My experience was that it started as a role play. My partner made a wild statement about something sexual she had done without me knowing, and she let me know she wanted to be punished. I went gingerly, trying not to do too much. The great part was that after it was over we sat and talked about what we liked or didn't and what we needed or didn't. I guess the advice is baby steps, like everyone else. Also, I would say suggesting a role play is easier than suggesting bondage or spanking, and, as long as you move slowly, these things can be incorporated. Hope it helps.

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