MMI,

Think about this, someone comes to a group that is about D/s and shows up occasionally, only wants the sex, and never makes any effort to accept the others there for who they truly are. These are the ones that need to go home, not the dabblers. This is real life, and if you do not understand that, you do not belong here. You are new to it, and I think you are sincere in wanting to leaarn, at least you do not claim to be more than you are. But life takes time, and we are all learning, no matter how old we are.