Oral Sex and Domination

[Friday]

I'm curious on thoughts for this one.

What is your take on giving oral as a dominant? Should it be done? Is it a "special occasion" thing for you, simply a "whenever works", or a never?

[Ragoczy]

I view it primarily as just another pleasurable sensation the dominant can give to the submissive -- as a reward, special occasion or simply because he wants to. I happen to enjoy it, so "never" wouldn't be an option, because then I'd be depriving myself of something I enjoy doing.

In talking with female dominants with male submissives about this, though -- admittedly years ago, so outlooks might have changed -- it was common for it to be viewed as a submissive act, so was less common in that context (<listening to all the male submissives screaming "you fucking bastard!">).

But I'm not sure I agree with that (<listening to all the male submissives heaving a sigh of relief>">) -- because aside from any aspects of submissiveness, it also puts the dominants teeth in contact with some sensitive bits that can be used to reinforce the dominant aspect -- emphatically, if deemed necessary (<listening to all the male submissives screaming "you fucking bastard!">).

[WyldWyl]

I agree with Rago. Oral is too fun for me not to want to perform it as a dom- I may perhaps only use it to tease, but it's still part of the fun. It does also make a good reward.

I think the relative dominance/submissiveness of the act is more in how it's performed. For example, whilst in dom-space I would not feel inclined to get on my knees before an unbound sub to perform oral on them. But if they were lying under me, or suitably restrained, then it becomes a dominant act in my mind.

And I completely agree with Rago about the whole teeth issue.

[IAmCanadian]

I'm curious on thoughts for this one.

What is your take on giving oral as a dominant? Should it be done? Is it a "special occasion" thing for you, simply a "whenever works", or a never?

I'm a dom, I occasionally perform oral, and I think of it as consumption rather than service- using a slave's body to satisfy some insatiable hunger for twat. In that context it jibes perfectly with the atmosphere of service, humiliation and objectification in which I like slave to exist.

That pussy is my property, if I want to, I can eat it like a fresh apple pie that's still window-sill warm. I can jam my tongue inward and upward like I'm prospecting for gold, or turn my head sideways and play it like a harmonica, if the mood suits me. I'm as entitled to do that as I am to just leave it alone and tell her to suck my cock and then go make me a sandwich.

It's all in the tone of the encounter. If I leave her there quaking like a little bitch, then kiss her aggressively to share with her the taste of her own quivering quim, then finally spit in her face and callously leave the room- there's nothing submissive going on on my end.

She's the one spreading her legs and getting devoured. I'm not empowering her by catering to her whims- she's serving her most intimate places up to me like she was a piece of meat. In this capacity she has all the dignity of a roasted pig on a silver platter, ready for consumption, with an apple jammed into its mouth. Which is to say, no dignity at all.

- FS

[denuseri]

LMAo,For years I used to have a problem with dominants that wanted to go down on me, for some reason i felt it somhow diminished thier position.

My husband has broken me of that assumption (winks)

The worst for me was the dom that wanted me to nail him with a dildo.

(which i did much to his chagrin with zeal ;we broke up very shortly after that.)

[Ozme52]

What's submissive about straddling her face, pulling and hooking her legs under my arms, and in essence turning her upside down... tormenting her all the while with my mouth but still not giving her permission to cum?

What's submissive about tying her legs wide open, stretched out and unable to move, drawing my chair up to the table... and dining?

What's submissive about suspending her by the ankles, legs apart, making her swallow me and hold on with only her lips and suction... eaten for doing so... whipped whenever she loses contact?

So many games, so little time.

[IAmCanadian]

The worst for me was the dom that wanted me to nail him with a dildo.

I tried searching for the passage that justifies this as dom behaviour, but sadly Dildo-Wielding Subbies Of Gor isn't part of the official canon.

- FS

[WyldWyl]

That pussy is my property, if I want to, I can eat it like a fresh apple pie that's still window-sill warm. I can jam my tongue inward and upward like I'm prospecting for gold, or turn my head sideways and play it like a harmonica, if the mood suits me.

