For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.
NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).
0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").
1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.
2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.
3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.
4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.
5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.
Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.
Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.
There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.
Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub
Abrasion: no - hard limit
Age play: no - hard limit
Anal sex: yes - 5
Anal plugs (small): no - 2
Anal plugs (large): no - 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no - 2
Animal roles: no - hard limit
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no - 1
Asphyxiation: yes - 5
Auctioned for charity: no - one of my favourite fantasies, but doubt I would want it r/l.
Bathroom use control: no - hard limit
Bestiality: no - hard limit
Beating (soft): yes - 2
Beating (hard): yes - 5
Blindfolds: yes - 3 to 4
Being serviced (sexual): yes - 1 (if it is not done in a submissive way...)
Being bitten: yes - 5
Breast/chest bondage: no - too small I think, lol
Breath control: yes - 5
Branding: no - idea fascinates me, but I am scared.
Boot worship: no - would love to try, though (me doing the worship, lol);
yes - had it done once (got worshipped). Liked it a lot but need not have it again (I could not feel submissive during it...).
Bondage (light): yes - 1 (love to have my hands tied and fixed above me)
Bondage (heavy): no - I doubt I would like it.
Bondage (multi-day): no - hard limit
Bondage (public, under clothing): no - I doubt I would like it, I hate to feel hindered in any way publicly.
Bondage and Sex: no - the one guy who bound me naked had no better use for me than TICKLE me - idiot...
Breast whipping: yes - 3 to 4 (love to have my back whipped most of all!)
Brown showers (scat): no - hard limit
Cages (locked inside of): no - unsure about this one. Dom would not be allowed to leave me alone during it!
Caning: yes - 4
Catheterization: NO HELL - hard limit
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no - locked up alone is a hard limit
Chastity belts: no - no interest at all.
Chauffeuring: no - eye sight too bad to drive (lack of depth perception)
Choking: yes - 5
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes - 1 (prefer clamps, dislike the dull pain of clothes pins)
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes - see above
Clothespins body: yes - see above
Cock worship: I worship my Dom´s cock pretty much, lol
Collars (worn in private): yes - 5
Collars (worn in public): yes - I wear mine always, it is unobtrusive, so 5.
Competitions (with other Subs): no - hard limit
Corsets (wearing): yes - 3
Cuffs: yes - 5 (get that too rarely)
Cuffs (metal): yes - 5 (see immediate above, lol)
Cutting: yes - 5 (wish I did not scar so easily)
Dilation: not sure?
Double penetration: no - favourite fantasy of mine, but I doubt I would like it r/l, and I want no other man in my bed. If hubby could clone himself, I would be willing!
Electricity: yes - nice, but don´t need it all the time
Enemas: no - would die if someone watched me
Enforced chastity: no - dislike that idea; I am good when my Dom is not around, but chastity while he IS around? Hell no.
Examinations (physical): no - does not attract me
Exercise (forced/required): no - does not attract me
Exhibitionism (friends): yes - depends on the situation
Exhibitionism (strangers): no - unless you count that one time I walked stark naked through a 80-bed dormitory in Amsterdam when I was 20 *cough*, but I did that for fun, it was not ordered by anyone, I was single then.
Eye contact restrictions: no - the idea attracts me hugely, though (though I like to look at my Dom very much, drools)
Face slapping: yes - 5
Fantasy abandonment: no - hard limit, being abandoned alone
Fantasy rape: no - 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: no - 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no - hard limit
Fantasy forced rape anal: no - 4
Fantasy gang-rape: no - again, favourite fantasy, but think I would not like it r/l.
Fisting (anal): no - hell ouch - haven´t made my mind up about that one.
Fisting (vaginal): yes - loved it during it - hated it the 3 days afterwards. Did it only once.
Flogging: yes - 5
Following hand signals: no - have not made my mind up regarding it, but would be willing to try.
Following orders: yes - (sexual context) - 5
Foot worship: noyesnoidea, I like to lick his feet when I am in the mood, does that count?
Forced dressing: no - hard limit
Forced homosexuality: no - hard limit (forced, that is)
Forced masturbation: no - have been too much of a chicken for that so far.
Forced nudity (private): I prefer to be naked, so it does not count.
Forced nudity (around others): forced, no. volunteering: depends on the situation.
Forced servitude: no - would be willing to try, though
Full head hoods: no - hard limit
Gags (cloth): yes - 3
Gags (penis shaped): no - I think not.
Gags (rubber): no - I think not.
Gags (tape): no - would be willing to try.
Gates of Hell: n/a
Genital sex: yes (rolls my eyes) - 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): yes, but only for a few beatings, and my Dom MUST stay present during it! depends on the situation/person, really.
Given away to another Domme (temp): no - never had a r/l Domme - find the idea very exciting online, though.
Given away to another Dom (perm): no - hard limit
Given away to another Domme (perm): no - hard limit
Golden showers: *BLUSH* rarely, liked it.
