You might not be able to get me up, but I bet you could lick me up. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by MajesticFae
Oh my, that was naughty,wasn't it?? :o
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You might not be able to get me up, but I bet you could lick me up. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by MajesticFae
Oh my, that was naughty,wasn't it?? :o
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Random is my middle name dear ;)
Yes, we've had several of those conversations very recently that I walked away from saying "holy sh**, I'm getting what I want here and he actually brought it up" and then got a little chill down my spine - you know, that delicious, slightly fearful shiver that says "okay, now can you really handle it?"Quote:
Originally Posted by tessa
He just shocks the crap out of me sometimes - sounds the same for you. Oh, and the whole "you are here to serve me and only me, whether you get off on it or not" dynamic that he didn't seem to be feeling? Well, he's feeling it all right and I have now gone 5 days without, while he's pretty damn happy. Actually, I'm feeling pretty damn happy too... hooray for husbands that are willing to explore their own dark corners! :cool:
When I read your post, I just yelled out loud, in my empty house, with no one around... "Oh my God!!" and burst out laughing! No, no mental illness in my family, I swear - we just call Southern women who talk to themselves "eccentric" or "touched" - actually "tetched" but figured I'd better spell it correctly so everyone else knew what I was talking about - I know you do, tessa. :)
*a big hug just for you*
jeanne
:eek: That's incredible! You just wrote out everything I've thought and felt!!Quote:
Originally Posted by his_j
WOOHOO for those dark corners!!Quote:
Originally Posted by his_j
I just did the same thing reading your post,'cept I wasn't alone and my little one is saying, "are you okay, Mommy?" I know just what you're talking about, jeanne. ~winks~ My Grandma called it being "a bit affected by the spirit". ~giggles~ I'm sitting here trying to figure out how to spell out "affected" in the Southern way...hmm, let me try- "uh-fayk-tid" - Hey! I think that's it! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by his_j
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Originally Posted by tessa
It's sorta noticeable you don't live in a city where lots of people are walking around with handsfree corded (invisinble) cell phones. ;) Over here, i see people every day "talking to themselves" in the street, on the train, even in the grocery store. Sometimes just chatting, sometimes saying things so outrageous you really wish they'd have waited till they got home - or just smiling at it. And yes, the no-no on talking to yourself in public used to be as strong here as it is in the States, or even stronger...
I remember waiting at a traffic light on Market Street in San Francisco. Several people passed by us, but one gentleman would walk into the intersection and then turn and yell at nobody there behind him. He was having a heated argument withhis imaginary friend.
I tuened to my ex-wife and told her, "It is just a really bad day, when your imaginary friends turn against you."
Have a great day everyone.
It drives me nuts when people are using hands free devices because I can never tell if they're talking to me or the person on the phone... but I still want one.
And yes, oh lovely tessa, We're 'tetched' and we're often uppity and suffer from the vapors.
*giggles hysterically* Tessa, I'm imagining you... *snickers* I'm sorry. I read too much. hahahahahahahahaha Ok, so I'm not sorry! It's funny as hell...or this damn rootbeer...
"Please, sir, I want some more."
"What!" said the master at length, in a faint voice.
"Please, sir," replied Tessa, "I want some more."
I hope the master doesn't offer a reward of 5 pounds to anybody who will take Tessa off his hands. *giggles*
Ha.......Ha. Aren't you just too damn cute. :32:Quote:
Originally Posted by Flaming-Redhead
~giggles~ I love that line! I say it ALL the time, with the accent and everything!
5 pounds?? *pffffffffttttt* That medicine has "uh-fayk-ted" your brain, sweetie. It'd take a bigger reward offer than that for someone to be willing to take me off anything...hands or what have you. :p
I am glad things worked out for you love ----and yes I have been keeping track of your progress ----I am pleased you are finding your way in the lifestyle ---and glad your husband could be your dom ----it is so sad that many spouses think the lifestyle is dirty ---kinky ----and will not even talk about it with their partner ----But I have always said be open and honest with your mate ----and if they can not listen and help provide what you need in your life ---maybe you made a mistake in choosing your mate ---life is too short to be unhappy ----and I have seen a few marriages fall apart because one of the partners was unwilling to try or even educate themselves about what their partner wanted or needed ----
Hugs
Mr. Rabbit, I know how busy you are (so very, very busy). That you took the time to add your insights here have touched me deeply. So much so that I need a moment to go get a tissue so I can see through the tears to type the rest of what I want to say.
~deep breath~ Ok, enough of that girl stuff. When I found this wonderful community, you were so generous and helpful to me. Being "open and honest" in my communication was one of the first pieces of advice you gave me. One of the best as it turned out. Why I didn't believe this could be a part of my life is still a mystery to me. But you, and some other truly special souls here, have helped and guided me along this journey I knew I needed to take. For all of it, for who you are to me, my most sincere gratitude.
And now I need another kleenex. So much for enough of the girl stuff...
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I just read through this again after a good bit of time. Almost a year?!? Wow. Seriously...wow.
Reading Jim's post made me cry and cry. But in a good way. I'm so glad I listened to him and approached my husband in the first place. This journey has been NOTHING like I expected, but wonderful nonetheless. Thanks Mr. Rabbit. ~sends him a kiss in heaven~
All the responses I had saying, "be patient", "this takes time", well to be honest, a year ago, they just pissed me off. But I was stupid then. Now I know better.