Pure gold.

But, as regards the subbie using a dildo- that can still be a submissive thing. If I, just to take an example, put a strap on around my sub's waist and then wish her to nail me with it, that's not necessarily a case of her domming. She's topping, but it's to my instruction. I'm inviting and allowing her into my body, using hers as an implement of MY pleasure.

Yes, I'm just rationalising because I like to have my arse fucked. What of it?

[IAmCanadian]

But, as regards the subbie using a dildo- that can still be a submissive thing.

You're right of course- I was just using the stigma around that act to fuel a joke. ;D

- FS

[WyldWyl]

Oh, I know, FS...I know.

[tired.of.vanilla{DJ}]

But, as regards the subbie using a dildo- that can still be a submissive thing. If I, just to take an example, put a strap on around my sub's waist and then wish her to nail me with it, that's not necessarily a case of her domming. She's topping, but it's to my instruction. I'm inviting and allowing her into my body, using hers as an implement of MY pleasure.

Yes, I'm just rationalising because I like to have my arse fucked. What of it?

*giggles* talk about pure gold! lol Love it~

[denuseri]

OMG (whispers) the name of Wylds love in his ear while i strap my monster anal invader on!!! (winks)

luv ya boo, now bend over please sir so i can F#@% that bueatiful bottom of yours like only a submissive can. lol

Gasps!! And I swear there was a book called Dildotrix of Gor somewhere?

[samm]

But, as regards the subbie using a dildo- that can still be a submissive thing.

It sure is when a Domme lets her male sub wear a strapon and then uses the strapon to climax instead of her subbies equipment. So why couldn't it be a submissive thing?

But to answer the TS, I'd say that giving oral as a dominant is perfectly acceptable for teasing, rewarding or for the Dom(me)s own pleasure as many have already said here.
It doesn't mean that the Dom(me) can't demand his/her sub to give oral to them to get their pleasure out of using their sub.

[LadyAznTiger13]

It sure is when a Domme lets her male sub wear a strapon and then uses the strapon to climax instead of her subbies equipment. So why couldn't it be a submissive thing?

LOL amazing samm.. I'm gonna have to use that idea =p

[WyldWyl]

I always aim to entertain whilst I make a point, TOV.

And as for you, Denu...-runs away. fast-

[denuseri]

shakes my nuaghty finger at cha sir, and chases you with my strap on bobbing like a real erection lmao

[AdrianaAurora]

I'm curious on thoughts for this one.

What is your take on giving oral as a dominant? Should it be done? Is it a "special occasion" thing for you, simply a "whenever works", or a never?

Depends on a submissive and people involved. For me it was very difficult to accept it, to give up control so much that I become aroused beyond anything else to center me. On more than one occasion, I was threatened and on a few of those indeed tied down so He could get on with it, . Yes, I get to feel it, but it is for His pleasure. It gives Him a kick and a sense of power. Not to mention it is an ultimate torture when you are not allowed to come (without permission).

[leo9]

I'm curious on thoughts for this one.

What is your take on giving oral as a dominant? Should it be done? Is it a "special occasion" thing for you, simply a "whenever works", or a never?

As a bi dom, it depends. One of my favourite ways to dominate women is to make them come till they beg for mercy, and if I find one who responds best to oral, I'll be down on her like a cat in a bowl of cream.

But I wouldn't feel right sucking a sub's cock, and most of the malesubs I've known would agree. The equation penetration=domination is hard to get past.

[fetishdj]

It sure is when a Domme lets her male sub wear a strapon and then uses the strapon to climax instead of her subbies equipment. So why couldn't it be a submissive thing?

Perfectly agree with this. Making a sub use a dildo or a strap on could be the domme saying 'sorry, your pathetic bits are not good enough for me. To get an orgasm I need a big dildo inside me. However, if you are a good boy, I will let you wear that dildo so you are at least involved'. Its a form of degredation and humiliation. There are also humiliating gags which have dildos as part of them that the sub wears while the Mistress straddles his face. Can also be combined with queening/suffocation.

