How to give the BEST blow job?

OK! Yeah, I know – it is not pure BDSM, but still, one of the never ending mysteries ( for me at least ;)). Not that anyone complained so far (not that I would admit even if they had :p) but… apart from the all around fantasy of deep throating (and that one too – if someone could enlighten me – how exactly do you manage to do it for extended period of time without evacuating last few meals?! :confused: ) and some other imaginary always-in-the-story described actions - what is in your experience really really cool, and details please – maybe we can learn something.

And… just by-the-way did you ever tried blowing strong raspberries on His balls? :[

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Originally Posted by redEva

… apart from the all around fantasy of deep throating (and that one too – if someone could enlighten me – how exactly do you manage to do it for extended period of time without evacuating last few meals?!) and some other imaginary always-in-the-story described actions - what is in your experience really really cool, and details please – maybe we can learn something.[

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The secret, in my humble opinion, is Location! location! location! It may take more than a few tries, but if you manage to find the most sensitive part of his penis and massage it with the softest part of your tongue, you could keep him on the verge of orgasm until kingdom come.
Contrary to popular belief, blowing or sucking with lips sealed around the shaft do not give the man any more pleasure than licking and massaging. I have been told that my hot breath on his erection as I tried to speak without letting him out of my mouth was a very sexy detail.

Once, after reading a story here in bdsmlibrary called High-Heeled Hell, F and I decided to try a bit of breath play during oral sex. Like in the story, a rope was wound around my neck with a metal ring handle that could be twisted to control my breath as I went down on him. The whole thing sounds very exciting on paper but I was not in the mood for passing out from the pain and besides F happens to be a safety freak so the rope was tied in a non-constricting, no-slip manner and he barely touched it during play. He did say it made me look very helpless and sexy. I was so turned on by the idea of being strangled as he fucked my mouth that I was holding my breath all by myself without the rope really chocking me. I had two orgasms by the time he came inside my mouth.
And of course, all men find it incredibly arousing to see me us girls swallow.

Strong raspberries on his balls??? Care to enlighten me =P

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what is in your experience really really cool, and details please – maybe we can learn something.

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This is not strictly in the BDSM line of things but someone I 'knew' loved the alternate sensations of hot and cold while getting a blow job, the secret is a hot cup of something (tea, coffee, Water etc) a couple of ice cubes and of course teeth that are not sensitive!!

The alternate sensations of hot and cold used to drive him absolutly wild! :)

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Originally Posted by Gallardo

Strong raspberries on his balls??? Care to enlighten me :p

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you know how kids blow "raspberries"? well, have your partner put their lips firmly against your balls and than do that = blow raspberries, but not gently, strong ;) . I've been told it sort of tickles, kind of like from inside :D

Well, I haven't been able to get past having a strong gag reflex, so I can't help with that one, but I'm happy to pass along what else I've learned ...

* Loving having a cock in your mouth, admiring it, inspecting it visually, kissing it reverently ... well, enthusiasm in general seems to go a long way.

*For me, kneeling between His legs works best. I am most comfortable there, can get good access to everything and I don't get a backache from it ... so I can keep at it much longer from this position.

* Nikka is right about location, location, location. That place underneath where the head meets the shaft (whatever that's called) ... mmmmmmm ... that seems to be the golden spot. Lightly licking and kissing there ... rubbing your lips there ... that always seems to yield a variety of groans and moans.

* With your perfectly manicured, ladylike nails, gently hold the shaft while you are doing something a bit naughty like glossing your lips with precum ...

* Alternately kiss and lick the underbelly of the shaft -- trace a vein with the tip of your tongue. I'm quite a licker in general ... up the shaft, over the balls, under the balls, over the head ... I give more of a lickjob ...

* Since I can't really deep throat, I tend to hold the base of the shaft and squeeze/jerk a bit when I finally do get to sucking and bobbing on the head (if it ever gets that far ... ) Or, sometimes I just keep my mouth open with the cockhead at my lips as I jerk Him off, milking the cum into my open mouth (or other places).

