what is this feeling

[SlaveM4MasterBen]

as of lately ive not been into my slave role i cant take all the whipping ive been having and need to stop because its really not turning me on thus has no real meaning anymore and to a point i think im falling in love with my master and just wanting to do all the "hanging around you because i can" stuff and its not like im disappointing him he enjoys at times hanging out just in general, but im worried i was watching some bondage movies the other night and i had no interest in it, i honestly dont know what to think in myself i do enjoy bondage bdsm all that jazz but i guess my heart is telling me otherwise, i dunno if anyone knows a way of trying to stop me from "loving" my master to this point any help would be great or just try and explain why im being like this lol

and if this message was just dribble just tell me that too lol

all the best

M

[SubmissiveDoll]

Ok, first... I'm deeply in love with my Master. I couldn't live without him. He's been my heart and best friend for many years. There is nothing wrong with loving your Master to the point that you want to have the 'hanging out' time. My Master and I spend most of our time together just hanging out. Snuggling, watching TV, reading, talking... anything we feel like doing.

Play time is play time. I think if it becomes too much of the focus of a relationship then it starts to lose it's appeal. Yes, your tastes very well could have changed. But, more than likely you are simply becoming bored and need to take the focus off of play for a while. Talk to your Master, and spend some time together just cultivating your relationship.

BDSM, D/s, M/s, I don't care how you want to say it... it's all about the relationship first.

[shayna{L_D}]

im with SubmissiveDoll on this one. Took the words right out of my mouth

[leah06]

i dunno if anyone knows a way of trying to stop me from "loving" my master to this point

What are the terms of your relationship? Do you feel that you are "breaking a rule" by starting to have these feelings? I think when you are comfortable with ALL your feelings, both the affection and the bdsm will start to feel right to you.

[TwstdKittie]

i definitely agree about the issues of making a relationship all about sex because for us, it's certainly not (unlike to those who don't really understand the relationship dynamics). And being in love with one's Master is a wonderful and beautiful thing as far as i'm concerned. And i am no less His when we're out in public just at a movie or hanging around with friends (or even driving in the car), and He'll shoot me Domly looks or sneak in a "good girl" comment just to watch me smile because i understand the deeper meaning. i do think it's difficult though, to find that balance, but that's also how i know that He's "the one" is because i feel complete around Him, and i am never not His girl, even though the sexual aspects aren't broadcast constantly to the world. ) ... so after all of MY rambling, haha, it sounds like you just need to find that elusive balance. Good luck!