Greetings rituals: no - depends on the ritual, I guess.
Hairbrush spankings: no - hard limit (I don´t like to be ridiculed)
Hair pulling: yes - 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes - not really exciting if it is only hands...
Hand jobs (receiving): yes - quite exciting, but want something else after a while.
Harems (serving w/other subs): no - hard limit - *bites other bitches away* lol!
Harnessing (leather): no - 1
Harnessing (rope): no - 2
Having food chosen for you: no - hard limit
Having clothing chosen for you: yes - for parties; we try to find a compromise, though (if I stand before him in high heels and collar, I only get a "why would you want to wear anything more?" anyway, rolls my eyes)
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes - only like it if I like the woman allover
Head (giving fellatio): yes - 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes - liked it a lot
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: see boot-worship, those were high-heeled boots. lol
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no - does not attract me, or rather it always gets sexual with me rather quick. lol
Hot oils (on genitals): no - 0
Hot waxing: yes - 2-3
Housework (doing): boring. except having him watch when I scrub the floor on my knees half-naked, then I could almost like it.
Human puppy dog: no - not attractive to me
Humiliation (private): yes - I am exploring into that direction at present - lol!
Humiliation (public): no - might be interesting with BDSM friends around, not in general public or with vanillas around, though.
Hypnotism: no - scary, but attractive fantasy
Ice cubes: yes - with a lady once - loved that... would not want it often with a man, though, but would be willing to try.
Infantilism: no - hard limit
Initiation rites: no - (I am not sure what kind of rites in a BDSM context?)
Injections: no - I do enjoy donating blood very much, though.
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes - once - that was the guy who tickled me. I found the whole experience somewhat pointless. God damn, if I allow a man to tie me naked, he should realize I want him to touch me! shakes my head...
Interrogations: no - I feel attracted to the idea/situation, but have no idea what I would be interrogated about.
Kidnapping: no - favourite fantasy, but somewhat difficult to realize in a fun way, I guess.
Kneeling: yes - depends on the situation if I like it. I love to kneel when giving a blowjob, though.
Leather clothing: yes - yes - yes - or did I already say yes? LOL
restraints chains: yes - 3
restraints leather: yes - 3
restraints rope: yes - 3
Lectures for misbehavior: Hm. verbal lectures - NO, hard limit. Physical punishment - yes, gladly, often, 5!
Licking (non-sexual): As I said, licking always gets sexual with me.
Manacles & Irons: yes - liked it a lot - but it is uncomfortable! lol
Manicures (giving): no - does not sound exciting
Massage (giving): yes - 3
Massage (receiving): yes - 4 :-)
Medical scenes: no - no turn-on at all.
Modeling for erotic photos: would not excite me.
Modeling for erotic videos: no - hard limit
Mouth bits: no - not interesting, I guess
Mummification: no - hard limit or rather total bore
Nipple clamps: yes - 3, depends on my mood; I prefer clit clamps
Nipple cloths pins: yes - do not like clothes pins
Nipple weights: yes - did not like it very much
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes - it took me 9 years to learn to like it. *BLUSH* *BLUSH* *BLUSH*
Over-the-knee spanking: yes - it would have to be painful for me to like it. If it is only humiliating, I hate it.
Orgasm denial: no - not attractive
Orgasm control: no - I think; does "control" only stand for "not being allowed to"?
Outdoor scenes: no - would love to be in the woods once
Outdoor sex: yes - in a barley field - loved it, but need not have it again
Phone sex (serving Dom): no - doubt I could do it, I have a problem with speaking things, I rather write, and even for that I often refrain to English, which is not my mother tongue.
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no way! the lazy assholes should get their own bitches! lol
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): yes - loved it - would be willing.
Piercing (permanent): yes - had too many of them as a teenager, now I only have the tongue one left (and that is mainly to please hubby *smiles*)
Prison scenes: no - does not attract me.
Pony slave: no - hard limit
Public exposure: no - might be fun in a BDSM setting, but not in general public.
Public tasks: no - hard limit
Pussy whipping: yes - 5
Pussy worship: not sure about the meaning here
Riding crops: yes - not bad, but I SO prefer whips.
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): noyesno - have seen one, but not tried it - the idea is appealing, though.
Rituals: no - depends on the rituals, I guess
Religious scenes: no, I attended a Catholic Girls School, HARD LIMIT!!!
Restrictive rules on behavior: no - depends - I would be willing to try.
Rubber/latex clothing: yes - I hate the feeling/smell/texture of rubber, but it shapes the body so prettily. lol
Rope body harness: no - would give it a try if asked.
Saran wrapping: yes - once, overnight. It only annoyed me to be restrained. Would not want it again.
