Hi Honey..........I just saw this thread.........and i know your very pain.

.......................*bangs head on keyboard*

The words I use are "if you don't want this for yourself, than its not worth my having."

Yes I see, and know all to well, the need for communication, but you are feeling that its a one way street. That your husband is not ......hearing or listening to you when it comes to your wants and needs.

We are who we are J. You are a submissive and cannot change. He is vanilla and cannot change. The question is can you meet somewhere in the middle?

I think Oz comes closest to the answer

I'm here for you if you need to talk

Thrall