What could your partner do better?

[duktig flicka]

I'm asking this essentially so I (and you, too) can figure out what common mistakes are and learn to avoid them. The question is simple. What is it that you would like to change about your partner's performance in bed, either as a sexual technique or in terms of bdsm?

[Pandora's Box]

Frequency of play.

I'd like it to be more often.

[duktig flicka]

Have you hinted this to him?

[ValKyrie]

We are working on his using better judgement when he is joking around in a silly manner. There are times he needs to be more respectful of me, when he doesn't read me or the situation well. However, he gets the "LQQK" and simmers down quite nicely.

Also, orgasm control. He needs to have more control when at the brink. Oh well, I rather enjoy controlling it for him, so all is not lost.

[Pandora's Box]

Have you hinted this to him?

Yes. His work schedule sucks, to put it nicely.

[duktig flicka]

Hmmm, maybe you could hint for him to set some tasks for you while he's at work?

[Pandora's Box]

I have. Often. Unfortunately he's a workaholic.

As it is things have taken a turn for the worse as now we get the pleasure of fighting about me feeling neglected and his hurt feelings for me making him feel like an inadequate dominant.

Whatever. What will be, will be.

[MrJerseyGuy]

I'm asking this essentially so I (and you, too) can figure out what common mistakes are and learn to avoid them. The question is simple. What is it that you would like to change about your partner's performance in bed, either as a sexual technique or in terms of bdsm?

I like this post. I guess I'd have to agree that frequency is the biggest complaint. Kids/work/social obligations seem to limit us to about one true "session" a month it we're lucky.

My g/f is very into bdsm and loves the mixture of pain & sex that seems to intensify it through the roof. There are times when I wish she were a little more wild and experimental...but I don't push it. Here's why.

My wife (10 years ago) was extrememly attractive but a little shy in bed. I pressured her for along time (yes, I admit that I did it and it was wrong) to try threesomes, other girls etc. Eventually she did it. We had some great sex for a little while...right up until she divorced me and married one of those other guys. I'm very happy and in a healthy relationship now but it took a long time to get over the loss because I loved her very much...even though I wasn't very good at showing it.

But I did learn a valuable lesson that has stayed with me...

Be careful what you wish for, it might come true!