I thought for quite some time about what the C is for topic should be. There's so many possibilities. In the end, I opted for something that was a bit more of a light-hearted topic.
Cum restriction, cum denial, orgasm denial, tease and denial. . . Whatever you prefer to call it, it's an oft-favored tool of Domly types everywhere. There are different ways to approach it. One is a strict denial of physical stimulation. Another involves prolonging stimulation while refusing orgasm. Either way, it can make the end result a much more powerful experience.
Our very own MJs dhyanna, as many of us know, is rather familiar with CR. As she says,
"CR as a punishment for me is very effective since I love pain. Online as well as real life it is one of the few ways to make me suffer in a bad way =). I think the reason it works so well is that the first few days are not too bad and you lull yourself into a false sense of bravado. "This is nothing! HA I can do this! Who needs to cum?". A few days later and you find yourself getting turned on by stupid things (your kids Barbies carelessly tossed in the corner and Barbie lands with her face in Kens crotch). After a week or more, cumming is all you can think about most of the day. It is sort of like a reaaaaaaly slow water torture."
I tend to think of female subs when I think of CR, but it can be a rather interesting element of play for men in a submissive role. Male fantasies of being repeatedly aroused but denied orgasm can be found in a number of stories.
Closely related to CR is "tie and tease", a very common fantasy involving one person being tied up and rendered helpless as the other teases.
Wipipedia notes that there are potential long-term consequences for men undergoing CR: "The long term consequences for period beyond that are unclear, most sources seem to agree that the body will spontaneously resorb sperm, but that the prostate fluids should be removed regularly to reduce the later risk of cancer (known as "prostatic milking"). It is also said that if erection is inhibited for long periods penis skin becomes less elastic which may cause pain or other difficulty in the future when erections are again permitted." Such physical consequences don't exist for women, of course, but both sexes can experience an emotional impact.
I admit to being rather curious in general about why you Domly types choose punishments the way you do. As dhyanna notes, CR is effective for her, but she has also said she doesn't use it often as a punishment for her sub. However, she does say that it is "an effective way to prove a point in my opinion and to re establish control when needed in an online relationship."
So my questions to y'all: Have you used it? Have you been punished this way? What was it like?