I'd still like to figure out how to deep throat someday ... I have this fantasy of being able to take a cock all the way in and swallowing on it to make my throat tight on it ... mmmmmmm ... someday ... :)

Interesting, thanks Eva.

Hehe…. Yeah, sensitive spots, the line from under the tip all the way to the ass… yeah, nice tingling spots.

And, yes the bloody gag reflex…. Now, there is something that works for me: if I’m high enough (sexually aroused that is – not on illegal substances ;)) I swear I could swallow the horse (ok maybe a little exaggeration – but you get the picture). There is a trick to it … lay on your back on the bed and let your head fall down over the edge. You will be spread and exposed to your lover to play with you as he might. Your throat will be nice and open, too, so when you are ready – he can drive it home! Word of caution: have your hand handy by his balls or… the deep throating play will turn into breath play ;)

For those who like hot and cold sensations, a few suggestions...
Wintergreen, Pepermint Life Savers; and/or Cinnamon Altoids.

Oh and of course there are poprocks... ;)



Of course breath play makes the whole thing much better. Nothing like feeling the throat beneathe your bare fingers as you slide in and out...

And there is always, for those who can't do the breath play, try holding a switchblade to that pretty throat while you use it.




Just a few of my personal favorite suggestions, now open wide ladies....

~LT~

Honestly, my Lord; from true experience or written/ imagined fantasy?

Katz, it does say Knowledge Base on the top of the page, not fantasy. ;)

Glad to see Pop Rocks get mentioned. And the most important thing of all No teeth!!

Barton

So glad to see this topic brought up. If only men knew how much women wanted to learn how to give absolutely perfect blow jobs!

That damn gag reflex! They taught us in nursing school (for different purposes of course) to tell patients to breathe through their nose, but that doesn't completely make the gag reflex magically disappear...

I've read a lot online that men like gentle play with the balls during a blow job, but I have yet to meet one in person who would admit it, let alone give pointers.

And why do men so like women to swallow? Hey, I'm all for it if the man likes it. But my question is, are there some men out there who either don't care, or who are actually repulsed by a woman who swallows?

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Glad to see Pop Rocks get mentioned. And the most important thing of all No teeth!!

Barton

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*lol* i think this may be a matter of opinion for some as i was always taught this until now...my Master loves teeth used on both cock and balls....must admit NOT using them is a hard habit to break...gonna have to be careful too if i ever end up having to move on in life to another partner ;) good thing right now that isnt an issue...

as far as the gag reflex issue...i have found for me anyway that practice really does make perfect :p the more we play around with the deep throating the easier it has gotten for me, though i dont think my gag reflex will ever entirely go away...i have also found though, that even tho i gag i dont ever feel like i will actually throw up...

RedEva's suggestion of laying with ones head over the edge of a bed works wonders as well!

I don't know that it works for everyone...and I have no "first hand" knowledge other than educating a few ex-girlfriends who appreciated the advice...

But if you keep swallowing...or trying to swallow, it will stop the gag reflex at least temporarily. And the sensation feels good to your partner...a kind of "massage". You can start out taking it all the way down for a short amount of time, but you'll find that you'll soon be able to give a world class deep throat! (Practice makes perfect!)

This is the technique medical professionals use when they have to put a tube down someone's throat who is conscious. They always instruct the patient to keep trying to swallow. It seems to work.

Best of luck

SN says if i use teeth that would be a one way ticket home for me :(
guess he don't like teeth...
but my problem is if somethign touches my tongue my stomach turns upside down, that isn't quite as bad anymore but i still can't move my tongue or the same happens. :(

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Originally Posted by Lord Thomas

Oh and of course there are poprocks... ;)

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Oh yeah, someone (i forget who) mentioned pop rocks to me once, they sound kinda cool, sadly, we don't have them over here.

As for the ideal BJ - heh, tricky....in my experience most guys seem to really go for the whole deep throat thing...as for how you do it, i find that the swallowing thing that MrJG advises works pretty well, combined with some serious application of mind over matter.

sl

i read once that the perfect training for blowjobs would be eating magnum icecreams. hmm i just wonder..... cause i first bite all the chocolate off then take bites off the rest.... :p anything wrong wif dat?? bats eyelashes and looks even more innocent than i am. :D
ic an remember that the first time i mentioned that in chat i got a few 'BITCH' replies and some men just went really quiet. i wonder why :confused: :rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by myri_SN

i read once that the perfect training for blowjobs would be eating magnum icecreams.