Scratching – getting: yes - 5
Scratching – giving: yes - sometimes
Sensory deprivation: yes - a bit - I loved it
Serving: no - would give it a try, I guess
Serving as art: no - sounds boring to me
Serving as ashtray: no - hard limit
Serving as furniture: no - sounds boring to me
Serving as a maid: no - I want my own maid, French costume and all! lol
Serving as toilet: no - hard limit
Serving as waitress/waiter: no - sounds boring to me
Serving orally (sexual): yes - 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no - I would not serve anyone but my husband, as I am not a very servile/docile person. One would have to earn that. Hubby did not ask for it yet.
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no - hard limit
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes, I guess? It made the following act very rewarding.
Sexual deprivation (long term): no - hard limit
Shaving (body hair): I dislike body hair on women - I remove mine - it does not stimulate me to do so, though, it is only aesthetic to me.
Shaving (head hair): The idea has a huge fascination, but I would not like the time it would take to grow back.
Shaving (pubic hair): see body hair
Sleep deprivation: no - hard limit
Sleep-sacks: no - hard limit
Slutty clothing (private): yes - can be fun
Slutty clothing (public): yes in a BDSM setting, but not in general public, unless I feel the urge to shock people.
Spanking in private: yes - liked it, as long as it is painful
Spanking in public: yes, in a BDSM setting, but not in general public
Spanking in bdsm parties: Oh, reading through first would be such a good idea... yes - 4
Spanking pleasure: I do not understand that question?
Spandex clothing: no - hard limit - absolutely not my thing, neither on me nor others.
Speech restrictions (when, what): no - hubby says if I die they will have to kill my mouth extra - might be interesting to try, though. Would most certainly be a cruel punishment for me! lol
Speculums (Anal): no - hard limit
Speculums (vaginal): no - hard limit
Spreader bars: yes - can be ok
Standing in corner: no - hard limit
Stocks (adjustable): no - not attractive
Stocks (fixed): yes - very attractive, I have some Medieval fancies. lol
Straight jackets: no - hard limit
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no - not attractive (seems pointless to me)
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no - I don´t know - the idea of getting that from a woman excites and scares me equally - I would have to like the woman a lot, mind.
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no - seems pointless to me
Strapping (full body beating): yes - liked it - with a whip, that is. Want more of it!!!
Suspension (upright); no - 0
Suspension (inverted): no - 0
Suspension (horizontal): no - 0
Supplying new partners for Dom: ??? If he gets tired of me, I would expect him to find his own new partners. no - hard limit, that is.
Swallowing semen: yes - 5
Swallowing urine: no - have been fantasizing about that - might be willing if in the proper mood (*!).
Swapping (with one other couple): no - hard limit
Swinging (multiple couples): no - hard limit (yes, I am a jealous bitch, got a problem with that? lol)
Tattooing: yes - I have mine for un-sexual reasons, though
Teasing: no - hard limit
Tickling: NO - ABSOLUTE AND VERY HARD LIMIT, DO NOT TRY IT IF YOU DO NOT WANT YOUR NOSE BROKEN.
Triple penetration: no omg
Triple penetration by 3 males: no omg
(the latter two are favourite fantasies, but I doubt I would like it r/l)
No man but my husband has touched me sexually during the last 9 years. I need to feel owned. If someone else touched me that way, I would lose the feeling of belonging, and that would do fatal damage to our relationship, I think.
Or if not that, things would not be the same for me afterwards.
If I ever got bored with him, I might consider the idea, but I am not anywhere near that point yet.
(To be really honest: I would make an exception from that rule for Vin Diesel. In return, I would not expect my hubby to be good if his favourite movie star offered herself to him. Both are unlikely to happen, though. *lol*)
Uniforms: no - the only time I fancied that was a very hot lesbian friend of mine in a police uniform - drools.
Including others: to watch - yes; to participate - only another Dom for me, and only for beatings. No touching of my privates wanted by me.
Vaginal dildo: yes - loved/hated it
Verbal humiliation: works only along with sexual/physical one, and I have to be in the mood, but then I can like it a lot;
Vibrator on genitals: no - (HONESTLY, I have close to no experience with toys of that sort)
Voyeurism (watching others): I like to watch other people play, but not have sex
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Men watch all the time anyway *shrugs* lol.
Or does it mean: Me watching my Dom playing with others? That happens over my rotten corpse. Jealous bitch, as I said.
Video (watching others): All amateur films I saw were horribly bad with ugly people - so no thanks, I´ll pass.
Video (recordings of you): no - hard limits, mainly because you never know where those might end up!
Water torture: no - being pushed underwater is a hard limit.
Wearing symbolic jewelry: I wear my collar and an ankle chain all the time, I am not fond of other jewellery (yes, I know, unusual for a woman)
Whipping: yes - 5
Wooden paddles: no - not attractive to me
Wrestling: I like to be overwhelmed, and get not anywhere enough of that. But given hubby´s size, the fight would not last longer than a minute, anyway. lol