See? Blondes aren't so dumb after all. :p
Communication. If there was one word I can use to sum up the key to all this, that would be it. Open, honest, from the heart, don't care if it hurts your feelings a little right now because it needs to be said, Communication. I can't say it boldly or more colorfully than that. The effectiveness of it will make or break the relationship. If I hold back in being open, he holds back the same. He holds back and keeps to himself, so do I. But when we both stop filtering and speak our hearts and minds, it works. And very well. Please try it sometime for yourself and see. :)
One thing I've come to know as a major truth- he really can't read my mind. :eek: And dammit. :32: That would make life so much simpler. But here's another truth- I can't read his either. And he kinda thought I could. It's made for a few rough patches along the way. So to all of you trying this out, remember- NO ONE, not even the most perfectly insightful Dominant, nor the most wonderfully intuitive submissive, can read minds. It eliminates a lot of the anger and resentment when you realize this truth for yourself. You stop placing unrealistic expectations on the other when you know the reading another's mind is a fallacy created in sickeningly sweet fairy tales. Say what you're thinking or the other won't know. Period.
Another thing I just have to say. It is impossible to know where this journey will go from here. I've stopped trying to plan it out as that's pretty much impossible as well. It follows it's own path, meandering here and there sometimes, and at other times blazing a trail you never imagined could exist. And watch out for those rocky edges as you go. They can be difficult to navigate and a bitch to climb back up if you go over.
Basically, what I've learned since getting into this is...(drum roll please)...I know nothing. Not one single thing.
But I'm learning. And I'll keep learning. Because I want to. Because I need to.
And because you can't buy this kind of high. I'm completely addicted.
The BDSM addicted Subbierella. Now that's a tale ~giggles~ I could sink my teeth into. And claws. Can't forget those. ;)
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tessa
WOW I can't believe it has been a year either.
I am sure your honesty and openess in this thread has not only helped you but been an inspiration to others.
I know that I am better person for knowing you and have learnt from you.......yes really!!
Thank you for being you, for caring and for the messages and hugs when I needed them most
love and hugs minxy xx
I think it is great you have made it a year! I know how long a year can be in a BDSM journey, and how much can happen in that time!
I am so very pleased you are happy but more pleased that this year has allowed you and your husband to communicate and find out so much more about each other. I fully agree, COMMUNICATION is the key, without it everything just falls in a heap.
Hugs to you honey and I hope the next year is even better!
sounds like great revelations for a year and I sure hope that the next year will be even better :)
~hugs minxy~ You were elemental in all this as well. Yes, really! ~smiles~ You know I love you all up. :)
~gropes all over AG and hopes Warbaby is watching~ I agree with you on that heap thing. Without the big 'C', it all falls apart. And without the big 'C', there's no big 'O'- let's not forget that. ;)
And thanks, Logic! What a sweetie you are to wish me the best. I know only this...the next year is guaranteed to bring the unexpectedly expected. Or maybe that's the other way around. I've been lusting all over your avatar and I'm distracted. :p
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*leans over and kisses Tessa behind the ear* hey girl, 'aven't heard that much from you in the last few weeks. I'm happy you're still here, you know.
~turns and huggles Louise~ And I'm so glad to see you. You've been missed.Quote:
Originally Posted by gagged_Louise
Life has grabbed me in a big way. It's shaking me all around and doesn't want to turn loose. But...one day.
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I'm glad you posted an update; it brought this thread to the top so I could see it. I'm in the same boat you were in a year ago, and I'm very happy to have your journey to read.
Thanks for sharing!
playful, congratulations with your journey. Hopefully we can hear from you about yours? We can always benefit from other's perspectives.
My best to you-
tessa :wave:
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This is one of my favorite threads to read! It's full of great information for everyone, and is written with such wit and wisdom!!
I know nothing about great information and wisdom. But wit, well, I got plenty of that. Too bad it's underutilized. The things I could do with this wit. ~sighs dramatically~
Anyone wanna overutilize it? :rolleyes:
Thanks, Isabelle, for being so kind. :)
tessa :wave:
A worthy challenge tessa.
What's an overutilized wit going for these day? I'm sure I have not half its true value.
*runs is and gives tessa a few peeks*
You're beautiful doll, and I'm so proud of you and happy for you and that your journey is going well!
I have been reading your journey, and come back to try and catch up and yes you do give inspiration.
As of right now I am talking with a Dominant, we have been talking for the last week with no rush what so ever
*holding breath* and so far everything seems to be going smoothly and wonderfully.
Thank you for all your insight, inspiration, laughter, sharing your journey for it has taught, touched and moved each one of us.
~hugs~
echoes
Not so worthy. Mostly hopful, though. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Ozme52
Overutilized (and truly spectacular) wit is going for a certain Wizard these days, I hear. ~looks over at jeanne and smiles~Quote:
Originally Posted by Ozme52
Oz, Oh Great Purveyor of Wit and Wisdom, I am quite sure that you have every bit it's true value...and then some. Loads and loads of "then some". ;)
~hyperventilates over Fae's peeks~ It's been too long since I had a does of you! ~hugs and hugs~ And this journey is going...not sure where, but it's on it's way.
Echoes!! Hello to you! Yes, I saw your baby steps, and am right here with you, waiting. Let's hold hands while we wait, shall we? It'll hide the trembling, at least. :o
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Hi tesse! oh yes please! my heart was beating so hard it hurt. I manage to slow it down by keeping busy as I won't hear back from him at least until tonight, if not ***GASP*** Monday night.Quote:
Originally Posted by tessa
Thank you for holding my hand and understanding the...trembling wait
~hugs~
Perhaps an opportunity to 'share' will come your way. :blurp_aniQuote:
Originally Posted by tessa
~keeps hold of Echoes hand~ Yay for good news!
~has to giggle~ From your "mouth" to the, umm...Wizard's ear?? :blurp_aniQuote:
Originally Posted by Ozme52
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