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LOL! Ah, now, that's the sort of training little luce would happily live with! :p

i have quite sensitive reeth though, so i tend to just suck the whole thing (i'm still talking about icecreams)..it takes quite a while.

See, now all this has put me seriously in the mood for one...

*goes to listen out for ice cream van* ("i'm only after your choc ices good fellow" :D )

sl

I've loved reading this topic. :D

My tricks:

I can't do the deep throat thing either, although Jersey I might have to try your trick next time I get the chance. ;) Instead, I have made sure to use my hand in tandem with my lips and tongue.

Butterfly licks up the ridge on the underside of his shaft. Basically, flicking your tongue alternating up each side of the ridge.

While he's full in my mouth, I like to make eye contact and "smile" (well as best as possible with a mouth full of cock LOL) with an impish look in my eyes.

And Barton, some guys do like teeth. :D However, it has to be gentle. I have found through my "adventures" ;) that many men have greatly enjoyed a light "scrape" much to their own surprise. Trick is to treat the skin of the penis as if it is fine parchment paper.

I actually really enjoy giving head. It is a form of communion, so to speak, for me. It's a very intimate experience.

I found using my mouth and hand works the best, since I can't deep throat either... yet... ;)

I start by just using my mouth, taking of much of him in as I can, while my hand fondles his balls and perinium. Then I start to slide my hand over his cock, my hand in the shape of an "O." When my hand slides down, I slip my mouth over the head and give it a quick swirl, then bring my hand back over the top. As I bring my hand up, I twist it, which is what he says drives him wild. With my free hand, I caress his anus (he has yet to let my finger in, even though we both think he would like it, he's a little homophobic), so I just lightly caress the opening, which drives him crazy as well. I keep pumping, gradually increasing, and as he cums, I pump my hand as hard as I can over his shaft. He shoots over his head sometimes (he's 6'1" with a long torso). If anyone else uses this, lemme know what you think.

I love to pleasure a man by giving him a blow job. Being able to deep throat...takes a lot of practice indeed. I found the best position for me is…that if I’m on my knees in front of him and my head is tilted back with me basically looking up into his eyes. If he takes it nice and slow at feeding me his cock and softly massages my throat with his hand as he pushes it deeper, I can deep throat him.
The main thing I have to do on my end…is just relax.
(talking nasty to me, telling me I’m the best cock sucker you have ever had…always helps)
The secret for me is relaxing my throat…
I found with practice, relaxing…helps my gag reflex tremendously.

As for using my tongue…I do this squiggly movement with my tongue on the underside of the shaft…going down and coming back up…this seems to drive him wild. Sucking the head in and out of my mouth…seems to be pretty effective also.

But I believe one of the biggest turn-ons to giving a good blow job is…..
The sounds…the slurps, the slops, the moans and the groans…the SOUNDS of a cock sliding in and out of a moist wet mouth is a turn-on within itself. I love those sounds. :D :eek: :D

But I believe one of the biggest turn-ons to giving a good blow job is…..
The sounds…the slurps, the slops, the moans and the groans…the SOUNDS of a cock sliding in and out of a moist wet mouth is a turn-on within itself. I love those sounds. :D :eek: :D


i agree 100% angelpet! i've enjoyed reading this particular thread very much. my man does not allow me to touch his cock with my hands when i am giving him a blowjob. i'm usually kneeling, with my hands behind my back. a particular turn on for me is having his hand tightly gripping the hair at the back of my head. he is able to control me that way (speed and depth) and i can just relax and concentrate on the sensation of his shaft sliding over my tongue and opening myself to the deepest penetration of my mouth and throat possible. i am a bit of a drooler, which turns him on to no end.

respectfully,
n.

Why are nearly all the replies here from females?

I rather hoped for some detailed description from men as to what they really like.

