I've discovered that only in a matter of weeks (or maybe a little over a month) W/we've already waxed and waned in our interest of how "strong" the BDSM slavery is in our relationship. We still consider ourselves 24/7, because ultimately I am the decision maker and the one with more willpower, etc; but there are definitely times when My depression/anxiety/sleeplessness etc. wear on Me and I just am not willing to smack her around and then use her as a sex toy (no matter how much she wants this). Sometimes I'm able to play it into a game, as in, "this is cum restriction," etc etc, but there are times when I just have to say, "Look, I love you, but I can't do this tonight."

If the relationship is stable and real, the other partner should understand either the Dom/me's or the sub's need to take a break. Surprisingly, for me, the "novelty" of having My Pet in constant mild fear of what I might do to her were she to slip and break a rule is a power-trip, and it never "wears off". But that may be because I'm egotistical and sadistic.