, and to all others who contributed their experiences and thoughts as well.
That is beautifully said. My sincere appreciation. ~hugs the lion~Quote:
May you in the distant future look back with complete happiness.
tessa :wave:
tessa,
Shame on you. Stop being so humble. do you have any idea how many people here look up to you?
Yes I am one of those people.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rhabbi
I only wish I was able to write my own journey, but I haven't even left the driveway yet.
~hugs cadence~ Sweetie, we need to talk.
I'm not being "humble", Rhabbi. I am being real. And I am flawed beyond my own recognition sometimes. I am no one to look up to. And that is the simple truth.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rhabbi
Do I care about the people here and how everything about this lifestyle ties into that? Yes, very much so. And I am willing to help in any way I can, if it's possible for me to do so. But the "shame on you" would be more than appropriate if I were to accept any praise from others. That would be wrong, as I don't deserve that at all.
Say I'm compassionate or empathetic or concerned. Hell, say I'm a silly flirt. I'm good with all those descriptions. But no one should mistake me for someone they should look up to.
Just my thoughts on it.
tessa
You may be right (maybe not), but we still look forward to your words and the warm fuzzies you give us all. *hugs*
Well, everyone's experience in a bdsm relationship is unique, and most here are already in one. Your story described the awkard beginnings, slow realizations and the excitment of exploration with. While I still have to find Mrs. Nk, I look at this thread as an inspiration about a normal couple going through an adventure together. Your husband is a lucky man, plus that Mustang is wickedly awesome.Quote:
Originally Posted by tessa
So what did I learn? I learned that having a bdsm based relation is not easy, yet not hard if both participants are willing to work for it, from what you have written, and most importantly I learned that you are wildly happy, and that your marraige is a lot richer after starting this journey together.
Methinks you have a compliment phobia also. Everyone here reads your thread and gains something from it, while you may think you are simply sharing you thoughts and feelings, to a reader (at least to me) you are doing a lot more. So thank you, and you better accept it or I'll tell your husband to deny you orgasms for a week and say its a part of a supermod initiation.Quote:
Originally Posted by tessa
Yeah, tessa, what nk said. And others. I learn hugely from this, I take hope, inspiration, pleasure, encouragement from it. You are a special person - you are humble, and your humility is one of your attractive traits. But please, take the compliment: you are also teaching, and showing great thought and wisdom. You take the time to consider the path you and your husband are taking deeply and seriously - as well as having a WHOLE lot of fun! good on you both
~hugs all my friends...one big, lusty, groping group hug~
You guys are just amazing. I didn't say what I said to encourage "compliment tessa time". This place is just the best! It's a little rough going right now, just because of the differences between two people and life happenings and whatever. But no matter how upside down or confusing or great or frustrating or amusing it all is, I know I can count on my family here to encourage and support me.
NK, you get my sincere respect for handing my words back to me like that. I'm also impressed. And I thank you. :)
pixie and moptop, you both are so beautiful to me. Don't know how I ever made it along without friends like you. ~hugs and hugs~
I still can't take the compliment, not as it is. But if I am contributing in any way, then I'm very happy about that.
Much love-
tessa
ps. NK, nice ass grope you have there. ;)
pss. Oh, it wasn't you?? ~looks over at moptop and pixie~ Well...~big grin~ Nice. :D
Wow. Since joining the forums I don't think I have read a thread all the way through. But Tessa, yours was so wonderful and inspiring. And not just for those wishing to live the D/s lifestyle. But for those wanting and fighting and striving to get what they want out of life.
You know I have always thought (And now that I am over 50 I always try to play the Wise Old Man) that the people most worthy of looking up to and emulating are those that least think they are worthy of that honor. You certainly are one of those most worthy so I beg to differ with your assessment of yourself.
You are a funny, talented (I love your stories), caring woman and I salute your courage at posting your journey.
I have also learned that for every answer I get to life, 10 more questions arise. But you and DD have learned one of the major secrets, if you care for one another you communicate and you work and it sounds like both of you are reaping the rewards of that hard work.
You are not just a beautiful subbie, though.
You are a beautiful and caring mother,
You are a wife
You are comfort to more people than you know
You are a beautiful, sexy woman
You wear all these hats, it seems to me, with grace, with dignity and with competence.
Thank you for letting me ramble on. ANd thanks for sharing your story.
And I feel like I have found a home here in the forums as well.
John
I love tessa, she is so cool. *gives you a peek*
John, I am touched that you took the time not only to read through all my madness, but the comments you made are priceless to me. Thank you so much! This community is "home", isn't it? I am glad we are here together. :)
And Miss Fae!! A peek?! All for me?!?! WOO with a double HOO!! (that would make it "hoo-hoo") :p Loves ya, sweetie!!
Just when I needed you most...
~hugs everybody~
tessa
Actually, darling, it makes it "Woo-Hoo-Hoo!" *giggles*Quote:
Originally Posted by tessa
Oh my, yes, it does! You're right!Quote:
Originally Posted by MajesticFae
Even better! ;)
:wave:
*exchanges sweet wide-eyed innocent looks with pixie* Grope? *looks wonderingly at hand* Oh, grope! *puts naughty, naughty hand behind back* It's just... muscle strengthening. For, um, playing the flute. Yeah, that's right. :rolleyes:Quote:
Originally Posted by tessa
Oh, wonderful moptop! I needed that grin! :D
~hugs for you and for those flute-playing hands of yours~
~smiles and hugs~
tessa, with so many people telling you how wonderful you are I truely hope that you will start to believe it and have as much confidence in yourself as we all do.
I love reading your posts, they bring a smile to my face, guess because I feel I know you a little but also because I know that every word comes from your enormous heart.
I love this place too and you are right it is a 'home and a family' for many of us, in good and bad times.
~hugs and more hugs~ for your tough time, right now and ~hugs and more hugs~ for the good times that are just waiting to pounce.
love
minxy xx
We're permitted to grope? Hmmm....
*sneaking up behind tessa...*
How about we just say groping and pinching is permitted?
Encouraged even, *smiles and blinks innocently, holding a paddle behind his back*Quote:
Originally Posted by nk_lion
~stares lovingly at minxy~ Is it any wonder why I have such a grand crush on her?? Thank you for all those words! ~hugs~
NK and John, I like how you both think! ;)
pixie, that's the most gorgeous sneak I've ever seen. :bigkiss:
:wave:
Just wanted to say after a long absence I truly enjoyed coming back and reading your thread. Your words are eloquent and you seem to be such a strong, beautiful person. I wish you nothing but joy on this journey and look forward to reading more of your musings.
sipgirl, I appreciate your well wishes. I have read your post about your return. I am glad you're back here with us and I look forward to getting better acquainted with you. :)
Jeepers! I've missed out on quite a bit!
What's with all this groping? No one invited me! *pouts*
Lol
I am sincerely sorry, would you like to do the groping, or be groped :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Dorkalicious
You are forgiven =P
Hmm, I'll stick with the "be groped" for now, hehe.
I'll keep that in mind ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Dorkalicious
Watch out D'licious....He bites!!! :eek:Quote:
Originally Posted by Dorkalicious