Is it just that the men receiving the attention really just don't care much how so long as they are getting it at all, or what?

*remembers "queer as folk" where the best instruction was given by gay men*

janie

The most important thing for me is not just suction, but focusing that suction entirely on the egde of the lips. You can use the whole mouth to do that, but that just speeds along the process, and I want it prolonged and intense in one area!

I think the most important sensation is the lower lip on the underside of the shaft. Outside of that, I like a vocal girl, someone who is actually turned on by doing it, someone who doesn't mind when I take charge of it with a grip on the back of her head, balling her hair into my fist...

Pulling out of her mouth and making her take long licks across the length, with the lights on and in the living room, is great fun.

:) That's better. Thanks.

for me variety is best a little sucking a little kissing along the length alot of slurping some deep throat kissing the balls and maybr im the only one but i love it when my wife'sub slaps her face with it

Actualy maybe someone could help me with this.. I use to be able to give excellent head! and I LOVED doing it..

but with my SO now.. he's the only guy i've ever been with that still has his foreskin and my passion for give head has compleatly changed, and i can't get him to cum just by giving head :(

is there a trick that I might be able to use? :confused:

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Originally Posted by privatedesire

Actualy maybe someone could help me with this.. I use to be able to give excellent head! and I LOVED doing it..

but with my SO now.. he's the only guy i've ever been with that still has his foreskin and my passion for give head has compleatly changed, and i can't get him to cum just by giving head :(

is there a trick that I might be able to use? :confused:

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fear not private desire some of us just dont come from a blow job. the only way i can cum from a bj is to face fuck my wife sub. ask him if other women were able to make him come from a bj b4 and if he says yes then ask him what they did that your not. communication is key to everyaspect of a relationship even sexual

K - well, deep throat looks fantastic and I know women who've wanted to master it...two who have...

But truly its not that fantastic as a physical experience - IMHO!

I think that's mainly cos the pressure from the mouth/tongue/throat doesn't quite get to the right places on (my) cock.

But my current sub and cock slut really loves the sensation of truly taking as much of my cock into her mouth/throat as she can manage. For her it was partly about the challenge and partly about proving she can do anything she sees on a porn video. She loves the position with her head haning off the end of the bed BTW...but that's more in the forkm of face fucking for us from where I can torture her nipples and cunt simultaneously.

So what does work? Well, in my view women often miss the point that its the *down* stroke which counts the most. Just cos we ejaculate upwards does not mean you have to milk it out of us!

Really, I think in terms of maintaining a nice pressure/stimulation there's actually a point maybe about three quarter way down the shaft where your lips should be and this allows your tongue to do its stuff up near the head. Tonguing along the underside is pretty helpful!

But of course the basic up and down thing is the main element.

Its great when a woman wants to play her tongue around all her favourite parts of my cock - I'd encourage that of course! *grin* Licking of (shaved) balls and some *gentle* sucking is also a great starting point.

But yeah - in the end its the up/down or in/out...the sights and sounds. So I guess I'd say just take your time and enjoy it and communicate that enjoyment. There is no *right* way - the fun is in the journey!!!

Cheers.

J

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Originally Posted by Lord Thomas

And there is always, for those who can't do the breath play, try holding a switchblade to that pretty throat while you use it.

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I would recommend a spyderco Endura or Delica trainer blade. The lock on those won't break and the blade isn't sharp and has no tip on it, but it works psychologically to a similar effect (especially since you can "flick" it out very easily).

If it doesn't quite feel sharp enough a common trick is to freeze it first.

I'd missed the bit in this thread about the blowjob from 'High Heeled Hell' where the woman is being garotted while giving head, my god that was such a turn on for me man! Don't know if i'd try it in real life, might get a bit carried away

A great blowjob for me requires above all else enthusiasm on the part of the girl. I love to look down and see her really going for it and getting into it, that's a massive turn on. From a technical point of view I like to feel her mouth along my entire length, I don't mean that she totally swallow me but I do mean that I like to feel her on every part of me that's in her, so she keep her lips and cheeks firmly on me. I like a position where I can dictate the pace and depth and essentially fuck her mouth as well, this is pretty much the same as the above. Most of all I like to fuck her mouth while 69ing, seeing her get turned on, turns me on.