I think any form of stimulation can be a reward or even a punishment. A domme can give a male sub oral sex (very nice) but then stop if he has not performed to his best in some task or other before the climax. Spoiled orgasm is a common technique in femdom.

Also, if you have a male sub bound and helpless, you can tease him any way you like for as long as you like and make him beg for release... of course if the sub is gagged you may not hear him beg so clearly...

[AdrianaAurora]

As a bi dom, it depends. One of my favourite ways to dominate women is to make them come till they beg for mercy, and if I find one who responds best to oral, I'll be down on her like a cat in a bowl of cream.

You and Hubby must have attended the same Dom school, .

[DiablosLittleOne]

What's submissive about straddling her face, pulling and hooking her legs under my arms, and in essence turning her upside down... tormenting her all the while with my mouth but still not giving her permission to cum?

What's submissive about tying her legs wide open, stretched out and unable to move, drawing my chair up to the table... and dining?

What's submissive about suspending her by the ankles, legs apart, making her swallow me and hold on with only her lips and suction... eaten for doing so... whipped whenever she loses contact?

So many games, so little time.

*giggles*

I think I'm in love.

[Ozme52]

*giggles*

I think I'm in love.

[star_sparkle]

i love sucking His cock. i dont know who enjoys it more..me or Him

[leo9]

You and Hubby must have attended the same Dom school, .

I have to say, I can't relate to the idea of orgasm denial as a torture for femsubs. Any vanilla slob can =not= give a woman an orgasm, where's the fun in that?

[Diablo]

I quite enjoy giving oral sex and even giving foot massages.

Does this make me any less of a Dom?

Not at all, I am taking pleasure for myself and my sub is also receiving pleasure. And she knows that it is a way of me thanking her for her gift of submission as I get what I want as well. The main difference as has been said in earlier posts is in how it is done.

[AdrianaAurora]

I have to say, I can't relate to the idea of orgasm denial as a torture for femsubs. Any vanilla slob can =not= give a woman an orgasm, where's the fun in that?

LOL, I do kind of feel a little wanton or spoiled here sometimes. The concept of "cum restriction" was completely foreign to me before I came here, *huge Cheshire cat's grin* - it still is.

[Master Will Tupper]

For me, it's a dominant pleasure as much as any other. But then, I enjoy the taste of slavegirl. If she likes it, too, that's just the cherry on top of the sundae. And submissive orgasms bind her tighter than the strongest chains. So for me it's like, "Spread, sweetmeat! Dinner is served."

[Daumon]

A Dom should feel in control of himself and his charge. For me preforming oral sex with my sub is still a matter of control. I do so when I wish, how I wish to do so and either to tease or to give pleasure. A dom should not deny themself or their sub from something they both enjoy. To simple not do so for fear of diminishing ones 'image' is to admit your self image already needs real work.

For myself I enjoy teasing a sub to a nearly mindless state of pleasure and dragging that state out over a very long period of time. To savior a subs desire and need for release and their struggle for self restraint as you wish.
It is a sweet game that a talented toung can make last far lounger than almost any other method.

Daumon

[SilverWulf]

Performing oral on a girl is definitely a form of control and in no way diminishes my Domliness. I can make her cum at any time, or make her wait, and wait, and wait. I love to make a girl cum until her body just gives out completely, and then take My pleasure in other devious, twisted, and perverted ways while she lays there only moderately conscious (consensually of course), only to start again when she recovers enough to begin forming coherent thoughts. A most pleasant way to pass the weekend.

[HisKitty]

I have to agree... I was giving my Master a really slooow blow job once, really drawing it out just because it was fun and he was really enjoying himself and relaxing on the couch. And my playful-kitty side suddenly came out >_> There was inner giggling that he was like, waiting on me... and afterwards I told him how I had felt an element of control that I don't usually feel and I felt kind of bad but he said it was okay, lol. That he was enjoying me just lavishing him while he relaxed. Aaaand that kitties totally have a devious, playful side that can't help but manifest sometimes xD