I was abused as a child and I still have much hatred and anger in me. That being said, I have also come to see the positive spinoff from the abuse. I used to say "what if" as in what if it had never happened etc. Now I say what can I do to make my life better? I'm still in therapy and I still have nightmares, but I make an effort to greet each day with a positive frame of mind. Posts like these are wonderful, we must no longer be silent! We must speak up and help each other! The dirty little secret mentality needs to be banished. Together we can make a difference to others and maybe help prevent more abuse from happening to others.