I found having a whip nearby helps getting a good blowjob too;)

My husband (I don't tell him this, of course, it would be a terrible blow to his notoriously fragile male ego) has a rather...small penis. It measures about five inches erect. So with me the problem hasn't been deepthroating, it's been how to create enough pleasure all along the amount of shaft I do have to get him to cum.
I usually start with a good ball-licking. I can suck both his balls into my mouth at the same time, and he loves it when I roll the testicles inside his sac with my tongue while holding the whole thing inside my mouth. When I let them go the next thing i do is lick his anus (he always washes with soap and water before we have sex, by the way) and then his perineum, the tender skin from his anus all the way to his balls. Once I have him moaning from that, I lick in a straight line all the way from his anus to the frenulum (the sensitive skin just behind and under the head). I'll use just the tip of my tongue for a light sensation, then use the broad flat of my tongue to almost push his balls up into his body. The contrast between feather-light touches and firm swipes gets him going. It's also a really good way to get his precum out (for some reason I don't mind the taste of precum, although I don't like swallowing regular cum).
Then I take the tip of my tongue and swirl it around the head of his cock, which can be tricky sometimes, if I set myself some kind of no-hands rule before we start. Hubby is completely vanilla, and has no idea why I would want my hands cuffed behind me when I'm giving him a BJ, but he's willing to go with it as long as it means he gets to cum. Most of the time I don't bother with the cuffs, I just tell myself 'no hands' and that works for me. Mental handcuffs, so to speak.
Annyway, I pull my lips down to cover my teeth and then take the head of his cock between my lips like that. Then I swirl my tongue around the head of his cock, again using both the tip and the broad side to alternate the pressure and feel. Tastebuds are more concentrated around the tip, so the tip feels better, with more bumps for friction. Then, and only then, do I take his cock in my mouth.
I wrap my upper lips and the corners of my lips around his cock; I keep my tongue extended down the length of his shaft, and press my lip to the underside of my tongue, with my teeth still tucked inside my lip to keep from nicking him by accident. I've even, once, placed a wad of gum against my back teeth on either side and up and down, to keep him from feeling them when I take him in. He hates feeling the hardness of my back teeth on his head. He hates feeling anything hard against Mr. Happy period.
Once I've done that, I start moving my head up and down his shaft, while simultaneously flicking my tongue in and out of my mouth. The flat upper side of my tongue swipes the underside of his shaft, and when I withdraw, and because his cock is filling my mouth, my tongue kinda has to curl up to fit in there, and the tip brushes up against his frenulum again. I'll do this in a straight up-and-down motion for a few strokes, then, the third or fourth time, I'll turn my head a little to the left or right (ten o'clock or two o'clock) as I go up, then turn the other way as I go back up. The side-to side motion does a lot for his end of the sensation, though I have to be careful and keep my eyes closed, because I get disoriented if they're open and I turn my head without having my glasses on to focus my vision. In fact my eyes are usually closed for the whole thing. Sex too; glasses get fogged up when we're going at it, and i found it easier to just take them off and keep my eyes closed. Most of the time he's looking through his Penthouse magazines while we do this, so he doesn't really notice whether my eyes are open or not.
I'll retract my tongue into my mouth and curl the edges of my tongue up to cradle his cock, and do this in an up and down motion for a while, then I'll wrap my lips around his cock and suck on him like a lollipop. I have to be careful not to suck too hard; the intense pulling gave him an ache once and he asked me not to suck so hard. Usually at this stage the magazine goes down and his eyes close, and he comes after that.
I give him a blowjob twice a week, full blowjobs. The rest of the time, I start by giving him a blowjob and finish up riding him. This is mostly because with his small size, my pussy doesn't clamp as tightly on Mr. Happy as she used to before I had two babies. As he puts it, I'm all stretched out now, and it doesn't feel the same. I've suggested he try it in my butt, but he hasn't been receptive to the idea, and I won't make him try something he's not willing to do.
I don't know if all of this helps anybody out there...

Someone suggested being on your knees in front of him, but I've always found it impossible. Try having him lie on his back, and you kneel next to him or over him (almost like a 69 position, but not quite because you're on your knees and your cooch isn't in his face). Of course, it probably depends how he's shaped or curved or whatever, but I've always found that that way works. Swallowing it down really works, but it's difficult to go in and out and in and out that way, because eventually the gag reflex does kick in. If your man really wants to hold the back of your head and face-fuck you, you can take your time and get it all the way in yourself, swallow it down, and then let him go to town without ever pulling himself all the way from your throat. The only problem with this method is it's only good for one lungful of air at a time...but the breath aspect can sometimes be fun.

in ten years of relationship, caroline has become an excellent cocksucker. I required that she should learn from each master she was used by, the cocksucking techniques he liked most, so she learned a lot of tricks.

She learned deep throating with a lot of experiments on me, than I had her trying it even on more enodwed males .... Helen had her succeeding in deepthroating her husband Mark, applying some incentive to her footsoles (cigarette burns)....

There are a couple of tricks she was very good at: first of all licking the balls while deepthroating .... she was able to sneak the tongue out when the shaft of a cock was completely inside her throat and tried to lick the balls ... it was a great show.

second nice trick, was alternating the blowjob with the licking of a fruit-ice ... it was very pleasnat to feel the chilled mouth and tongue around the cock.

The last variation I would like to quote was having her giving head after having had her running (naked of course and with tied hands) around for a good while ..... it was very nice to have her trying to make a good blowjob while panting heavily ....

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Take his cock as deep into your mouth as you can. Start to move up and down the shaft very slowly. As you move up and down, with your lips firm on his shaft, draw little figures of eight with your nose. Make them about three or four inches across. After a few strokes reverse the direction of the figure eights. Swirl the tip with your tongue whenever you can reach it.
This drives my master wild!

He also like me to open my mouth slightly and breath in on the upstroke, this cools his cock. Then I breath out on the downstroke, and warm it back up again!

It is amazing that the BJ has become so comon it is about the same level as the hand shake. Back in the day it was petting maybe getting to first or second base. you might touch 3rd base but that was rare.

No some 30 years later I hear girls talking about giving BJ's at the end of the date just to be rid of the "loser" so she does not have to give it up. These 15/16 year old girls talk about it as if it is nothing. I have had girls on the bus that are talking about anal play. So they can keep there verginity intact. Yes it is nice that is short bus I can hear all. I dare not make any comment on any of it. "Tonto get in heap big truble". And Yes I am sopose to write them up for such talk. But it is kind of enlightining to hear what they think is normal behavor, versus what was normal behavor back in my day (late 70's).

Oh and the most sensitive part of the dick, is just under the base of the crown. Almost like a male clitoris. you tickle that and I will follow you any were.

And for the deep throating thing. Other than sword swollowers I think it is a big Myth. Even in porn flicks I see the starlets choking and gaging. And these are realy big dicks 12-14 inches. Sorry I think for the most woman it is a fable that they can deep throat. Right up there with the 12 in cock that every man has. :)

Okay, this is going to sound as if I am bragging, but.... I am a sword swallower, I many other things as well, I eat fire, I walk on glass, I do magic, I put things up my nose and bring them out of my mouth and I hammer 6" nails up my nose. None of this has anything to do with BDSM, I just wanted to give you an idea of my background when it comes to this stuff. The human body is a wonderful thing, and I have found ways that things I do on stage can be converted to things I do in the bedroom!

Out of all the things I do, I find sword swallowing the hardest, mainly because of that wretched thing called the gag reflex. The first time I put anything up my nose to come down my throat and out of my mouth, I spewed up, and considering I was in the middle of a resturant at the time, it wasn't pretty (long story, but thats what bored magicians do!). However, after I got used to the tickly feeling, I still gag a little, but I didn;t puke, it's a good starting point!

I asked for advice on controlling my gag reflex, with the origional intention of being able to do the nose/mouth thing without the risk of spewing, this later led to me starting sword swallowing, which later led to my Master being happy that he didn;t need to force me to deep throat him, because I was perfectly willing to do so anyway!

The most important thing is the angle! Which ever position you are in, to truely deep throat, your head needs to be at a 90 degree angle to your neck, this allows the greatest space, and the easiest straight entry, because the throat curves, when you hit the back of it with anything, let alone a hard cock being shoved into it, you will gag, it's a reflex that you just can't get away from.

The next thing to do is just practice. Every morning, and I still do this, when I have my shower, I take my tooth brush with me. I put my head at the right angle and put my tooth brush in as far as I can go, for a while, this is gonna make you gag, however, you get over it,and your body gets used to the feeling and it just sort of stops.

There is no great secret to it. It truely does just take practice!

Long ago I had a wife who did not like to even say, ‘suck’. She never learned how to do it and in eleven years of marriage I never came from a blowjob. Some time later, mid 90s, there was someone who would sub for me at times and I made sure to make up for lost time in this field.

I am uncircumcised with a loose foreskin that often turns inside out and back with each stroke in normal sex. She tried to do that with her mouth but it didn’t work for me. The best sensation came if she used her hand to retract my foreskin then went at the corona (the rim of the head), the frenum (fold of skin linking foreskin to base of the head), and the meatus (the hole in the end – penile anatomy lesson FREE! :D ) with her tongue-tip rhythmically and relentlessly. Her hand remained near the base to stimulate the part stroked by the labia during straight sex and to press quite hard about midway between scrotum and anus at the moment of climax.

Deep throat, she had serious psychology about and I didn’t mess with the mafia.

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While he's full in my mouth, I like to make eye contact and "smile" (well as best as possible with a mouth full of cock LOL) with an impish look in my eyes.

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(back in May, I know, but I just got here), the best psychological effect for me came from making her blow me when crying. The picture I attach isn’t her and I am unsure of its provenance but it was one of the very first I downloaded and kept when I had an internet connection. It still does something for me.

Spike

My personal experience...and we won't talk about how much that might be ;)...is that every guy is different. Or at least they fall into various groupings. A prime example of this is teeth...some guys absolutely hate &/or fear it, some like gentle scraping, and I've even known one who liked fairly aggressive chewing (not to break the skin tho, just firm pressure without any sliding around to cause tearing). A lot depends on their anatomy and psychology. And congrats to you less well-endowed guys, cus you're a LOT easier to blow than your horse-hung counterparts. Can do a lot more tricks when your mouth isn't completely stretched to capacity!

As for breath control, the trick is to time your breathing to when he's pulling back. As long as he's moving in and out for friction there will be a time when your throat is clear, you just have to be ready to take advantage of it. Breath restriction enhances orgasm anyway, so try to go with it. *eg*

privatedesire, new master was right...some guys just don't cum from a blow job and even the ones that do won't always. Heck, I couldn't cum from oral for years either. Even today I have to find the right headspace...the sensation is just too subtle, too much like tickling, for my liking. *shrug* But one very determined ex-boyfriend got me over it eventually (bless his heart :D) and expanded my horizons. So perhaps for those guys it's just a matter of "training" the response too. And if the guy still has his foreskin, try pulling it back while you go at him. And also try different positions...cus sometimes a guy will get into it more if he towers over you with you on your knees and his fist wound tightly in your hair (purrrrr), but sometimes he can't fully relax and enjoy it if he's standing because it distracts him trying not to fall over when his knees go weak! lol

Driveslikeagirl...there are a lot of men out there who don't care if you swallow or not, in fact I'd say most either don't care at all or only have a preference for swallowing but will certainly not turn ya down over it. ;) And I've run across a couple who do think it's gross. As for ball play, it's a lot like breast play for women...most like it, some a whole lot, some not at all.


And I can't find who posted it, but someone mentioned a guy who liked to slap his penis across her face. My husband loves to do that! I've always found it a little funny myself (humorous funny). Only guy I've ever been with that does it; but I've seen it once or twice in porn, so I guess it's not too isolated of a phenomenon. And if your guy did it too, then I guess that makes mine ever so (very) slightly less weird than I thought he was an hour ago. :D

Now to go try that raspberries trick on him...Thanks redEva!